Hi, I'm an 18-year-old girl. My story dates back to my early childhood when I was in kindergarten. There was a boy who was constantly pulling me, insulting me, etc. They enrolled him earlier in the first grade so I got rid of him, I saw life. Then I became a first-grader, he had gone to a city with his parents, everything was quiet until I was a sixth-grader and he came back. He quickly found friends, of course, he was the type of guy everyone wanted to hang out with, otherwise, they lost popularity. He hated everyone, mostly me, and my girlfriends. For two years I put up with him insulting me, pretending not to hear him, not paying attention to him to stop, but NO. Our city is small, if you see me on the streets it starts with the insults, of course, I used to retaliate. Then we both moved to different schools. He diligently continued to insult me, and that gave him pleasure. I have tried in every way to talk to him - in front of his friends when he starts insulting me I tell him to stop and I try to get along with him as a person he pretends to be very great in front of them and does not perceive anything.
I scolded him many times on Skype, he kept saying that he liked it that way, I deserved it, and when I asked him what he said: "by being stupid". Then I tried to make friends with him, we wrote to each other at night until morning about different things, but if he saw me and if he was with his friends, the insults would naturally rain down. One day I got tired, I burst into tears, he didn't understand, of course, I told him a lot of things about how I felt all the time. He didn't care. After a while, he stopped. We pretended to be strangers. See you soon. It started again with new insults. I was fat, ugly, I couldn't take a look, my hair didn't look like anything. And when someone hears it, he sits and looks at me, because none of this is TRUE! I may be a little full, but I'm not ugly, people have told me more than once, not to mention that my hairdresser herself says that my hair is beautiful.
And so when he sees me somewhere in the city or at a coffee in front of EVERYONE, he starts insulting me, throwing playful phrases like "eat well today" and understand me, I can't take it anymore, I feel like sinking to the bottom of the earth when I felt all the eyes staring at me when he opened his mouth. I'm just ashamed to go out now, and there is not much choice where to go in this city, we will always find each other, and I do not want to hide. I talked to him recently on the subject, the old song in a new voice - he is bored, he wants to laugh at something with his friends, I deserve this attitude because I was fat; oh No logic!
He says I can't make him stop, he'll do whatever he wants I can't stop him. And worst of all, he's right. I can't stop him. I can't even tell someone "go talk to him, lady, leave him" because he will gather his friends and in the end, the man will suffer for me. I don't know how to talk to him anymore, I went to him that day to try to stop him, he started insulting me even more, and his friends got involved. I don't know what to do, I won't complain to my parents to talk to him .. I'm 18, I think it's time to fix myself, but How? What to do? I can't get along with this man, and I don't want rumors to spread about me again because of him. Please tell me what to do.
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