The Woman Who Does Not Seek Security!

Oooh, and you look at stability, believe me! Dogs, excursions, crazy and turbulent life, ZOO - where are you ... Things can't happen without a stable man, girl! Your money is for you, and he is a common investment in the direction of "I live for a moment" and "the zoo is ours but with your money" ... With these desires and freedom, you will have no time or money for a baby ... Try to catch someone stable so that you don't end up alone with or without a dog in years to come, that then you will see an "I'm bored"! ...

live as you see fit. What do you explain to people? We live in a free country. Live as you choose and do what you want, as long as you do not harm others. Do you think that someone cares about you and how do you live? Get down on the ground.

Because they are in the matrix and they will stay there, let them trust each other.

Because when you grow old with all the money in the world, there will be no one to wipe your ass or, God forbid, you will suffer as badly as Michael Schumacher, and at some point your biological clock will remind you what you are in this world unless the universe has another plan. for you.

Because many people are limited

Because this is the way of the complexes / other women enter here / to crush and limit them. Haven't you noticed yet, haven't you noticed that in this world the most hated thing is the free woman, whose stereotypes go through that job.

And what you wrote is a cliché. Nothing new under the sun. At one time, hippies were great rebels against the conventional, but as they got older (those who had not ended up in overdoses, binges, and suicide) they became boring members of the middle class. Everyone lives their life as they understand it. What is valuable to one is rubbish to another. Quite normal. You want solitude - be alone, who bothers you? There are already nice private nursing homes, it's expensive, but you don't have a problem with money. Nobody frames anything, author. Everyone invents their own frameworks, defines and limits their own lives. Nobody forces you to look for security, live day by day, go to Everest, if you want, swim among sharks, if you like, who is asleep? And what do you care that some people were looking for security? Honestly, the topic does not seem provocative to me, but simply meaningless.

I am 28 and I am also not attracted by security, finances, stability, etc. I can manage on my own - I dragged, I pulled, I gained experience so as not to rely on anyone else, neither emotionally nor physically, but for money not to mention. This is pure parasitism. I believe that we can rely only on ourselves. This nonsense about stability is played by people who are afraid to be alone with themselves for some reason, and the fear of your own "I" is extremely scary because you never know when and for how long you will have to live alone with him. People cannot be relied on - one today, another tomorrow. I don't mean just love relationships, but family, work and everything. Applies to both sexes. Just watch how it will be explained to you that you will sing another song when you become a shrunken 35-year-old grandmother, covered with mucus and scales and no Levent will want you. : D

We understood that you are not looking for security. However, I did not understand what else you want to tell us with this post? Maybe you want to stay an old maid or something?

Natural selection will have its say. There will be a certain number of people left on Earth who live "properly", will leave a generation, and so on. And they will not remember them in a generation or two, and even after 40-50 years, for example, no one will remember you. I do not know if you understood me :)

So am I. In this order - man, child, dog and so we drive it since the late 90's without marriage, without tax public opinion and we are still together. We go where we want, no one cares about the other, but we are obviously responsible to some extent and this gives us the strength to continue.

Completely unnecessary topic, meaningless!

Because you will be a lonely aunt with 20 cats that no one will be interested in and you will only watch other people's lives.

There are two kinds of happiness - fleeting but turbulent and lasting but calm. The disadvantage of fleeting things is that you constantly have to make an effort to gain even stronger sensations, otherwise they get bored. The advice people give is valid when someone is both looking for a family and looking for the "incredible thrill", this film has not yet been invented by anyone. If you recognize yourself in the girls who are advised to choose the more serious of the two choices, then you have a completely different problem - you identify with people who think very differently from you. And no one can force you to start a family. Wei your flag as soon as loneliness suits you. We are all born and die alone, the only difference is how we spend the gap. But when you meet a person like you, how will you have a serious/long-term relationship with this way of thinking day in and day out? And I can live alone, it's not a drama for me, but I'm not looking for any stormy love like your mercy. I prefer a calm and stable relationship, and if it will seem boring to others. Everyone with their preferences.

I have always said that love is neither a bank nor an insurance company. Apparently we are few such women.

Look, darling, to open a zoo with someone and toss the two of you on the first train - you still have to be able to rely on that person. And this is not about money, but about the reliability of the partner. However, there are people who prefer to be alone, I know such - both men and women, it is painful for them to try to coexist with another - they do it sometimes, precisely under the pressure of social stereotypes, but neither feel comfortable nor they create one for the person with whom they have gathered against their will. These people are best to really be alone and communicate with others only when they want to. Otherwise, this image of "mom, dad, two kids and a dog" - is just a Hollywood metaphor and nothing more. Families can look very different. Tolstoy's novel "Anna Karenina", at the end of which the married heroine commits suicide because of her love for another man, begins with the words: "All happy families are alike, every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." According to my observations, happy families are similar not in the dog, but in the freedom they allow in their relationships. If a person cannot be himself in a relationship, if he feels limited, oppressed and misunderstood in it - all the wealth of the world would not fill his emotional deficits. And vice versa - if they both keep the spontaneity and freshness of the feelings, then their life will be exciting and fulfilling. At the beginning of my relationship with my husband, we were as poor as church mice. Our only entertainment was to make sandwiches and go on a picnic in the woods. 10 years later - when we no longer have any financial difficulties - we continue to do so simply because we enjoy it. The advantage of being a husband is that we are always at hand for each other for all sorts of nonsense. Our own daughter asks us, "Abe, aren't you going to grow up?"

Because most women are looking for her. And there is nothing wrong with that. Nor in the fact that you are not looking for her. What are you going to make us explain that it is very clear that we can never talk about "all women", because there are like you in every way who do not want what most want, but that does not mean that from now on no one ever should not talk about women in general. It is clear that the majority is meant by "women". Why bother looking for some fictitious justice that someone somewhere said something about women and you're a woman and it's not true for you. Well nice - except for your rule. What do you want from us? I will not apologize for talking about the majority of women, because there are no absolutes, and if claims were to be made that apply to ABSOLUTELY all women in the world, that would be impossible and no one would be able to talk about women at all. You came here as if to parade how different you were and how funny and sorry you were for us, what you are and how you do not obey social norms and you are out of the box. Well, you're very different, congratulations. It doesn't mean that people don't have to talk about women around you now, because you found it funny. You seem to be looking for validation, and you don't seem to care about other people's opinions. Otherwise, why did you go to tell us how much you were not like the others? Come on, be different in person. No one has stepped on you as a woman with his words, because these words are originally said with the knowledge that they are a generalization that omits many exceptions, but covers as many women as possible in general and speaks of the average, beautiful, beautiful woman ( happy holiday, ladies!) and is the closest to truth statement that misses as few women as possible, knowing that it can never cover them all. Why did we think we were for you? Nobody thinks about you because nobody cares. You're not that special, no one is. And that's ok. But you obviously don't understand it. Live your life there the way you want and be happy. What are you going to do feigned crusades on a principled basis, making it clear that all the time you're just talking about how different you are and how you think you're special (which you will deny, laughing that I didn't understand you at all) , as if you do not understand and do not realize these things and you are too immature to even admit that it may be so, which makes you de facto blind, but inherent in the blind for themselves arrogant and confident) and how you look down on people who say that women seek security and over women themselves who seek security. And all the time you do not realize that on one level it should be so and it is infinitely ok if a woman seeks security from the man she wants to have in her life. On top of that, no one said it wasn't ok if they weren't looking for her. You are just looking for someone to notice you and point out how different you are from others. Grow up and then write on the sites.

To generalize is a manifestation of frivolity. Being excited about what others think, or what excites them, is a manifestation of insecurity in one's own abilities and understandings. Which, of course, doesn't mean you have to be a horse with caps and always approach the idea that you know everything and you're always right. On the contrary - a very important component for any kind of growth is doubt. In everything. And one of the absolute truths of this world is that everyone is free to believe what they want. Of course, with all the positive and negative consequences of this. You claim to have "found yourself" and to be "at peace with your choice, your life, and the person you are," but the very fact that you have posted such a topic means that there is a grain of insecurity in you and you prefer to ask. to the "herd" - whether you're right, whether you have something, or of the sort. It depends on what you call your own insecurities and fears. In general, you describe yourself as a confident and fearless person, but you forget that such a person does not really need to publicly announce something about himself. Especially such intimate specifics of his character. Because most things are obvious and a person who can "read" people will be able to understand very well what kind of person you are, without explaining yourself to him. For the rest ... it's not worth talking about. They still need to be explained. And most people, in their quest for some attention, love to talk about themselves. Which is banal and at times - unfortunate. It depends on your mood :) Otherwise, on the subject - at the risk of pointing out the obvious truth - no, of course, that no woman is obliged to seek "security". But I suspect that your parents (or your environment) do not think so and there is some pressure on their part against your understandings :) Again - everyone has their own desires and needs and this game to pretend to be who you really are not, is doomed to failure. Sometimes - spectacular.

Another topic like: "Look at me! See how strong and independent I am! See how unique I am and I do not obey the norms that all of you" ordinary "and" normal "obey! See how depressed, self-sufficient, emancipated and I am an adventurous snowflake! I am better than all of you "uneducated" who will live sadly all their lives because they made the mistake of starting a family! " And of course they are waiting for 25 answers, half of which are "Go boldly! Just like that, sister! Once you live!", And the other half are "You will see further! You will sing another song! The woman must obey! This feminism ruined the world! " And what did we achieve by chewing this question once on 5 topics? Nothing.

The journey in the way you describe it here is again framed.

Nobody sets limits. How you live is your concern. Nobody cares what you like, who you interact with and how much you earn. Nobody stops you from doing whatever you want with your life. Maybe home, family, children make your everyday life meaningful. You can settle with 5 cats and spend your money on cat food. Nobody cares what you do. Shake off your dependence on someone else's approval. Everyone looks only at himself. Your relative may be interested in you, and that's it.

Because they have not yet understood what Love and Family mean. I was disgusted to read the comments. I am a woman of 22, I had a boyfriend for 1 year and we did not talk about money at all, nor did we fight about it. Most of the time outside, everyone paid for his. Think about what you would choose to have: BGN 50 million or a real family with a person you love very much and to be together until old age, and for children and dogs as much as you want to have and if you want to.