Hello! I really like the site and decided to get involved. The problem is the following ... my boyfriend and I love each other a lot, but his parents don't like me because of my problem - that I have a health problem and I can't have children. They are good people, but very demanding .... This worries me, I do not know what to do. Since I've known this for a long time, I've told my friend since the beginning of our relationship. He loves me very much though. We haven't tried a donor egg - which is my only option - to be honest, I don't risk it because my health condition doesn't allow it and my disease is hereditary. If I was healthy - yes, otherwise I want to have my own, but I can't. His parents love to have a child of their own - a grandson, but my friend and I love each other many times and he told me that he would not leave me anyway. I do not know what to do. Yes family is most important. Sometimes I think about leaving, but I can't because I love him so much. She will find another one and give birth to many children. Sometimes you leave because you love him so much - don't get me wrong. If they hold on to their own, I can't have ... I don't want him to have problems with me. We have been thinking of adopting for a long time, but again theirs do not agree. Please for opinions. Thanks!
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A good option for everyone to be happy is a surrogate mother fertilized with semen by your husband. Thus, he will be happy that the child will be from him and his parents will enjoy their own grandchild. Adoption is hardly an option since they are so demanding. I guess you won't mind having a baby, not your own, but still from your husband?
Hello, so many children are abandoned in their homes. Each of them deserves a home and love. I wish you to be very happy and to adopt a child!
Don't leave him! Don't listen to his parents you are not children In the 21st century there are so many ways, and adopted children are the best in my opinion. Live your life and love yourself once you have found such a good man, don't miss him, not with so many opportunities. Good luck
You are with him and he is with you, you have nothing to comply with theirs, he will be with you to the end once he loves you. And being a mother does not mean having a child but looking after it with a lot of love and care. He knew from the beginning as you say and if he is still with you then he loves you. Don't feel guilty because you are not, look after your life and happiness and if you adopt a child it will be a very good deed you will give a good mother to a helpless child not everyone would do it. But if you want to be good, you better separate yourself from theirs, they will only bring you unhappiness and problems.
This is your life, you decide what to do, not your parents. Your parents did it when they should have, now they have no power over you, you are great people. Yes, I understand that they are his family and he more or less complies with them, but they have no right to tell him what kind of child and from whom to have, he decides that. I'm very sorry that you have such a problem, it sucks, but what to do - you didn't want it and because there is no way to cure it, you have to accept it. If your friend loves you and wants to be with you anyway, this is important. Talk to him, tell him that you don't want him to have problems with them, what to do and decide, but don't let them determine your life and tell you what to do, because in years to come they will be gone, and if you love each other - you will be both together, the parents will no longer be there.
You will live with his parents or with him. Parents should be respected if they respect you too. If your friend knows about the problem and still supports you, then he really loves you. You may decide to adopt a child and accept it as your own, there are so many children without parents. For me, a parent is not the one who is biological, but a parent is the one who gives love, supports, cares for the child. So consider adoption.
Hello. Your adoptions. There is nothing better than a happy smile, especially if it is childish. It's very bad that you can't get pregnant, but I want to tell you one thing. IT `S YOUR LIFE. Your friend's parents can't control you forever, be yourself and adopt a little man. :)
Adopt a child. No one who grows up in homes and without parental love lives well as an adult - they all end up in prison or stay on the streets.
Do you think that if they didn't have this health problem, they would be the happiest mothers-in-law. If so, I will disappoint you. Even if you give birth to 10 children, they will still find fault with you, you are the daughter-in-law, you are the foreign child who took their son. The decision on how and where to get an heir is yours, they have no right to interfere and this bothers them the most. You have been tested and you know about your problem, they charge it to you as a complex, without examining your son whether and to what extent he is not sterile. They claim that he has no problem without being examined! Whether you have a surrogate mother or an adoptee, you don't care if he wants you the way you are. If your husband accepts his future child as his own, what do they care if they accept him as their grandson. A child will soften their hearts and you will see that if you leave them with them often to take care of him, even from a baby,
Hello, dear author! First, it is good to respect his parents and have a warm relationship, BUT nothing gives them the right to interfere in this way in your life. Yes, they want the best for their son, and that's normal, but once he decides it's you, they have to accept it too. And it's actually his job to set the limit and show them that it's not right for them to make decisions for you. You are great people, you are about to start a family together, it is more than clear that you have heads on your shoulders and you have to judge situations and act on your own. Second, let yourself feel happy and loved. Rejoice in the fact that you have managed to come across the person, especially H, who will really be with you for better or for worse. You may not be able to bear him children, but you are obviously giving him enough. Don't make the decisions for him and wonder if you should leave him, once he has decided that he wants YOU, then everything else can be arranged. Third, the family is not built on genetic material. I know it's easy to say from the side, but I really believe in it. Being a parent does not mean having a child, but growing up and giving him all your love and attention - no genes are needed for this. There are an awful lot of unhappy and abandoned children who just crave a drop of tenderness and parental care. I advise you to adopt a child, or maybe more, and raise it with a lot of love. You can't imagine what it's like to put a smile back in the eyes of a lonely and rejected child. If your friend's parents are against it, so much the worse for them, because this is your life and you have to live it the way you want!