Third Child - For Or Against?

   In your case, definitely FOR. It is not true that people with three children were not looked upon favorably. It's just that people who create children without basic conditions are not well looked after. We are also wealthier than average and we are expecting a third child - quite planned, and for my husband this child will be the fifth, because he has two older sons from his first marriage (over 20 years). It is a great joy for the whole family and it is a bit of a routine to have a baby at home :) At the age of 35 you are at a great age besides. You are both young and have experience and routine in looking after children. Every psychologist will confirm to you that three children look best and is best for all children. Besides, with this abortion you will be mentally and physically damaged - if you want Nature, God, Providence has given you a third child, you can afford it - why not? Even more, that soon your older child will go to study somewhere and you will be left with a child who creates egoists. Still, consult with your husband, make this decision together, but do not worry about the reaction of society - once you have the means to look after a third child, everyone will greet you and be happy for you, including your children, it is good, most already for the little one, who will only have the opportunity to be poop or daddy, and for the bigger one it means additional joy, because he will get the opportunity for new tasks in the family, for new recognition if you want success and hopefully keep the baby. I wish you a Happy New Year to increase your family with another member, and you in your area can safely work from home or take a wife to help you for a few hours a day. I don't believe my father minds. Usually women are panicking,

   Absolutely for! How do you feel exhausted at 35? !! This is a great age and the news is great, which should charge you only with positive energy, and during the holidays there should be only positive emotions, so no thoughts of abortion and the like!

   Well, if you're good with money, you can afford to hire staff - a woman to clean and a woman to deal only with the baby, and you will only wander between them - both to control them and to pay little or little attention of the new baby. You will qualitatively allow yourself to lie down, oh, and you will send the one where she will clean to shop for you according to a list you have prepared anyway. Everything will be fine :)

   I am a man your age, single. Many of my friends already have a third child. Personally, it is very difficult for me that I don't have it and it seems that this happiness will not come to me. I know from my friends that the 3rd child is the easiest to look after, because they already have two assistants who like to play poop and dad. Good luck!!!

   You didn't look after another child, you think about it, I don't know what ... It sounds to me like "should I keep him ... but shouldn't I remove him, because I don't seem to care?". It's as if human life is just some thing / toy that you don't care about. If I accidentally mistaken your intentions, I apologize. Of course you have to keep the baby. And what does it mean "people with more than 2 children were not well looked after". I hear such simplicity for the first time, and not to live for human opinion? !! My cousin became a father at a very young age, if I'm not mistaken at 18. His third child was born when he was about 38-40 years old if I'm not mistaken. A very happy father has 3 children, one of whom is a big man already. Apparently I'm kind of old-fashioned, and I just can't understand abortion and the thought of "should I hold it back" at all. Unless we are talking about a dangerous pregnancy, fetal problem, etc. And at 35. you are not that old. Many women give birth at the age of 40, and their children are completely healthy.

   I personally would not and 2 years ago I removed the third child. Not because of financial problems or because people will say something. I just don't have the nerve to have a baby again. My children are relatively old and I don't want to go back again. I want to travel, go out, live, work. I'm tired of watching someone all my life.

   Don't ask people - they won't live with your choice. Listen to yourself, your desires, your dreams - play the different options - see yourself after 5 years, after 10, after 15 - with and without a child. You know each other best and only you can make the right decision for YOU. There is nothing right or wrong here - see what will make you happier. The socially acceptable option is not always the best for us.

   What a life it is, some people are happy to have a child, and others are wondering if and how to kill it !!! What a pity

   This is a personal choice, only you can decide for yourself. I would advise you not to pay attention to people's tales, what does it matter how "people" look?

   If you can afford it, don't hesitate at all! If I didn't have financial problems, I would have a third or even a fourth, but unfortunately I can't afford more than two children and it's not easy for us. Kids are the best thing and the more, the better! Success!

   For! Especially when a baby is on the way!

   keep it ... unless it is very difficult to raise ... But I think that the child will be very happy for you and your current hesitations will be absurd when you see him ... g. 23

   How can you even point out as an argument with what eye families with more than 2 children were looked at possibly ???? What does it matter for some people to be born and live a new human being? On the other hand, you have a financial opportunity. My mother gave birth to me at 42 just to insert you and she is very happy with the fact. I also have a sister. In my opinion, this man has the right to live, just as you gave this chance to your other children, so it has the right after you become pregnant.

   Ma'am, it's not true that people with three children have a bad eye. In our neighborhood I have seen several families with three children. As for the decision to talk and take it with your husband, and not to consult outsiders, these things are decided entirely in the family! If you feel ready, keep the child, if you do not have an abortion, but if you keep it, it will be even easier for you after you have already gone this way twice and you know what is separate, you will have things from older children, you judge with your husband it depends on both of you how you will act!

   №7 has given you the right advice. Read it again. An unplanned pregnancy at your age and with a permanent partner is pure irresponsibility. In fact, she is at any age. In your place, I would consider only myself - you will mainly take care of the baby, the little kid and the teenager. This is pure madness - emotionally and physically you will not endure. It's not worth it. Listen to yourself and what YOU want. See yourself really in 3-5 10 years and make the right decision for you. ж47

   n 15, f47 - I don't think she understood that the Author is 12 years younger than you? Why shouldn't a 35-year-old woman have the energy for a picky child when she has already seen two quite successfully and come to life? My mother-in-law has three sons - all unplanned. She first became pregnant before marriage, the next pregnancy was also unplanned and she became pregnant during breastfeeding when she did not have a regular cycle, and her last child (my husband) gave birth to him at the age of 39-40, after she had already had one. abortion a month ago and there was no way to do another. She looked after all her children with pleasure and care, but my husband, who is the most unplanned, was looked after best, simply because his parents had more time and maturity for him. Their first sons were punished, sometimes even because they were very naughty, and with my husband they had a very different patience and views already. For example, they went with him on tent vacations and until recently they were among the young parents. They have great photos and experiences. Needless to say, the third is the most successful of the three brothers, but to this day the trim are like ass and panties and we get together as a family whenever possible. So unplanned children are not poison exactly in a stable family with a stable income man. Hardly any of us are planned. Most of us aren't planned anyway, because people didn't have the current contraceptive options in the past, but so what? I was planning my first two children, and the third just worked out and I'm not sorry. I told my husband and he was very happy - we will not travel empty with our five-seater car. :), and if I get pregnant again, we'll keep it again - there are seven-seater cars in the end. Every next child is the easiest to look after - you have not only most things already, but also the routine, the attempt to look after children. The third child is the easiest to look after. My husband has a total of 5 children and he has enjoyed each one, he pays great attention to each one according to his needs and although he has a lot of success in business and in life, it is his children who give him the most pleasure and even have grown up and separated. great thrill - they write to each other constantly on Viber, they come to visit us for a long time, we spend and organize our holidays together, they help with the babies. As long as we were forever yesterday. Today we have all the freedoms, including having 2 children, and society looks with good eyes on all children as long as you have the means for their basic needs, and so much money does not cost a child in the end. Three children are also great, because they fit exactly in a normal car :) You will just be tuti sets. Think about it ..., Author. Soon the big one will "fly away", you will start sharpening and your family nest will be emptied, and with this baby you will be a young mother again and especially your younger child will have a friend for games, quarrels and growing up together. Good luck whatever you decide. ... ... abortion is otherwise the easiest, but you decide whether you will be able to live not only with the physical but also with the mental consequences of it and whether you will not be haunted until the last hour by this "What would happen if I had given birth to this child ... ”Well, you will never understand and meet the person you carry in you if you abort. Who knows - he may be a great joker, he may be a great lover, he may be Miss Bulgaria 2035 or the new Einstein ... or it could just be another person who loves you unconditionally and is by your side until your last hour. Think a little about what we leave behind. For example, at work, when you retire after 2 years, they will not remember you, and to build 100 houses when you leave will still not remember you, but only children and their children will keep the memory of you forever and not only. this, but also your genes, your blood, your character, even the features of your face and your oddities! By aborting you abort yourself, but also your husband and your union. Think a little about this question. You have already raised 2 children - does the third scare you? Who is afraid of children not to give birth at all. Anyone who has raised 2 children has already gone through the worst and has nothing to fear. The third is seen imperceptibly, because you are not harnessed for nonsense at all, and you will have help from your older child. Good luck whatever you decide. The decision must be yours, and we here can only say pros and cons, but people are right that you will live with your decision, not us. However, you should not worry about the reaction of others, because I promise you that it will be positive and you can even impose a new "fashion" among the people around you, who are also wondering. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of people rolled around next to us for a second child, and one is thinking about a third now, because his wife is 40 years old and this is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. The decision must be yours, and we here can only say pros and cons, but people are right that you will live with your decision, not us. However, you should not worry about the reaction of others, because I promise you that it will be positive and you can even impose a new "fashion" among the people around you, who are also wondering. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of people rolled around next to us for a second child, and one is thinking about a third now, because his wife is 40 years old and this is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. The decision must be yours, and we here can only say pros and cons, but people are right that you will live with your decision, not us. However, you should not worry about the reaction of others, because I promise you that it will be positive and you can even impose a new "fashion" among the people around you, who are also wondering. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of people rolled around next to us for a second child, and one is thinking about a third now, because his wife is 40 years old and this is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. and we here can only say arguments for and against, but the people are right that you will live with your decision, not us. However, you should not worry about the reaction of others, because I promise you that it will be positive and you can even impose a new "fashion" among the people around you, who are also wondering. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of people rolled around next to us for a second child, and one is thinking about a third now, because his wife is 40 years old and this is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. and we here can only say arguments for and against, but the people are right that you will live with your decision, not us. However, you should not worry about the reaction of others, because I promise you that it will be positive and you can even impose a new "fashion" among the people around you, who are also wondering. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of us were curled up for a second child, and one is thinking about a third, because his wife is 40 years old and it is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. However, you should not worry about the reaction of others, because I promise you that it will be positive and you can even impose a new "fashion" among the people around you, who are also wondering. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of people rolled around next to us for a second child, and one is thinking about a third now, because his wife is 40 years old and this is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. However, you should not worry about the reaction of others, because I promise you that it will be positive and you can even impose a new "fashion" among the people around you, who are also wondering. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of people rolled around next to us for a second child, and one is thinking about a third now, because his wife is 40 years old and this is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of us were curled up for a second child, and one is thinking about a third, because his wife is 40 years old and it is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least. Among my husband's friends, for example, a lot of us were curled up for a second child, and one is thinking about a third, because his wife is 40 years old and this is their last chance. You, Author, are young, but now if you have an abortion you know that you will never be a mother again - this is your last chance for motherhood. You decide, but if you have an abortion, tell them to cut off your tubes and it's over, because obviously you don't want to have children anymore and don't bother yourself and your husband with new abortions at least.

   Number 16, I did not understand the logic - what does age have to do with this, in your opinion, a woman should give birth tightly, while physically it is possible to seal her time as much as possible and not have wasted eggs? The author says to herself that she does not know if she has the strength to go through this again and does not deal with diapers once again. She has fulfilled her role, she has fulfilled what society expects of her - now she has a choice. I find the examples from your mother-in-law's daily life and her unplanned pregnancies absolutely inappropriate - the times are different and the opportunities for the modern woman are also a little different. The fact that you have chosen to follow your grandmother and feel happy about your fact is your choice, not a generally valid rule, another can make completely different things happy.

   I agree! I don't know why you were left with the impression that in Bulgaria families with more children are looked down upon hahaha. I just want to tell you that if you and your husband have the desire and ability to raise this child, don't even think about it!

   Please don't remove it! You are 35. A wonderful age. My sister gave birth to her second child at 36. You also have the opportunity to watch it. What more is wanted. Your husband and he are FOR. You are neither old nor irresponsible. I hope you give life to the little man and I wish you happiness from the bottom of my heart. Please write what consolation you took. Whatever it is.

   Given that you are already pregnant, I am FOR .... And my children are 10 years apart and I gave birth to the first at 22 years old. Sometimes I think how nice it would be to have a third child. The big one has already moved out, got married and is living on his own ... But for me it's too late - I'm 48 and you're 35 ... and you're pregnant - there's nothing to think about. What, do you have an abortion - don't. They will have a 5-year difference with the little one, which is not bad, and if you can afford it financially, what could be better. And what they would say about people, how do you even care about that. In the west (we live in England) people have at least 3 children, and my daughter's girlfriend has 4. You already have experience and other children's things ... and the big ones will help. You will hire a woman to come and help you with the household and you will push the baby period. The big one will leave you in a few years ... and the house will become more empty. ... When I read such topics, one of them happens to me ... My sister has been trying to get pregnant for several years and it still doesn't happen and it doesn't happen. Her soul is thirsty for a child, but she can't ... And what god gave ...

   "Bulgaria is not looked upon as a good eye by people with more than 2 children" - This is complete nonsense. If you have the love, desire, strength, support, and ability to love and raise another child, do it. Your husband wants it, you think about it, and think about your other children. There is no better gift than a beloved brother or sister.

   №16, I see that the author is 35 years old. However, raising a child is not just about physical effort and others are more dangerous. The author herself says that she feels emotionally exhausted. My comment is aimed at this ageless fatigue. You don't seem to read or understand? №15

   I would not give birth to a third child and not for financial reasons. It's just that at 35 (I'm almost that old) my nerves are already quite tense and I don't think I would have the strength and patience to watch a baby again. However, you judge for yourself if you are sure that you will be a good and radiant mother, and not a ball of nerves that will scream forever after the child-born. People think that only finances are an obstacle to having many children, but in fact this is far from the case. It's just that now life is much more tense and dynamic and a person wears out very quickly mentally. It is enough to walk to any garden to see such mothers. Writing cigarette after cigarette, staring at the phone and ready to shout at the child at the slightest occasion. A real nightmare for both mother and child. However, if you're sure you're not going to be that type of mother,

   I would not give birth in your place, because of the big difference that will be between the first and the third child. Otherwise, you are young at the age, but I don't think it would be appropriate to have a 15-year difference between the children.

   For. Good luck, darling! :-) Emanuela 25y ..

   The author Thanks for all the answers, I got everything I needed to make my decision. The baby is a fact and I don't think I will have an abortion, I will keep it. Kaka already knows, she is happy and from now on she starts to teach us that she will choose the name and she will walk it outside: D We shared with my and my husband's parents and they are happy that they will become grandparents again and even we were told that we had doubts and hesitations about whether to keep him. The little boy still doesn't understand anything, but he will certainly be happy that he will have company, not just how to argue with him, that bothers him: D In fact, the fact that the baby is unplanned does not make him unwanted. will be as loved and cared for as the other two. A babysitter or babysitter is also a very wonderful and good idea. We have the opportunity and we can rent. Thank you very much for everything!

   God, my friend gave birth at 43 to a government job and an unemployed man. They have the most beautiful daughter and they are so happy!

   I was very happy with the post (26) of the author. What a wonderful event for a woman is the birth of a new life, that's why it was created. It is a pity that the most disgusting comment, that of №6, was given many points. Here is the proof why Bulgaria is melting. Because the selfishness of a soulless woman who thinks only of herself, but does not want to give life to another being who also experiences the sweetness of life, is approved. They can fuck like bitches, and when it came time to give birth, they were very tired !? From what, from a lot of sex? We really wanted this "supposedly democracy", and it brought reluctance to give birth, led to heartlessness. Todor Zhivkov was a simple peasant, but he cared about the birth rate, that's why Bulgaria swelled, many children were born. Mothers with more than 3 children were privileged, they were heroines, they traveled everywhere for free. Now "

   Number 28, how many children do you have? So that it doesn't turn out that you are an old bachelor who doesn't even have one, but he likes to give wisdom and teach the younger ones how this should be, that should be. So tell me personally, how many children did you raise? Or you just talk by heart.

   Урааааа! Author, I hug you very much. I'm glad you decided to raise your baby. I wish you and your whole family immeasurable happiness and good health!