They Think I'm Too Small!

   Study, apply far away and there you will have some freedom while studying. I was also very limited and it was pointless for me. Be reasonable, otherwise try to have a personal life, albeit a diskette.

   Tell your mother that at this age it is normal to have a boyfriend. Talk about it and try to understand why she doesn't want you to have a boyfriend.

   For 16 years it is good to have a boyfriend if you kiss and hold hands but no more. Maybe your mother has some fear for you? Have your mother have an early abortion? Talk to her, you're women after all! There are people from earlier years who start with boyfriends and sex and all 16 years are more or less good. The man is 17 years old, your difference is very small, which is also talking to his mother, AS A MAN, and ask her why she does NOT want to have a friend so much. Do others around you have boyfriends? White angel

   My girlfriend is 16, she is adopted and has only a mother. I'm older than her and her mother is against our relationship, but we're still together. I told her she was free to end our relationship when she decided. Tell your that you have the same "powers" can help.

   Enough with these boyfriends aged 15-16. What time do you want to go home? This generation has completely lost its temper. At 12-13 you passed two or three of them, at 16 you already consider yourself a mature person, you grumble against your parents and what not. I fully support your parents! Kitty

   Ask the school psychologist, class teacher or other teacher who can help you in this case. I am looking for help from competent people and institutions, those who can really help you with actions.

   To reassure you, I will tell you that girls in Turkey are not allowed to turn 26. When they pass 20, they marry someone and if he allows - you go out, if he doesn't allow - you don't go out. So there are worse than you. When you turn 18, they will let you everywhere.

   17 years old, kind, polite and polite in one sentence ... sounds like an excerpt from "Baron Munchausen". And your mother is right - it's too early for your boyfriends. After a day, your hormones will increase and he will ask for sex, you will make him happy, because "you are already big and you can do such things", then you will get pregnant and I guess you will look after the child again, not your mother and father. you. Well, some big 16-year-old (and younger) mothers throw their babies in the trash, while others shake them at their grandparents. Behavior of "big" people. Nobody makes you wait until you're 30, but couldn't you wait until at least 18 for this "gadget"? 2 years no longer spoils the fun, you will even get smarter and you will be more responsible than you are now. And love is love - now and then. Either she has it or she doesn't, but it doesn't depend on age. In general, nowadays having a boyfriend has become an occasion for competitions and proving that you are big enough. Even if they don't admit it, most young people inside want to prove how good they are or to be ahead of the others. And this is a mistake - if you go like that, nothing good is waiting for you.

   My mother married the author at the age of 19, but after 2-3 years of marriage she divorced. About how much I want to be outside, at least until 21:00, especially in winter, when it gets dark at 18:00. All my friends have boyfriends and their parents don't mind. I myself do not feel ready for sex and I will not be soon. I will seek help from the school psychologist! Thank you very much!

   You say you're not ready for sex yet and you won't be ready soon. Then why do you want to be free until 21.00 in the evening - 3 hours in the dark. And in the summer when the weather is warm you will probably want to be free for up to 24 hours. Why don't you date boys during the day, isn't that enough for you? And how will you respond if you fall in love with your boyfriend and he insists on having sex. Will you refuse him? If he tells you, if you don't want to, you don't love me. There is another thing, once you start kissing and coloring you young girls you lose your mind and you can not resist the temptation. How will you prevent getting pregnant? Will you take contraceptives! Or you will carry condoms for him in your pocket. You were in a hurry, girls, wait a minute, turn 18 and then look for a boyfriend.

   White Angel, if you're talking about minority girls, it means yes - starting at an "earlier age with sex and boyfriends and everything else" is perfectly normal! To the author - if you're with your boyfriend, just because the girls around you, to one are "busy", and you're doing your mother a disservice, I have nothing to say. If you want to get married at 18, then have time for a second marriage. In the winter, stay outside all night ... If you want to complain to your parents about the social issues, get out of you, and you will live with a well-mannered and kind lover in peace. Total degradation! Kitty

   From the author I'm not with my boyfriend's friend (if it were like that we wouldn't part at all) and I didn't say I wanted to be out all night. But my parents don't even let me go to birthdays, movies or parties if it's getting dark. What I want is a little freedom and privacy. Many thanks to White Angel and others for the advice they gave me.

   People, the truth is clear to all of us, and it is that the author's mother is just one of the women who think they fucked their lives when they gave birth at the age of 19 ... And that's why this woman is now overly controlling. I want to share with you something from my teenage (I'm 29 now). Because, those who limit them the most are most likely to fuck their future, to number 11, that's right. At the age of 16 when we were my peers, we were all out at most until about 10 in the week, if we are the first shift of school, and if we are the second - until about 11-12. But we came home sooner because we had to go to school the next day, not because of an hour. In summer, most of us (at least those who went out together) did not have it! night hour. Except for 2 peers. One summer he had to go home at 9 in the evening, he had a friend, who was sending her to them, and I and my people, who were just going out then, kept watching them go down (none of us still had a serious friend, only a few dumps, most of us were virgins, including I). This girl was an excellent student. Very nice, isn't it. They broke up with this friend ... they outgrew each other. She was also an excellent student at the university. She was found by a neighbor of mine, 8 years older, a full womanizer, but of those who want their official wife to be congested and HABITABLE to LISTEN. And what could be more appropriate than someone who is totally controlled and limited by her parents - so she finds something like salvation in having a serious friend ... I remember how with this second one, because a neighbor and everything is known - his brother and I have been friends since we were little, so he takes her to them (yes to his parents) and then at some point it is time to send her away, because she is already 18, she has even become a student, but there is still evening time. So he sends her away, comes back, recovers and goes out to be * e ... (his brother says to me: 'Wow, my brother sent his wife to them, he came home, took a bath and said to me:' Hey, I'm going yes e * a '') well yes, we shared a lot with his younger brother. Now they are still together and for 2-3 years they have a child - she finally has official permission to sleep with them and generally not to give an account of her life, because you see ... she has settled down. So I go back again to tell you about the other. She had a better evening at 10 in the summer. There was a company about 10 years older than us. I personally didn't push myself with them much, because I knew 'who they are' ... and how could I not know them, as I knew almost everyone and I was always informed;) (well, our town is not very big, and that's a factor) Well, they were 25 plus years old mostly unemployed drug addicts. Well, the one at 10 o'clock in the evening, she always went to them, one of them liked her, but he didn't reflect something, so she caught up with one of his rather ugly friends - at 19 he swelled his belly (and he was at 29 and UNEMPLOYED). ). She was thinking of removing him, but they are like that - his friends dissuaded her ... they even got married! With a civil marriage and an official ceremony in our town in the center! And her plans to apply in Sofia went well. 4-5 years later he recorded what he wanted, but in a town close to ours. He started working 2 years ago. In the store cashier. And earlier this year he divorced. It's just nice to think about the harms of limiting ...