Girls, how do you express your sympathies when you are not sure that the one you like falls for women? I would. Only 3 people know it, no one else would have guessed. My style is quite feminine (dresses with ruffles and skirts to the ground), my two serious relationships so far have unfortunately been with men ... So the people around me do not even think that I like women, but it turns out that this can be a huge minus. A year ago I met a girl at work. We became friends very quickly, she started dating my company. I've never been so close to anyone before, we see each other all the time, we laugh, we share. The problem is that I sank hard on it and I don't know what to do. On the one hand, she is the nicest and best person I know. I don't want to lose her (as a friend) because of some of my own, impossible thrill. On the other hand, I have never had such strong feelings for someone. When I'm around her, I can barely contain myself from hugging her, kissing her, and never letting her go. Sometimes it seems to me that she is flirting with me - casual touches, deep looks, jokes. But she can just joke, her character is like that ... open and warm to everyone. At times like this, I say to myself, "Forget it, she's straight ... After all, her ex-boyfriends are all men." But then I remember that they and mine are like that. About the option to tell her that I fall in love with women or that I'm in love with her: not a word. She'll decide I'm going crazy for her. I don't want to be like a predator in her eyes. I know how nasty it is for someone to be your friend and suddenly have back thoughts. You start thinking that he revolved around you just to get you into bed (it happened to me with male friends). Even if this is not the case, you always feel a little disappointed and deceived. And in this case, I'm hiding a pretty big secret (after all, she thinks I'm straight all year) and the risk is huge. How do I know if I have a chance? What signals should I look for? And if I don't, how can I continue to be her friend without acting like a stump? How do you deal with such situations?
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Go out for a bar or dinner one night as a woman. Or invite her to your house. Drink wine and confess. If you see that the reaction is not okay, you can always justify yourself with alcohol.