It is unlikely that the posts on the topic of infidelity will stop and maybe this is natural - infidelity is probably inherent in nature. Sometimes it leads to tragedies, other times to exciting exotics, I do not undertake to recommend or forbid it. I just want to share some personal observations on how to prevent it when it would obviously lead to unpleasant consequences. My recommendation is simple: purposefully create a habit when we are at home, next to our partner, to turn the attitude "at home" to the attitude "in front of people". We are used to "in front of people", to dress in nice clothes, to bathe and perfume, to clean our shoes, etc. And why not do the same at home, in front of and for our partner - he is ours. special person Why are outsiders more special than him / her? Yes, home is the place to relax and be yourself. And then, why not be (or transform) yourself this particular person who tries to look his best, like at the beginning of the relationship? For example, if you are a woman, why not reverse the usual behavior in the following way: when you go out, do not think about how you look more than the level of "decent", and when you go home to your husband, to devote all that attention and time, how exactly to adjust, how exactly to dress, how exactly to put on make-up, especially for him, and not to be a one-time pleasant surprise, but your usual approach in a home environment? Why don't you dress as well as you would at a special dinner with your husband when you go out with company. Why not keep the energy of consciousness in search of the most voluptuous, provocative, an over-elegant look just for him, not for the mass audience? Similarly, have you ever wondered how you talk to your boss at work and how you talk to your husband at home? If every time you come from inside to shout and mutter to him, you think about how you would react in such a situation to your boss and, accordingly, you speak exactly like that, isn't your relationship to have a much better basis? The same, of course, applies to men - why not be at home as "beaten" and sophisticated as at a business meeting or when you meet a nice new colleague at work? Why not approach with the same sober judgment and emotional stability in domestic conflicts that you would approach in some professional negotiations for which you have been specially prepared? (Etc., let the ladies add, because I am a man and I do not have their point of view. ) Neglected attitude towards the partner, whether we are talking about appearance or communication, creates preconditions for infidelity, just as neglected attitude towards the body creates preconditions for diseases. In order for this not to happen, we can step on our ready-made habit of behaving in front of outsiders.
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Correct. I would not cheat, because I respect the person next to me, and I have no desire. Nor would I take revenge on someone with infidelity if he did, because that is disrespect to myself. People do not understand that they love each other very much until they lose the person next to them. And it's not true that love goes away with time, that's what people who don't really love say. I have been in love for 5 years and I am still in love, and there is a thrill. When two people talk to each other, anything can be resolved. Infidelity is not normal for me, but there are all kinds of people. Most beautiful thing in the world is true and pure love.