Hello to share and readers. :) I will share a slightly strange story, but it is quite real and there are no free essays. I am a man of 34 years and I have no wife, children or girlfriend. I grew up amid scandals, financial shortages, failed parents, loss of loved ones and illness. Difficulties thwarted dreams and attempts to realize them. I will not mention these detailed. I have lived one of the hardest lives. Now, at this age, I do not look like a martyr and a man with problems. Skillfully hidden behind a shell of a fun and attractive image, the flaws are invisible to strangers. Outwardly, they vote for women, and when they get to know me, they back off. I got used to it after the first few failures. We even chat with friends and catch bass, the next one will deal with me in less than a week. My first wife in my life was 23 and I was 26. At 26, they became interested in me. They want me for sex and starting a family! The longest relationship I have had is two months, the shortest is 11 days. Now I wonder if the record will improve from 11 to 7 days. Either they will stare at me for a long time and then talk about a topic, or they will just look at me and smile for a long time, but almost every time there is success in such a dump and it comes to sex. My failures are six in number and everything lasted a short time. And because my script was clear, I missed at least twice as many opportunities. It was just clear to me that the development would be the same. My colleagues think I'm a terrible player, only I'm a bored wretch. I now run away directly from looking and talking. I don't enjoy sex or anything. I want them to stop chasing me and wanting me. According to men, I'm crazy to want such a thing. They would hardly want to have my luck. I want so badly to get drunk with a huge amount of alcohol and not wake up at all. I am raised by the whole world and hypocrisy. I do not want to lie to women that I am something else and a dream, because I am an unrealized and ordinary man. And I don't know what I want anymore. I can lie to them and act like garbage.
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At least you're honest :)
You're really honest, haha.
Stop delving into the past, now you are obviously attractive to the female audience, you don't need to talk about failures, misfortunes, past shortcomings. When you live with a woman and she is curious, then you may be able to share some details. Don't lie to them if they insist on knowing, turn away the questions, you will look mysterious and incomprehensible, which will both save you these personal topics for you and will not exhaust you by repeating the same stories. Instead, try to take an interest in and judge your interlocutors, preferably without playing comedies, but also without getting bored, wasting the acquired skills for social interactions, jokes and the image you have built. This image is yours and some people do not give anything to gain the radiance that you have achieved. We are all multi-layered beings, we do not need to part with the things that bring us positives, you are not only the strong image, but it is part of you, if it were not, it would not exist, and if it brought obstacles, then there would be a problem and accordingly terrain to resolve the situation. But with you the opposite is true, you have already achieved what many people do all sorts of nonsense, and you do not appreciate it. Do not sabotage yourself, believe in yourself and you could focus your attention on learning about human reactions, people, pain and the reasons behind hypocrisy. There is no definite plan for the development of a life, nowhere is it written that you have to start a family up to 30 years old, have a car, buy a dog, advance your career, raise children so that you are not alone like a dog in old age. (understand ...) and going to the gym, this is life according to others, mass councils, proverbs, religious precepts, and requirements were invented for society to exist as such, because most people would not be able to reach any meaning, behavior, and understanding on their own. You've seen the hypocrisy, get used to it, most people are like that, an idea over a pure trained animal. find a few people who are close to your views and grow.
Why are they running away from you? Are you misbehaving? Do you ignore them? You don't pay attention to them? I found it interesting. Alpha, w. 31
That what did you go through so much to make people shy away from you? If they really like you, they should accept you as you are. And no one lives a life without problems and difficulties. Apparently there is something else in your behavior that makes women run away from you.
You are not only bored, but also secretive ... You probably don't want to be pitied and you play some character. However, it is not good to keep all the emotions in yourself, it is dangerous. It is better to pour them out - when you find someone to share after all, you do not need to accumulate everything in yourself ... Do not let the past fucked the future
And dude, I've experienced vicissitudes like you, I'm 35, but I shouldn't take it off, otherwise with that amount and grass, etc. things I crossed the border everywhere. And waking up is better. Pull the cart firmly, the hypocrisy will not end, so don't worry, they will find the master.
Author, I'm a woman, about your age. So far I see too much passivity in you. You wait for women to want you, for them to take you down and for them to dump you. There are 10 steps between two people and everyone has to walk their 5. Probably out of low self-esteem you behave so passively and defeatistly, but you don't help yourself that way at all. The difficulties you have experienced are not a weakness or something you have to hide. On the contrary - you have experienced them. You did it. You are here, you are alive. This is your strength. You don't have to be unusual to be loved. Drop the mask you put on, be yourself and the right one will love you. But you also have to take your 5 steps to it.