Hello, something has been bothering me for a long time and I think it's high time to share it, maybe there is a benefit from all this work. It all started there when I met a girl who is 3 years younger than me, I don't think it's much of a difference, but she has a role anyway. Well, we met (we had mutual friends), we started playing games every night until no time, we watched TV series, movies, but basically everything I wanted. After a month we left accordingly (we are from the same city), everything was going great, I was with at least 5 girls before her, but I had never felt anything like this with anyone, even with my first love. It was just different, the fucking feeling was amazing (everyone in love will understand me), but unfortunately every good thing has an end. Besides the sausage, it has two ends, but let me not overdo it with humor, after all, I'm talking about something quite serious, at least for me. The moment came when I had to leave the city, because I had to start learning that money had to be made. I screwed up learning, of course. I found a job in the specialty without having any education at all, which is not easy, but it is not impossible. I went to the big city, you know how it is, lodgings, roommates, everything is confused, you know almost no one and the movie is very big when you find yourself in a stressful situation like this. Since I left, something seemed to have changed in our relationship, we didn't talk to each other the way we should have, and the period came when we didn't write to each other for a few days and we didn't even know what was going on with our relationship. it cracked too much, but just fucking stubbornness once again played a super bad joke on me. It also reacts in this way, of course. We talked after that, I tried to make things right, but I obviously pushed her away in some way or the stubbornness and it is stronger than the feelings. I tried to survive it, I found another girl, I was with her for half a year, but it wasn't the same ... I didn't feel it that way, something was limping. I tried to contact the girl from my town, but she never wanted to talk to me, she was obviously quite affected by what happened, and it wasn't even who knows what. She hasn't been with anyone after me, which calms me down in some way, and the fact that even if she hears my name, she falls into a super weird state, at least that's what I hear from a friend of hers who's closer to me. And yes, I forgot to mention that her closest averka (or at least she thinks so) constantly talked about how she shouldn't give me a second chance and the like, she's a great intriguer in general, she's super relaxed and she thinks I'd treat her friend like everyone else, and she has a pretty big list of guys behind her. It's clear to me that I've been acting like a bitch, but it's been almost a year and I want to make things right.
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You choose a time to go to your city for a few days. You talk to her friend who is close to you and you understand when the girl in question will be there for sure. One option is: You go to them and politely ask her to give you a chance to tell her everything you feel and think. (However, this can make her angry, depending on her character). The second option is: Ask her friend for help - to arrange a meeting between you two or go out in a larger joint company, from which you can separate for a moment and talk. The third option is: You call her and invite her to a meeting and tell her you want to talk. Be careful not to press the girl you like too much, because you can only make her nervous and push her away even more. Talk to her friend so you know more or less how she feels, what she thinks, if she even wants to come back to you, or she just does it in vain and wants you to follow her. And be careful not to stand between two friends, because it will not be pleasant for any of the three of you.