I recently met some girls from my best friend's group. At least for me, she is a best friend, because we have known each other since childhood and we have been friends for 12 years.
Whenever we see each other, we will quarrel over something. Rather, she will start to tease me about my shortcomings (which are that I am bored and have nothing to talk to her about, that I am confused in my talk out of fear and I have totally confused her because she also has anger problems. she starts calling me (she personally told me that there are some) or just that when I'm with her groups, or I'm silent or I say something stupid and everyone looks at me like I'm crazy), but we get along and behave as if nothing has happened. Our people don't like her because they think terrible things about her, but without these arguments our friendship is good. She is a real friend, only I have the feeling that we have both secretly come to terms with the fact that we are not best friends because of our huge differences.
Let's go back to the group. We met some of them, but because of everything that is happening at the moment, we can only communicate on Instagram. And I know that now there will be comments like "What happened to today's friendships? It all ends with a block.", "Once they ignored her and come on, all her friends are fake." And unfortunately, the times are such that friendships end like this. and the way people write to you to find out if they're happy or if it's all about you.
So there is a girl from the group, whose name begins with LL is kind, in these group chats when someone is sad she gives unique advice. Some write about how she should become a psychologist. She and I are not exactly friends, because I don't talk to her much. I decided to write to her. Because I know that she has a lot of friends, unlike me, I agreed that she will answer me later. Answer me the next day. We wrote to each other a bit and then I waited for her for 2 weeks to see my message. He saw it and we wrote to each other. We didn't write interesting things, just "hello", "what are you doing" and that's it. She once wrote to me, "Look, our chats are a little boring, relax and write me whatever you want, I won't judge you." Yes, I thought our chats were boring, but knowing how hard it is for me to make friends because I don't know-how, her advice turned out to be helpless. I was always the first to write and our chats were still 5 minutes after which she stopped fading, but I saw her uploading stories with other friends. Once on March 16 we wrote about fake friendships and she wrote me exactly about how she wants real friends like me and a boy named D. This guy is nice to me and I like him a little to admit, but that's not the point. And if I'm a real friend, that means she cares about me, and why do I have to start the conversations first and why do I have to wait for days for her to answer watching her upload the story and watch mine, I even like the photos, but I can't he writes to me. I once wrote to her on March 20 and she answered me on March 27 and wrote "I'm sorry to answer only now" and I said "No problem. What are you doing? How are you?" And she still hasn't answered me. I'm tired of constantly watching her upload stories, how she watches my stories, and likes my photos while I'm here for 3 weeks waiting for her to answer me. Like I don't like him telling me. To tell me what to change in myself and how not to make me feel insecure.
I was going to write about the others in the group, but I realized that it would be like writing what I wrote a while ago.
My best friend is like that too, but she's different. Our friendship is ... Abe, I try not to describe it with this modern "toxic", but I can't find the right word. I have had an online girlfriend for 5 years and she would never do this to me because I got to know her well.