For a long time (a year and a half) the person next to me has been living a very difficult life. He is only 20, and for 4 years he has been doing well on his own. He worked and studied for his secondary education at the same time, and now he combines the same 2 things again, with the difference that he is no longer a student, but a student. For 4 long years he looked after himself and supported himself with the salary he received and which essence did not get him anywhere. I have been the most faithful person in his life for a year and a half. As his girlfriend, I'm with him all the time when he's not at work or lecturing. Since then, I have witnessed a life that is difficult to lead. And whatever he does, he can't change that. There is not a gram of help from anyone, neither mom nor dad, grandparents, etc. The salary he receives is barely enough to pay his bills, to pour fuel into his car (with which he has to walk and return from work) and look after himself. For such a young man he has seen nothing good in his life so far, and his parents have left him to support himself since he was very young. It's not easy for him, nor for me, looking from the side at how hard he lives his life and how no one lends a helping hand. Every time we have a conversation about all this, I tell him that he has to tell some truths in the eyes of his parents, but he is against it because he is convinced that they will not do anything about it.
And so he does, he never tells them anything, and they, as his closest people ... know very well about their son's condition, but still they do not move their puppy to help their own child. On the contrary, they even accuse him of wasting his money and forever. But with a miserable salary of BGN 500, he cannot live "otherwise." But what can I tell you, I want to but I can't help in any way. My words always remain unheard, they are always superfluous… And so ... his life passes, and he works alone. I don't know one day how we will start a family, it is true that then we will be able to work both, but I still don't think that his parents should be so irresponsible !! So what kind of parents are these? !? And now I turn to you in the hope that you will give me advice, as experienced people! I will be very grateful to you because I really want to help him in some way, to give him a little hope and courage that things will get better. I really want to give him useful advice and make him ask for help from his irresponsible parents !!! they are always superfluous… And so ... his life passes, and he works alone.
I don't know one day how we will start a family, it is true that then we will be able to work both, but I still don't think that his parents should be so irresponsible !! So what kind of parents are these? !? And now I turn to you in the hope that you will give me advice, as experienced people! I will be very grateful to you because I really want to help him in some way, to give him some hope and courage that things will get better. I really want to give him useful advice and make him ask for help from his irresponsible parents !!! they are always superfluous…
And so ... his life passes, and he works alone. I don't know one day how we will start a family, it is true that then we will be able to work both, but I still don't think that his parents should be so irresponsible !! So what kind of parents are these? !? And now I turn to you in the hope that you will give me advice, as experienced people! I will be very grateful to you because I really want to help him in some way, to give him a little hope and courage that things will get better. I really want to give him useful advice and make him ask for help from his irresponsible parents !!!
18 So what kind of parents are these? !? And now I turn to you in the hope that you will give me advice, as experienced people! I will be very grateful to you because I really want to help him in some way, to give him some hope and courage that things will get better. I really want to give him useful advice and make him ask for help from his irresponsible parents !!! So what kind of parents are these? !? And now I turn to you in the hope that you will give me advice, as experienced people! I will be very grateful to you because I really want to help him in some way, to give him some hope and courage that things will get better. I really want to give him useful advice and make him ask for help from his irresponsible parents !!!
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"And so ... his life passes, and he works alone. I don't know one day how we will start a family, it is true that then we will be able to work both, but I still don't think that his parents should be so irresponsible !! So what kind of parents are these? !? "Darling, Annie - you're already 18, but you don't seem to realize it yet - you're an adult and your parents aren't responsible for you anymore. This also applies to your friend, but unlike him, you did not understand it. Well done to the boy - he is obviously a man on the spot! However, you are still hovering in the clouds. What family with him is chasing you at the age of 18 - a schoolboy and a student? What kind of parents are chasing you to look after and feed your children? Understand at last that we live in the 21st century. Your parents don't owe you anything either - you'll feed your family alone with your husband one day, but until then 10 years will pass - you have to study, work, save some money. How do you think these things? How else can you help the man next to you? Well, don't handle him for money and gifts, don't interfere in his life and don't scold him for his parents. The boy is doing very well and one day a man can start a family with such a man, because he is used to achieving everything on his own, to be hardworking and responsible, and one day a woman can rely on such a man. If you want to be this woman, as long as you are pampered, and GROW UP, find a job at least for an hour, because men like him do not respect their mother's daughters in the long run, but find women with a character like themselves. My husband and I, for example, both moved out of your families at your age, we worked and studied in parallel, we started a business together, we bought a home and started a family and honestly we don't understand the mother's daughters and sons. Everything is achieved with a lot of work and discipline, not with the bear services of mom and dad. Our parents did not help us with BGN 1, for which we are grateful. Well done to the boy! Few such men remained.