Hello! Some time ago I was constantly told that I was fat. These insults at a very early age remain a mark for a lifetime and it bothers me. Now, no matter how many times I have been told that I am completely normal (1-58 - 56 kg), I just don't believe it, I accept it as lubrication. In every conversation that has nothing to do with weight, I find a note of their existence. For example, my friend tells me how cool a chick is. The first thing I think is that my body will never be like hers. Some time ago I had another good relationship. I failed her with the thought that I was fat and he deserved something better. I'm afraid it will happen now ... I trust the person next to me, I know perfectly well that he loves me, but I don't just want that. Seeing what body he finds perfect, I punish myself. I want the person next to me to really like me, with my whole being, but before that I must accept myself. I will not forget the words of my friend "I love chocolate, but I also like honey". Chocolate - playmates with a small ass, honey - me with a gorgeous peach. These words hurt me a lot. Please no attacks on my weight. I know I need to lose weight - I've been on a diet and exercising all my life - both hungry and obese. I'm tired. I want to accept myself and love myself as I am. I am aware that no one is perfect. I wonder how you learn to love your imperfections, to accept them? How can I stop comparing myself to chocolate and love honey? How can I accept that I am honey without hurting me? Chocolate - playmates with a small ass, honey - me with a gorgeous peach. These words hurt me a lot. Please no attacks on my weight. I know I need to lose weight - I've been on a diet and exercising all my life - both hungry and obese. I'm tired. I want to accept myself and love myself as I am. I am aware that no one is perfect. I wonder how you learn to love your imperfections, to accept them? How can I stop comparing myself to chocolate and love honey? How can I accept that I am honey without hurting me? Chocolate - playmates with a small ass, honey - me with a gorgeous peach. These words hurt me a lot. Please no attacks on my weight. I know I need to lose weight - I've been on a diet and exercising all my life - both hungry and obese. I'm tired. I want to accept myself and love myself as I am. I am aware that no one is perfect. I wonder how you learn to love your imperfections, to accept them? How can I stop comparing myself to chocolate and love honey? How can I accept that I am honey without hurting me? that no one is perfect. I wonder how you learn to love your imperfections, to accept them? How can I stop comparing myself to chocolate and love honey? How can I accept that I am honey without hurting me? that no one is perfect. I wonder how you learn to love your imperfections, to accept them? How can I stop comparing myself to chocolate and love honey? How can I accept that I am honey without hurting me?
1 bigboyballs2121 answered
The following technique worked for me. From time to time, when you can be alone with yourself (maybe when you go to bed, but before you go to sleep), relax, close your eyes and think "I like / accept / love the way I am", maybe and in front of the mirror as you look into each other's eyes. Then concentrate on the thought itself, not the words. But concentrate like that, as if there is no one in the world and nothing but this thought. Don't ask yourself questions like "do I really like it, will it help?" Just concentrate on that thought. 5-10 minutes a day will be very useful. The first days you may not succeed, your thoughts will probably be distracted, but later it will start to work and then you will spontaneously feel very good - you will feel joy and trembling in your solar plexus. At first you will only feel it, while doing the technique, but then the feeling will become permanent and you will become a new, more confident and pleasant person. This also works in other situations - when you want to achieve something (for example "I have a good job / a happy relationship"). It just works on motivation and self-acceptance and the results are better than personal experience. But he does it only out of love and respect for himself, out of a desire to build something, to achieve something in his life, then he has the greatest power. Everyone deserves to feel happy in their skin. Don't do it to rub someone's nose and get it back to fate, for example.