Hello! I really like the site and how people support themselves with an opinion when it's not easy for someone. I am 33 years old, married. I can't complain about my marriage - each of us tries, but something else weighs on me. I know I'm not young and I hope I took my life in my arms, but since I can remember, my mother has always loved my little brother more. He is 28 years old. He still lives with our parents, he is not married. My childhood was not easy - my father drank a lot when he was young. And while my mother and I didn't sleep all night, my brother was small and hardly understood any of these stories. There are many events from my childhood and I remember them with pain. The memory of how my mother took my brother after another drunken night and went to his parents was especially vividly imprinted. He didn't say a word to me. I asked her to come back - and she did. I don't know if I should feel guilty - this situation has been repeated many times. My father doesn't drink today. They have a family business and my brother and I take good care of him. I'm no longer part of their family, let alone business. I visit only by invitation. Even my child's granddaughter's birthdays are neglected on the grounds that they have a lot of work to do. For as long as I can remember, I've been told that I'm someone else's dinner. Nobody cares about my problems. I feel like I have to forget that I have parents. I have been asked for financial help, I cannot expect that. These relationships deepen with each passing day. They rarely call, and when we see each other it just doesn't work. Is it possible, is such alienation normal I know that a really good parent is the one who makes leaning unnecessary. But it hurts, it hurts terribly to see how my brother's problems are my parents' problems - both emotionally and financially, in everything. He is not independent in any way. He never worked with a boss, my parents wouldn't let that happen. His wishes are a priority and I am constantly witnessing benefits for which my parents are responsible. His self-confidence grew and he soon told me that I had to work harder if I wanted the corresponding benefits ... Today I learned that it is best to ask for oneself. I consider my life meaningful because I do everything in my power to fight it. But with living parents / May they be alive and healthy for a long time! /, I feel alone. I understand that my family is what I wake up with every morning. And I'm grateful. But sometimes a person needs to cry on the mother's shoulder. And I don't remember any moment of being close to my mother. I just don't remember. And it doesn't stop hurting.
1 tomamesiquieres answered
I have almost the same problem with my mother but over the years she has become indifferent to me! Love the person next to you - in difficult and happy moments he will be inseparable from you! Unfortunately, one cannot choose the parents, otherwise one would choose the most ideal ones, and at a time when your mother needs you, just show where she has made a mistake over the years, maybe then she would think twice, even though it is quite late! Good luck