The Problems Of A Girl

   Hello. My opinion is that your father does not let you go to discos, not because he is bad, but because he knows some things much better than you and wants to protect you. Believe me, these places are often not like in the movies - a crazy party and nice people. Rather - sex, drugs, alcohol and violence. And don't whine that you haven't had a friend until now, etc. - there will be time for everything. You will get tired of going to parties and others, just wait for the time to come. Separately, I would personally appreciate a terribly tall girl like you, who has not succumbed to the chalgo-simplicity with all its supplements, which is spreading around the country. However, there are boys who do not like dumb muffins;). Do not be angry, but listen to your parents, study and train and everything will fall into place. Success!

   You must oppose your father! This is your life, not his, he has no power over you. If you think this is difficult to achieve and will have bad consequences, drive it more secretly. This boy you don't think will like him - why don't you start dating secretly? Everyone deserves to be happy, you can't deprive yourself of that because of strict parents. Go out more, have fun! It is unlikely that your father is such a cerberus that he forbids you to walk with friends and communicate. Explain to him that it is very important to you. Don't be rude, because nothing is achieved that way, use meaningful arguments. For example, ask him if he would feel good if he were in your situation. Say you don't want to do anything wrong. And for the fact that you didn't do it - you didn't miss any deadlines, some aren't even 20 yet. You start going out, from there everything will be fine.

   Girl, you will soon be an adult. What is there to report to your father about everything? If you like young people, why not go out? You don't have to tell your father. If he understands, you declare to him that your life is yours and you decide for yourself. Do you live for your father? It's one thing to respect your parents, it's another to deprive yourself of the life that a normal young man should lead - friends, parties, boyfriend ... For starters, start going to places other than the gym. If you act wisely, you will convince your parents that you are responsible and that they can trust you. And little by little they will give you more freedom. Another option is to wait until you turn 18 and leave home.

   The parties and the boys are yet to come. The university years are one of the best. I guess you will go to study somewhere else in two years and you will have all the freedom in the world. Think about this time, study, choose a specialty and act in the direction of being accepted where you have decided. Be patient, the best is really coming soon.

   1. You don't care what others say and do. 2. You continue to take care of yourself. In years to come, you will see the difference between hanging out in a neighborhood cafe and going to the gym. 3. You graduate and leave your father. 4. You have all the time in the world to have all the men in the world. There is no need to hurry.

   Well, you obviously want to be part of the common people. Focus on something else that makes you unique, not on discos and other nonsense that are the product of American-Zionist lodges aimed at weakening Orthodoxy. "Serious problems"? You have food, water and a roof over your head, I know it sounds clichéd and banal, but a lot of people don't have that. Imagine that your mother has cancer and you are in financial trouble, do you feel better now?

   And I was a shy teenager, so introverted that I didn't talk to my peers. Gradually I opened up to the world, but everything was slow and gradual. I started going to discos because of dancing - with company. But I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship, and I only caught a glimpse of the guys I liked. In high school, I became a person and started dating boys. The main advice from me is - endure until you become a student - then you will leave home and be free - but do not abandon your studies and do not break the connection with your parents - they will be next to you in difficulty. Be careful with the boys - it should be tested whether it is only for the bed or for something real - for example, when they are courting and do not back down at the first problem. And lastly - judge in a complicated situation if you are ok with the things that someone wants from you. Follow yourself you will not go wrong! Good things take time and patience - they don't happen fast.

   Your father thinks good sweet girl while you live under his roof you will follow his rules relax there is time for boys I don't understand why you are so happy with their chalgoteks CALM BE

   Oh my God, I'm telling you for a moment I thought I wrote this topic because I'm telling you our situations are one to one. Even I'm 17. And my lifestyle bothers me a lot and I really don't know what to do. But my teenage years are almost over and I have come to terms with my life right now and the fact that I'm not like the others (or at least to some extent). And another year, a year and something like that, I don't want to, I can't stand it, but my biggest fear is that in the future my life will continue in the same way and I won't go through it anymore. I just really hope this is a phase and in the future looking back I find it funny what nonsense I've been so stressed and worried about but I just don't know. I will definitely follow the topic.

   Honey, the man is strict with you because he doesn't want you to go down the wrong path and degrade. As for those in your class, they will not become human. Some days, when you see the difference, you will thank your father.

   FROM THE AUTHOR Thank you for the various opinions and tips. At the moment I am a little confused and I will still try to clarify some things. I love my parents and I know that my father wants to protect me, but still I want to lead a normal life, because these are my best years, and I am wasting them (my goal is not to become a commoner, as someone mentioned or go to the chalgoteks-I just gave an example that others live on the max, and I'm locked up at home) You tell me to go out more with friends-where are they? As I mentioned, I live in a small town and have girlfriends, but over time they stopped looking for me ... I don't know because I probably wasn't at their level, their parents bought everything, and yet I didn't envy their new acquisitions, I just wanted a good friend . As for what turned out, I later heard that one of the girls envied me. And on what? On this, that I lived a more rotten life than hers for sure. But I don't blame my parents for that - I already realized that they give me everything they have and they really try to live a better life. As for the boys, I'm waiting for someone to show up to accept me as I am, but how can he find me if I don't go out, because he just doesn't have anyone. It sucks to be different - because very few value and understand you. Yes, I'm shy, I'm anxious. I've been struggling with this problem since I was a child and I'm tired of trying to change - I'm just like that, and that's why people don't try to get to know me, and I'm more and more worried about my future ... as if my life will go on to be such. I am ashamed of myself and at the same time I am angry that I am not like the others. That's why I'm angry with my father for not giving me freedom, I always comply with him just so as not to disappoint him, to be an exemplary daughter. He doesn't know how much I sacrifice for my personal happiness, and yet sometimes he's still not happy. I behave more freely, at home, because I can't afford it anywhere else. Apparently from there, my father thinks I'm naive and frivolous, but I'm actually very cautious, I know there are a lot of people who don't wish me well and I don't trust them easily. He is not a bad person, we have talked many times about certain topics, I have shared my dreams (which at first glance are unreal, but I really want them to come true), and he obviously thinks I'm stupid that I didn't grow up mentally. , he thinks I can't handle life alone because I'm sensitive. I don't know what else to say ... because nowhere else can I afford it. Apparently from there, my father thinks I'm naive and frivolous, but I'm actually very cautious, I know there are a lot of people who don't wish me well and I don't trust them easily. He is not a bad person, we have talked many times about certain topics, I have shared my dreams (which at first glance are unrealistic, but I really want them to come true), and he obviously thinks I'm still stupid that I didn't grow up mentally. , he thinks I can't handle life alone because I'm sensitive. I don't know what else to say ... because nowhere else can I afford it. Apparently from there, my father thinks I'm naive and frivolous, but I'm actually very cautious, I know there are a lot of people who don't wish me well and I don't trust them easily. He is not a bad person, we have talked many times about certain topics, I have shared my dreams (which at first glance are unreal, but I really want them to come true), and he obviously thinks I'm stupid that I didn't grow up mentally. , he thinks I can't handle life alone because I'm sensitive. I don't know what else to say ... I've shared my dreams (which at first glance are unrealistic, but I really want them to come true), and obviously he still thinks I'm stupid that I didn't grow up mentally, he thinks I can't handle life alone because I am sensitive. I don't know what else to say ... I've shared my dreams (which at first glance are unrealistic, but I really want them to come true), and obviously he still thinks I'm stupid that I didn't grow up mentally, he thinks I can't handle life alone because I am sensitive. I don't know what else to say ...

   In 10th grade I was the same story. I didn't have a boyfriend and I've never had one, and I'm 20 at the moment. The stupid thing is that at that age your puberty is the worst, because others have friends and that's always terribly decisive for you. To some extent it also affects self-esteem, you consider yourself strange, different, closed. Sometimes you wonder what's wrong with them. On the contrary, everything is fine. Your class is all fucked up, um very commendable for that age. They just achieved everything, except that the hormone shook them more. I have no idea what is the tendency to fuck at the age of 15, 16 in today's generation, I personally in my puberty did not understand it. Meaning, my value system doesn't take it very well, how are you? But it is better to follow your mind than to do what everyone else does. I personally think that the strictness of your parents to some extent is absolutely justified. Your father knows very well what the times are like today and tries to protect you from simplicity and degradation on the outside. My parents also had a lot of control over me. I have no idea what she would miss at discos and parties, because when you think about what things happen, especially in such clubs and restaurants. I personally have not had any inclinations towards this type of restaurants, maybe this is due to the different style of music. I hate chalgoteks and it's just not my place. My advice is to look at your education so that you can come in to study what you want, and there is time for everything else, especially during the student years. It's good to find a hobby to do in your free time. This can be quite distracting and relaxing - for example, some kind of sport (trips in the mountains) I have no advice for boyfriends, because I feel the same way as you. But I think there is hope for many things. However, there are boys who are looking for girls just like you, not some carpets and various failed bastards and what not, there are many - it's hard to list: D. Strive to be different and unique. PS: You will meet a decent boy who meets your principles and likes you the way you are. Strive to be different and unique. PS: You will meet a decent boy who meets your principles and likes you as you are. Strive to be different and unique. PS: You will meet a decent boy who meets your principles and likes you as you are.

   Dear girl, take your time! Life is in front of you, you still have so many wonderful things ahead of you. You don't waste anything, don't worry. I have a mother who is quite conservative, and in many situations has tried to protect me more than necessary. When I was your age, I felt the same way. I had a few friends who went out and had fun - cafes, discos, bars, parties and more. I really wanted to go with them, but I was limited by the evening. Scandals and conversations didn't help me much. Over time, however, little by little, my mother began to give me more freedom and convinced herself that I was smart enough not to get into big trouble and not to cause problems for myself and my parents. . This fact gradually led to my complete freedom to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, with whom I want and as much as I want. If you are smart enough and put your mind into the biggest nonsense you do, you can achieve that. I remember the second term of 11th grade and the last year I burst out going out and partying, thinking that these were my last good years. BUT! I never neglected my responsibilities and duties, both at school and at home. There were days when I changed from the disco and went straight to school, but I still did not neglect my education, at the expense of entertainment. I dare say that, contrary to most opinions here, discos and parties have not led to degradation and decline at all! I was one of the biggest partygoers in recent years at school and still graduated with honors and gained a professional qualification. It is strictly individual - when a person is sufficiently valuable and intelligent, he is not influenced by external factors! But you are the person who, in small steps, has to convince your parents of this. And here I am, now, 20 years old, an architecture student abroad, realizing that the most wonderful years of my life have been before me and still are. The parties in the student years are even bigger, cool and whatever else you want. Take your time, everything will happen in time. Life is in front of you and you will have the opportunity to do everything you can't now. As for sex and boys ... DON'T HURRY! DO NOT RUSH! Being the only one who didn't have a boyfriend and didn't have sex doesn't make you congested! It's only in the minds of teenagers your age. I will give you an example with me again - I had sex for the first time at the age of 14, I was still a child, but then I thought I was very old. There is hardly anything else in my life that I want to change more than this fact! I was in a hurry and I still bear the consequences of this action. All in good time, the most experienced are yet to come. White kahari are this, in years to come you will laugh at this!