The Life Of A Man

   So I tell you and I tighten up !!! I was in your wife's position for 4 years. For 4 years I was blinded and enchanted as if by the other, I neglected my husband and child. for me it was just him and nothing else interested me! I did not see the pain in my husband, I was blinded to everything, and he was patiently silent and calm, he was ready for anything just to be happy and not to divorce, to go home to him in the evening. the end of the story is that I slowly began to realize what a commodity my lover was, and how everything is just a fake: (((now that I remember how stupid and reckless I acted I hate, I hate myself and a lifetime will not I have enough to atone for my husband, I adore him at the moment, and for me he and my child are the most important things in my life, I am completely devoted to both of them and there is no force that separates me more from them. I learned my lesson

   Yes, it definitely hurts! But now at least you know what millions of women around the world feel cheated by their husbands every day. Because don't you think that if you are a woman and you understand that your husband has a mistress it hurts less? However, our society does not accept it as almost normal for him to have lovers while his faithful wife waits for him indefinitely and tries to hide her tears from the children. Well, no one is insured and the pain is great. I don't know what to advise you, because you really lost her a long time ago and there is hardly a chance to get her back, so I think it's better to divorce her. You know what they say, better a terrible ending than endless horrors. It seems to be the best way, separate and look for love and happiness elsewhere. Who knows, maybe there's a beautiful woman out there waiting for you?

   You have no choice, friend, let her go, and if God has said, you can get together again, if you don't meet someone else who will be only yours.

   Listen to the words of number 1. There are exceptions, but almost always the story ends as she described it. I know that now the pain is indescribable, but time really heals, and your wife will realize, believe me. Everyone realizes, sooner or later. You will be happy together again, it really won't be exactly the same, because trust rarely comes back completely, but if you love her you will allow her to come back to you because she will ask for it. Trust me. And then she will feel the guilt that will torment her all her life, and you ... you will just have to help her - you remember - in good and evil, in sickness and health, until death do you part. If this is your man, of course. Now relax, take a deep breath and try to be the one she once fell in love with. I know it's almost impossible, but it's still possible. Try it. It's for you, not for her, to calm down, to judge things soberly, to make a decision about your life. Everything I tell you is from personal experience. I still struggle with the pain of infidelity, but I also feel the pain of the person next to me, of trusting the right person, of hurting me, I also feel his support and his desire to help me overcome everything. . He's just next to me and with me, and it's disgusting to see guilt written on his face every day. But it is also warmth, because this guilt also means love. I'm squeezing your thumbs to fight back and get up faster. He's just next to me and with me, and it's disgusting to see guilt written on his face every day. But it is also warmth, because this guilt also means love. I'm squeezing your thumbs to fight back and get up faster. He's just next to me and with me, and it's disgusting to see guilt written on his face every day. But it is also warmth, because this guilt also means love. I'm squeezing your thumbs to fight back and get up faster.

   Very well written. Well done! I hope you find the strength to move forward without her.

   Another series from the series: "Modern and emancipated whore destroys her family because of a tramp." Stories about brainless whores who destroy their families because of some shivers, butterflies in the stomach, fluttering under the spoon and similar whore excitement have become daily on this site! Brother, you wrote a whole novel because of some rubbish that doesn't give you 5 bucks! You risk ruining yourself and leaving young without time! I am writing to you from personal experience. After 6 years of marriage and a child, my ex-wife stuffed my horns with such garbage that I still can't believe it. When I found out about her infidelity, which lasted for months in which I was harassed and humiliated as an animal, in the end just as much as I loved her, no matter how much it hurt me that my family was falling apart, as a man I said, "either I or he "!!!! She chose him, and even if she said that he wanted to lie to me with me, simply because not only did he not love me, but he did not have a gram of respect for me. Where there has been love, at least one respect remains. Moreover, infidels do not respect themselves because they do not respect their own choice of life partner. These are people without any dignity and without a gram of intelligence (sorry for adulterers and adulterers, but you are able to literally kill from grief and pain your partner who holds on to you and loves you because of your stupid butterflies in the stomach that you find in someone's pants mold or some carcass which, according to an unwritten law, is full of rubbish. I have seen such marriages and a lot of them. Unfortunately, it has not passed me by. to die for a filthy and shameless woman, which made me so vile and black in front of all my relatives, friends and acquaintances that it was only in those months last year that I began to trust her and feel like complete rubbish. Thank God, almost no one is attached to lies and tricks, because everyone knows me and knows what kind of person I am. You don't need such a woman, believe me! If you want, stay with her, but sooner or later you will collapse, and your child needs a healthy and alive father, not a wreck or a dead man! If you decide to end this parody of marriage, divorce painlessly by mutual consent, win the most satisfactory regime for seeing the child, or if she agrees, take custody of him directly. Believe me, the more you try to prove yourself to her, the more you fall in love - it's illogical, but it's a fact! When you fall at a woman's feet, she crushes you and tramples you like a nit! Stop humiliating yourself. Show dignity. Show her that you are a man and that we are not dependent on her! Take a fuck and continue your life without it! This is a stupid woman and I think her lover is a complete fool. They always get caught with such, always. I if you are a jerk in the ass and go to your trash! No mercy for whores! You seem to be a decent person, you are wounded to death, but you have to overcome this and continue your life. Watch your child and let her break her head. And tomorrow, when you get stuck at the door (it happens quite often) after a year or two, don't tie yourself to it, because the same thing will happen again (believe me, in 90% of the cases they do it again). As for the woman you are writing about before your current adulteress, then you were too green and young, you were not ready. You didn't describe exactly what happened, but it is past and you must stop digging into the past. You weren't mature and that's it. You can't go back. Stop blaming yourself. If you haven't cheated, there's nothing to blame yourself for, you just didn't love her and it didn't work out. Number 1, I wonder how your husband survived 4 years. Ma'am, do you realize how much you've shortened your husband's life? Do you really realize the rivers of tears he has shed? This man is a martyr and a hero. I for 4 months, in which I did not know about her infidelity (I found out exactly 4 months after the beginning of her extramarital affair), but the harassment was terrible, I literally collapsed, lost 15 pounds and I would really die because mentally and certainly not I have already endured. After I found out about my ex-wife's infidelity, I wasn't on my own for at least another 4 months. Months when I hardly slept, I hardly ate, and tears and alcohol were my consolation and everyday life! Honestly, you are the first woman who claims to have realized, but I hope it is forever, because if your husband once again survives your whore cracks, this time he may liquidate you! Sorry for the long comment.

   I would not tolerate such an attitude - I would grab the so-called woman by the hair and with her rags she would fly out - the child would stay with me later and, shaking and roaring, would sit where she belongs - on the street. comment number 1 - your husband is an absolute amoeba and your statement about him shows how much you respect and love him - you cried like ... and all you have to say about your husband is "dear"

   saving the drowning is a problem of the drowning themselves .. and to write and not to write here alone you have to deal with everything .... tighten up your husband after all

   I'm number 7, I'm number 6. Look now, the man is not an amoeba, but I definitely would not tolerate such a "miracle" for 4 years. In fact, I couldn't stand it the day after I found out the truth. I just said cut off or or. But apparently the man had the strength to endure. However, I have no idea how she believes now.

   I'm number 1! I want to clarify that 7 years have passed since then, in the beginning it was not easy to admit, but all the effort was worth it. my husband only found out at the age of 3 that I was cheating on him, after 8 years of marriage. this fall we will celebrate the 20th anniversary of our marriage. I offered another view of things for the author, I'm not saying that things will develop in the same way as with me, I'm not proud of what I did but when you love someone wholeheartedly, more than yourself even - all the sacrifices are worth it . to number 7 - I didn't just say darling, I also said - I WORSHIP IT

   Dude, you 're too desperate. True, it sucks a lot for the person you gave everything to betray you, but such things happen all the time. You're not going to die, so don't ruin your life for a fuck who probably never loved you, and you were just comfortable with her. Show her the way now. The sooner you get rid of it from your life, the sooner you will recover. Take care of your child and look for a decent girl who will appreciate you. In time you will wonder to yourself what things you have written here.

   I am the author. Unfortunately, things are more complicated. I just didn't want to go into details, but to make it clear ... the day I understood everything and caught her close, she told me that she was going to finish everything now (why she was going is another matter) and so after 8 hours she decided to went home at 1 one at night went to bed without saying anything and that was it. Subsequently, it turned out that absolutely nothing was over. I took the child and moved out for 1 week. Guess what she did that night. Since she didn't work, she went to our godmother and told her that I didn't give her money for medicines and took money from her, called him and they went to a hotel for a whole week. When we got home with the little one, it was absolute misery, she hadn't even bothered to clean or cook. What more can I say. Oh, and let's not forget she loved him very much and I accidentally found out about the secrets and plans when she got on her feet to kick my ass and if she had to wait for him (and he is married with a small child) I think there is no need for more explanations. What I understand is that at the moment he is with me only to use me until he gets to his feet and then out. And I, the fool, keep trying to make things right. I exclude the moment when I have not been intimate with a woman for a year and 2 months ... because I am very smart and I am of the opinion that infidelity does not solve problems but on the contrary creates more. And if I waited, I waited for some intimacy, but a nut, she went elsewhere. What I understand is that at the moment he is with me only to use me until he gets to his feet and then out. And I, the fool, keep trying to make things right. I exclude the moment when I have not been intimate with a woman for a year and 2 months ... because I am very smart and I am of the opinion that infidelity does not solve problems but on the contrary creates more. And if I waited, I waited for some intimacy, but a nut, she went elsewhere. What I understand is that at the moment he is with me only to use me until he gets to his feet and then out. And I, the fool, keep trying to make things right. I exclude the moment when I have not been intimate with a woman for a year and 2 months ... because I am very smart and I am of the opinion that infidelity does not solve problems but on the contrary creates more. And if I waited, I waited for some intimacy, but a nut, she went elsewhere.

   From the author. Yes. Quite often I saw the word divorce and separation ... yes it's really the easiest but why should it be so. Yes, I know that's what I have to do, but how can I let my little girl grow up with such a mother. What will he teach her? Not to respect his family, to lie, to manipulate ... I do not want such a future for my child and this is the reason why I make all these attempts. This is the reason why I endure her cold demeanor, the insults and the disgusting demeanor with which she reminds me of what happened every day. And yes ... unfortunately I love her like a complete fool. I know he's lying to me, I see he's lying to me, and despite everything I keep trying to find ways to stay together, but honestly I'm tired of looking for something that doesn't really exist.

   Hey, I could never understand that !!! When a woman cheats, she is necessarily rubbish, k ** va, nothingness that she puts on only with complete wretches and, of course, rubbish again (compared to the cheated husband). However, when a man cheats, he is misunderstood, careless, the man who lacks something at home, with his wife and looks for him outside. That's how we will stay forever in the 19th century. A woman CANNOT cheat, a man MUST SEEK HAPPINESS if he feels misunderstood and unloved. Orient turnips to graze in front of our EUROPEAN AND EQUAL RELATIONS

   I'm number 4. After your last two posts, I think you can ignore what I wrote above. Save yourself and run. Your wife is obviously of this variety, which does not even deserve your attention, let alone your love and affection. I just hope everything you write is true. I wish you success. Otherwise, for one relationship, for its preservation, for its existence - you need two. You are obviously alone. Tighten up and take care of the child.

   from the author. To number 4. Unfortunately, this is the truth. Even a small part of the truth. It was hard for me to believe it either, but sooner or later I have to accept the truth.

   I support the opinion of number 14! Absolutely true! For my 45 years and I could not understand. Number 6, people like you are many in our dear homeland, namely incorrigible complexes and "great" martyrs. Number 6 and people like him, ask yourself why women cheat on you and even want to leave you. Nobody runs away from the good. And because of a relationship outside of marriage you do not need to divorce, such relationships end sooner or later. You can't have sex with the same partner all your life. Stop this 18th century thinking. Infidelity is not a reason to break up the families you have built for years. And stop making perfect in the family, because you certainly are not. Think about your own actions and characters and you will understand that in order for your partner to cheat on you, whether you are a woman or a man, then you have pushed him towards this in one way or another. Just think and look at it from another angle and remember that you do not live in the 18th century. Shake off the complexity. By the way, the complexes of the man in a family irritate women a lot, especially if they kill them on them.

   Only a weak in character, without an opinion, a man, inactive, always waiting for his wife to push him in life for everything, in a word, one who calls him a "mold". Women do not tolerate such men. And not only do they not tolerate, but they run away from them. a 53-year-old man

   How can I forget all my desires? - When you forget them and die (in fact you are already dead, but you just do not know it), the answer will come by itself. And the question to that answer is, "Is it worth fighting for this woman?" Only you (no one else) have the potential and ability to judge whether she has the necessary qualities (strength) to return to the family after she realizes , to feel ashamed and to overcome it and to become a full-fledged mother and wife. Your pain (death) has helped you grow, but it has not yet grown - it may never grow. As for whether you deserve it, I guess everyone who received it somehow deserved it - nothing in this world is accidental (and don't interfere with your previous relationships - it's the result of your current choice). But that's not so important - if you survive spiritually, you will be much stronger than before and you will understand crystal clear the causes and consequences and why this or that happens. In general, I agree with №1 - many families have gone through this and overcome it. The question in your case is whether this is possible, given the immaturity of your partner and how long it would take to wait for her - at № 1 it took a year after its discovery in an 8-year marriage, and in your case - it can to realize too late - indeed this is a lesson, as казва 1 says, but when will she be ready for it?

   I support number 18. Your story is beautifully written, but you're overreacting, man! It doesn't matter that you are a man - you grumble, you feel sorry for yourself! It certainly hurts, you feel betrayed, misunderstood, hurt, believe me, I understand. But you are not on the right track! You are sensitive and intelligent, that's great. You have a wonderful child! See all the positives in your life and turn your back on the negatives. Instead of saying "it's hard for me" say to yourself "I'm grateful for everything, I'm moving on!" THE MORE you feel sorry for yourself, THE WORSE IT WILL GET, I GUARANTEE IT! How old are you? You are a young man, I am sure, life is in front of you, learn your lesson and be strong! Success! - Edelweiss

   I'm number 6. Number 14 and number 17 recognized themselves as adulteresses and did not export them. No one says that a man has the right to cheat! And men who cheat are rubbish. Twa with the push is a worn plate! This site is full of stories about whores who just want something different, even though their families and husbands are great and have nothing more to wish for, but do you see anyone show up and butterflies in their stomachs (this is my favorite) and айдееееее! "You can't have sex with the same partner all your life." Алоооооо. Is that how you raise your children? Couldn't spend my whole life?!?!?!?!?! You put it left and right and your husband tolerates you, which other men must tolerate!

   A 53-year-old man, what do you think? The man suffers, you call him a mold! Author, beat and kick this one and move on. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise. You will meet a good woman who will love you, respect you and will not throw you in the trash. And there are still such women. Leave such as number 14 and number 17! Number 1, what sacrifices are worth to get sick and die? It's ruined! Maybe his adulteress will come to her senses one day, but why should he spend his life in pain, living as punished until she gets dirty and realizes that fuckers aren't worth it? That's enough, it was a mockery! The princess will be waiting for her, to fuck her to destruction! Such a woman must fly away like a rag as soon as she reveals it if she does not stop her adultery. And the second time you don't have to negotiate at all, directly for the hair and through the door!

   UNTIL 14 and 17 The fact that almost all women are bloody and cheating does not mean that this is normal! It is not normal for men to cheat. After asking the gentlemen "why do women cheat on you" ask yourself why men cheat on you too! For the same reason. When one does not receive something from one's partner, one receives it from another. The fact that we do not tolerate infidelity does not take us back to the 18th century, but sends us straight to the 23rd century. The fact that you are adulterous and not even ashamed of it is a completely different topic. You want to want others with stunted thinking because you don't want to be seen as rubbish! Typical of most women. You just run away from problems and you are never guilty of anything, and men are disgusting, aren't they !? I'm tired of such blood! That's why men cheat and I don't know a man who trusts his wife, because everyone says the same thing .... women are bloody. And because of people like you, men become pigs, simpletons and fall to your level! Come on, good health! TO THE AUTHOR: Run away from this snake and geek! If she wants to leave, she is hardly next to a child, especially since she has not yet set foot. You will convince them in court that she cannot take care of the child and it is YOU! Get rid of it, because it will get much worse!

   Number 6, I will disappoint you! We are a family, not a woman, and we have been married for 18 years. We read some stories together, we comment on them, but we have written two or three times. Number 6, dude, your logic is all rubbish because they cheat and there are no valuable men. Because we'll tell you both that only 5 percent of men don't break. Our argument becomes meaningless, for everyone to live as they see fit and those like number 6 - too. Alive and healthy!

   from the author. To numbers 17 and 18. Thanks for the support". It's easy to talk when you're just an observer, but when you give everything to one person and he stabs you in the back, things are much different. And tell me what I did. I work, I take care of my family, I have supported her in everything and I have always been by her side. I haven't beaten her, I don't drink, I don't gamble ANYTHING. Not to be a saint, but is that the solution? Instead of coming and talking to me to tell me this and it's a problem let's sit down to solve it she goes and finds me a deputy that easier.

   In general, I have learned from my life experience that most women today have no sense of responsibility, and when they cheat they never feel guilty, and always someone has pushed them, someone else is to blame for their own downfall and moral degradation. When a man cheats, he usually takes responsibility for his actions and is more inclined to return to the family nest and break up with his mistress. Another issue is the category of women who always want different women and never have enough of one. Such men almost never change, and it is a gross mistake for their wives to bond and marry them, thinking that such prostitutes will be tamed by them. However, my word is for women who cheat. Impartial statistics show that out of 10 families in which a woman is found to be cheating, the chance of survival is a maximum of 1. In families in which the man cheats in 9 out of 10 cases there is a chance that the marriage will be preserved and extended. In general, the general statistic is that only about 35% of families survive infidelity. Some will say that women who have a lover do not divorce, but this only applies if the lover is also engaged and does not want to end the marriage / relationship. If the lover is unattached and in love with the adulterous woman, over time things usually get worse, and then after at least a few months of relationship or a year when the adulteress is safe, she catches the new branch, and until then her behavior towards her husband varies from accusatory to punishing. to awful. In fact, in most cases, such a woman makes her husband feel like garbage just to provoke negativity in him and thus calm his branded conscience that he is bad. A common scenario is for a woman to provoke constant scandals with which to harass her husband and constantly tease him that things are not going well because he is such and such. This is an old and tried whore method. When she is already sure of her lover's intentions, the adulteress sneaks the word "divorce" into her dictionary or leads her husband to despair, who starts talking about divorce himself. Of course, this staging works until the husband realizes that her idiotic behavior is actually due to her extramarital affair. If he catches her, it often becomes scary for her, especially if the man is not one of the softest. Then all the lies and manipulations that she has generated over a long period of time shine through. Such women at the beginning of such an extramarital affair begin their processing from afar. They start saying that they are not happy, that their husband is bad, in general, they invent all sorts of things to get out of the game clean. Many such women manage to divorce without their husbands even suspecting that in fact all the productions are due to the infidelity of their ex-wife.

   Come on, stop with that neighborhood tone! The man asked us for advice and support, and you turned him into a gossip! The women were ... you, the men were moldy ... come on, stop for a second, huh! Now on to the author's problem. Oh, I sympathize with you, but no one can solve your problem for you, but when you go to make a decision, think not only of yourself but also of your daughter. Think about the example you are giving and that one day she will think that this is a normal family relationship. That's why my advice is, get a divorce and fight for your child. Yes, being a single parent is not easy, but it is 100 times better for a child than living in an environment where there is no love and respect. Of course, this is my opinion, again only you are the one who can decide. So try to calm down, because making a decision under the influence of strong emotions is not good and think wisely about what happens if we get divorced and what happens next if I decide to fight for my relationship with this woman and what is best for me and the child. I wish you success! And I hope you find the happiness you deserve, because you're obviously a good person who just got into a nasty situation.

   I'm number 6 The fact that only 5% of men don't break is complete nonsense !!! Currently, it can be said with certainty that in both sexes the percentage of infidels is equal and varies between 40-50%. This is a clear indication that there is no family in BG. We live in a terrible depraved time and to meet a good and faithful half the chance is 50 to 50. More than half of the marriages concluded in recent years in Bulgaria have ended in divorce. Add to that the fact that 2/3 of the people living in concubinage part with time, and the picture is deplorable. Because the author is not alone. Author, I'm just going to tell you something that I don't think you understand. Now that you have decided what to do, and it is clear to me that you are just fed up and divorced, a difficult period will come for you. Time will reveal to you your mistakes in marriage, which have undermined the relationship between you and your wife. Be sure, that you will understand many things. The picture will clear up gradually over time. I'm not saying at all that you are to blame for her infidelity and that you should feel guilty about the failure of your marriage. Once she has chosen the easy path of her own free will, she is responsible. You haven't cheated, and she hasn't listened to women who spread nonsense like that if a woman cheats, then the reason is necessarily in her husband. The reason is in her hollow pumpkin and her free will. The reason is that he doesn't love you the way you are. She used to like you because she was in love, she even loved you, but blinded and passionate. This is not love, but love, which as soon as things pass either collapse or pass to another level - LOVE. Now she is in love with the new one, but in all probability the same will happen with it. I want to tell you that what is evident from your story is, that you are too soft a person. You let her play her horse, you indulged in everything, you tried too hard, you gave yourself to the max, she got on your head. You also allowed him to gargle with you. You have also become predictable and boring over time, and it seems that she is the type of woman who lives for thrill and emotion (most women are like that). Such is the upbringing. You have not written anything about her family, what is the relationship with her father and mother. These are important and determining factors. You have a lot to learn about women. It is obvious that you are decent, but if you repeat the model in the next marriage, it is very likely that the same will happen, not because your behavior is illogical, but because you must always remember that you are dealing with women ... you gave yourself to max, it got on your head. You also allowed him to gargle with you. You have become predictable and boring over time, and it seems that she is the type of woman who lives for the thrill and emotion (most women are so). Such is her upbringing. You have not written anything about her family, what is the relationship with her father and mother. These are important and determining factors. You have a lot to learn about women. It is obvious that you are decent, but if you repeat the model in the next marriage, it is very likely that the same thing will follow, not because your behavior is illogical, but because you must always remember that you are dealing with women ... you gave yourself to max, it got on your head. You also allowed him to gargle with you. You have also become predictable and boring over time, and it seems that she is the type of woman who lives for thrill and emotion (most women are like that). Such is the upbringing. You have not written anything about her family, what is the relationship with her father and mother. These are important and determining factors. You have a lot to learn about women. It is obvious that you are decent, but if you repeat the model in the next marriage, it is very likely that the same will happen, not because your behavior is illogical, but because you must always remember that you are dealing with women ... Such is the upbringing. You have not written anything about her family, what is the relationship with her father and mother. These are important and determining factors. You have a lot to learn about women. It is obvious that you are decent, but if you repeat the model in the next marriage, it is very likely that the same will happen, not because your behavior is illogical, but because you must always remember that you are dealing with women ... Such is her upbringing. You have not written anything about her family, what is the relationship with her father and mother. These are important and determining factors. You have a lot to learn about women. It is obvious that you are decent, but if you repeat the model in the next marriage, it is very likely that the same thing will follow, not because your behavior is illogical, but because you must always remember that you are dealing with women ...

   from the author to number 27. Thanks for writing. Yes, I am of the same opinion, but you know how it is the sheer simplicity of people to always give chances and hope, and even though we do not see progress, we keep trying again and again. These are men, we don't like to give up. But to be right is not life. Neither for me nor for my little girl. And just to respond briefly to some attacks. Girls and boys, men and women, the expression of feelings and vulnerability are not uncharacteristic of men and that does not make me a little man. No, I'm not a woman, but I'm not made of stone, and not only me, every person, when he finds out that he has been betrayed, goes through it and only a soulless doll would remain indifferent.

   Especially for numbers 14 and 17 What makes men and women cheat? The "reasons" are very different. For male men, this is a small amount and quality of sex or no sex at all. A sexually satisfied and nourished man, brought up in family values ​​and respecting his wife, would never commit adultery and feel happy in his marriage if his wife valued and respected him. Here the solution is to take down the cards, the husband to explain that marriage without sex or chat-pat sex at the mercy of the wife is not marriage, to clarify the issue and if you need to see the reasons for her cooling in this regard. This often happens after childbirth and in most cases is a solvable psychological problem in women. Sometimes a specialist can easily give the right guidelines to overcome the problem. If the man is patient and loves his wife, such a marriage soon restarts and things return to normal. If the woman does not want to make an effort to overcome the problem, the man either starts infidelity after a while or ends such a parody marriage. The second, of course, is correct, as it gives the man the right to find a woman who will satisfy him not only on the table but also in bed. This is not the case with feminine men. These are usually slimy "boy" type men (regardless of age) who are looking for thrills, looking for emotional experiences and often find them in a frivolous woman. Such men always justify that their wife does not pay attention to them, that she is evil, that sex with her is grief (the reason is in them, because they themselves are usually weak lovers). Such men tend to ruin their families for the sake of a mistress, be it bound or unbound. There is nothing masculine about them. Often such men stay married (usually because of the children), but break up, justifying that they love their wives, work for them, give their full salary, but because the mistress does not tire them with stories about the children, the mother-in-law, the the house, etc., they consider it their right to cheat. The last type of men who cheat are ordinary whores with no idea what marriage is. These are men who find it difficult to change or do not do it at all. For them, infidelity doesn't even have to have a reason. Such men accept infidelity as something completely natural and normal. They don't care at all, some of them don't even hide. Among the last 2 categories of cheating men, the wealthy prevail, ie men with more solid financial opportunities. Women, who cheat are also several conditional types, although common things are often seen between them all as opposed to the conditional types of men who cheat. The first are ordinary whores. These are usually quite mercantile women who have changed a lot of men in their lives before marriage, women who are just light. They have no sense of responsibility, they do not become mothers and wives. Their psyche is ruined by cocks. In principle, they are often among the most beautiful women, from small spoiled, slimy, lazy and taught that their life is due because they are women. Such women generally find it difficult to decide to start a family and usually do so simply because of the maternal instinct inherent in every woman. These women get divorced and separated most often. They do not need to have a reason to cheat. They're just like that, but often their husbands are attached to sweet talk. A successful marriage with such a woman is possible only if the man is very rich. Then such a woman thinks and if she does not find another rich man she stands on her ass, but of course not out of love for her husband. Many women commit adultery after years of marriage, having previously been considered decent and moral by all. Such women are also spoiled as children and also feel that life is indebted to them. Usually they marry a good man with whom everything goes well in time, but there comes a time when they start to miss those primary emotions, thrills, butterflies and similar nonsense and find them in someone else (usually a slut). Such women do not distinguish between LOVE and LOVE. When love is over, they can't stand not being in love. Disney movies, love stories, novels, have left a lasting imprint on their fantasies and understandings of love. Most often, these are quite fundamentally intelligent women. No one can be in love forever, simply because falling in love is a passion that lasts for a while, according to the development of the relationship, but these women do not understand it. This category of women are otherwise good housewives, mothers, girlfriends. However, they break down over time because they do not know how to build lasting relationships, but are dreamers by nature. Such women are skilled manipulators. They are very strongly influenced by their mothers and if the mothers are not worth it ... Usually women look like their mothers around the age of 30. Other women find a reason in their husband who does not pay attention to them. This category also includes wives whose husbands are workaholics and crackers or who drink, beat, do not satisfy them sexually. This last category alone can claim any causal links, of course unjustifiably. These women rarely divorce (unless their husband is a complete alcoholic and abuser). Such women have been cheating for years and most often with a married man because they are married because of their children and financial dependence on the man. Finally, I want to say that infidelity, although a serious offense, is not unforgivable and must end in divorce. If the sinner has repentance, has the determination to stop, there is sincere regret for what was done, if it is an accident (we know how these things happen at various company banquets, ahu ihi and in bed with a colleague), then the deceived spouse if there is forces let him forgive. However, the issue of trust is different, and there is the key, because if it is destroyed, it can almost never be rebuilt. Therefore, each case is strictly individual and although there are common things, there is no 100% uniform recipe. The fact is that only about 35% of marriages marred by infidelity survive. The fact is that 90% of these are usually families in which he has cheated on the man. When a woman cheats, it almost always means the end of that family. The reasons are that men are generally more inclined to repent after infidelity, that men are much less likely to fall in love with their lovers and even in most cases it is just sex without feelings involved and of course I should finally mention that women whose men who have cheated are more likely to be forgiven. When a woman cheats, it almost always means the end of that family. The reasons are that men are generally more inclined to repent after infidelity, that men are much less likely to fall in love with their lovers and even in most cases it is just sex without feelings involved and of course I should finally mention that women whose men who have cheated are more likely to be forgiven. When a woman cheats, it almost always means the end of that family. The reasons are that men are generally more inclined to repent after infidelity, that men are much less likely to fall in love with their lovers and even in most cases it is just sex without feelings involved and of course I should finally mention that women whose men who have cheated are more likely to be forgiven.

   Author, I read the comments for 2 days. I see you have a great desire to make things right, but you don't have many moves left on the chessboard. Have you thought about the option of finding her lover's wife and describing the whole picture to her? I am very interested in whether after that they will not "squeeze" the gentleman's sarms and whether he will dare to leave his family to have fun with your wife! I suggest you try and if I'm right, she will beat your wife's jester and she will at least realize what kind of person she has met in his and in your face! Success!

   To # 4 Are you a man or a woman? It's hard for me to understand from what angle you're looking: are you scalded? Or is it not over yet? I support your opinion about the future and the advice for the child. Well done!

   To numbers 21, 22 and 23. I am number 14. Thank you for the qualification you gave me. For information only, posts 4 and 15 are also mine. You can read post 4 again to realize that I'm not really the adulteress in my family. But anyway, you spewed slop. And I really wanted to say the following. I DO NOT APPROVE THE BETRAYAL IN ANY FORM. Male, female, one-time, long-term. This is my view. I APPROVE AND RESPECT with GREAT RESPECT people who have the dignity and strength to stand up to the person they are with and to say one thing in their eyes: sorry, there is another person in my life, let's stop here, I'm happy with him or sorry, I made a mistake, let's try to continue and help each other. Here it is. Because every person is free in his soul and is not insured against falling in love. But falling in love passes and then comes the moment of self-esteem. And it is based on the inner feeling of the person next to you. As for the fact that indeed the male infidelity is widely viewed favorably, in the way I described before, and the female on the contrary - I stand behind my words. This is misunderstood and typical of ours. This is what I meant by our oriental thinking. I hope you understand me.

   To comment 26: I am interested in your position - Bravo. I want to hear your opinion - what is happening and what are the statistics in the following case: married for 18 years, 2 children and suddenly the wife herself admits that until yesterday she slipped several times, but only with one. Without falling in love !! ?? So - what awaits me? Thanks for the opinion.

   Dude, you didn't do anything. Whores are looking for men like you, loyal, in love, caring, to support them all their lives, and they will shout left and right. You just made a mistake with the choice, accept it. You are not guilty, you are not the first, nor will you be the last. I also almost fell into such a trap, but I was lucky that she quickly found another who really saved me from her. If it weren't for him, I wouldn't have a chance to open my eyes in the near future. You can't go back in time, but you have all the prerequisites to be happy in the future. Divorce quickly, try to take the child, if necessary give her some money to separate with her and forget about her. It is very likely that when he makes a living with the other, he will come back and roar at you. In no case do not accept it, because in time history will repeat itself, triple, etc.

   by the author In the end today I just got fed up and told her I wanted a divorce. I talked to my lawyer and it remains to arrange custody, because with a mother like her my child will not grow.

   to № 38 - after reading your whole story carefully, I can't believe you decided to divorce. In what I am writing to you, I am 200 percent sure. After a while, you may part, but not with your request, and even if you make a request, you will take your wife home at her first banging and roar at the door. Your goal is to stop the comments here. OT - a 65-year-old man, with a profession with the help of which he has seen many family dramas and their development, and also studied the psychology of people.

   by the author There is no way to live with the other because he is married with a small child and is standing on his ass. Men in such cases think a little more. She lost everything, and he had fun and didn't even look for her anymore and covered himself completely. I wonder how things will develop with guardianship. She has no job, no home, nothing. She has no social contacts because until the age of 18 she was in TVU under police protection and was put on a state search several times. And with that attitude, I don't know exactly what my child will learn. Disrespect, lies, hypocrisy? !? !! I just don't know if any court gives her the rights over the child, this will be another mockery of the legislature in Bulgaria. (and yes, I'm still wondering who would bother me to take it, so there's no need for comments aimed at that)

   from the author to number 31 It will not be felt at all. To this day, she has not said a single thing. Nothing. Absolutely nothing. He behaves arrogantly and aggressively all the time, I have almost cheated. Her own father advised me to take my child and leave her, because she is a lost cause and will never recover. You can imagine what kind of person we are talking about ...

   I am also a man “just like the author. Is the opinion of number 6 too extreme for me? With such attitudes, life in the family is either Paradise, but it can come to the partner a little above the point of overflow - and then something makes a "click" and ... became a plague. So the idea is - a lot of fanaticism, it also seems not the best for a man or a woman. And that in each of us (the man and the woman in the family) there are parts of the Pig and the Cow is a fact, in my opinion. But here they have to insert some * literate conclusion * the successful mistress or Kmann and then everything becomes clear. And during this time, some exchange fluids / outside the family, others get divorced, suffer or enjoy. And some - just write !! Who are you from?

   Number 35, your question cannot be answered with certainty, but just watch. One thing is for sure, namely the trust you had and you no longer have! Of all that has been written about infidelity, the most frightening and true is that it simply destroys trust. It takes more than effort on both sides to rebuild. Unfortunately, real life proves to us that infidelity is rarely one-time. Of course, each case is always specific. Make an effort to keep your marriage, but watch it and sober up a little for the small traces that women betray. They think they are very cunning, but in fact they are not so cunning, and just some men are too naive. If there is another infidelity, you will easily catch it. I suspect she cheated on you with a married man. That's why there was no development, but know that rarely a woman cheats without feelings involved. Women, who cheat without feelings and fuck about sports with this and that are ordinary whores and are usually like that all their lives. After yours admitted to you that several times with only one, then she is not of that type of whores, but just had a thrill to the other. Now, if she has repentance and sincerely regrets - forgive her, but clearly show her that the next shoot she flew out like a rag. This is my opinion, of course. There are men who know about the infidelities of their wives, but endure all their lives. However, this is not for everyone. I remember a neighbor whose wife was a nurse. This lady has been fucking like a madman all her life, and she knows the whole neighborhood and the whole clinic about her infidelities. The man is tolerant, they live together, but to be honest, I don't understand what this psyche is. Their children are already big, raised and the man is still fighting with her. Maybe she's calmed down, does anyone know, although an awl in a bag does not stand, as they say. Nobody knows what awaits you. In the end, the choice is yours, you decide, but keep in mind that her infidelities may continue. After she confessed to you, she is a kind of positive sign, but maybe just to calm your conscience. she said what she did to them. Now it is important not to tease too much, not to be too cruel to her, at least do not whip her with words, because if she really regrets, the constant teasing can ruin her and give up your marriage. but maybe just to calm her conscience she told you what she did. Now it is important not to tease too much, not to be too cruel to her, at least do not whip her with words, because if she really regrets, the constant teasing can ruin her and give up your marriage. but maybe just to calm her conscience she told you what she did. Now it is important not to tease too much, not to be too cruel to her, at least do not whip her with words, because if she really regrets, the constant teasing can ruin her and give up your marriage.

   I'm number 18. Why did you write "support" in quotes? !! We are bystanders, you are right. But do you think it didn't happen to us !? My last relationship ended because of infidelity, I also behaved humanely, I took care of the person next to me, and he attacked me more than once. I found no other fault but to put up with it. What was it like for me to be physically and mentally crushed, to be mocked !? But I didn't whine like you, believe me. You are very vulnerable, others do not like such people and really run away from them. I was strong, I followed the same thing I WROTE TO YOU! So, basically I know what it is. Although it's not exactly the same, yes! I gave you courage and I told you to do it, because no one will do it for you. You're whining again. No, I don't want to be rude! I like you, you are a decent person, but be strong! Because no one will be like that for you. Watch your baby and forget about this woman, she doesn't deserve you. She should have talked to you, explained, I agree, she didn't. Then why do you want her back !? I know it's not that easy to end, but I think you should. And don't be so easily hurt. Look ahead with a smile, otherwise I tell you you will not find happiness. I say again - I know you feel misunderstood, this is one of the nastiest feelings in the world. But the more you whine, the worse it will get! I wish you success again !!! - Edelweiss And don't be so easily hurt. Look ahead with a smile, otherwise I tell you you will not find happiness. I say again - I know you feel misunderstood, this is one of the nastiest feelings in the world. But the more you whine, the worse it will get! I wish you success again !!! - Edelweiss And don't be so easily hurt. Look ahead with a smile, otherwise I tell you you will not find happiness. I say again - I know you feel misunderstood, this is one of the nastiest feelings in the world. But the more you whine, the worse it will get! I wish you success again !!! - Edelweiss

   After the last comments of the author, I think everyone understood what kind of woman we are talking about. This is rubbish and nothing more. It is a pity that the author cheated with such a woman to start a family, but many supposedly decent people have done the same for years, so there is never a guarantee. Women are strange creatures who do not understand themselves and even if they have everything, they are capable of all kinds of pigs to experience some deceptive moments. The woman lives for the moment that sweeps her away and she becomes like a zombie. Until yesterday, she was a principled and moral and suddenly a completely different person.

   Man - Author, welcome to .... The Matrix of Family Life! And what did he see through the other eyes? If any of the stories and comments here have helped you, then good - it makes sense. You've written about your pain before. Ok, but from my own bitter experience I've found that the many explanations here and chewing on your "story / chewing gum" only brings you more pain and you revolve in the vicious circle of victims. WHY ?? Spit, then rub / says the people / And go ahead with your child and the conclusion that you have sinned with this woman. I am writing all this to you because I also gnawed on a similar tree / after many years of harmonious marriage and children and .... Anyway - I was not an Angel and I do not preach to you the fanatical UTOPIA on number 6/30. answer your questions - 1. how to deal with pain 2. how to overcome thoughts 3. why you continue to harass. 1. When you accept that you are a fine person and you did not assume that something could affect you so deeply. After 1 year it dulls. 2. Difficult and even impossible for you in your current state. Just accept that there are things you can't understand. And don't bother - it's not necessary anymore !! 3. Because for you she is your first wife and everything related to this part of your life. And because in your daughter's eyes you see how the problems are not solved yet, and you have to make a decision for the coming months and years. For you and your child. So how is it now - clearer to you? Or as number 8 said, "saving the drowning is a problem of the drowning themselves ... and to write and not to write here, you have to deal with everything yourself ..." !! ?? Super accurate. If you want to hear smart, useful opinions of mature people - read again and think why and what they write you numbers 1, 4, 17, 39, etc. To Nr. 34 - I think I read your thoughts ?? and I like your position / it is a pleasure to read the view on what is being discussed. Well done!! I just want to insert about "oriental thinking" - you're wrong !! From my case and opinions about it from "Western European acquaintances of mine" - "BETRAYAL IN ANY FORM" is "Infidelity !! No matter man or woman. And with your vision of Disapproval and Respect - I take off your hat - it sounds so good! M44 And with your vision of Disapproval and Respect - I take off your hat - it sounds so good! M44 And with your vision of Disapproval and Respect - I take off your hat - it sounds so good! M44

   And what if I am faithful to my husband, someone will tell me well. What do I get in return stuffed big horns, 12 years of empty talk that he loves me. We have come to a separation and what, forgiving things repeat themselves. I've been fighting windmills all my life because I loved it so much. I have already come to the conclusion that infidels live better than their loyal partner. And yes, I will cheat on him, so I haven't had sex in a year. Let me be a hollow watering can. Author, do not swallow infidelity, because most likely things will happen again in time. She will get used to being forgiven. Fix your life while it's time.

   Number 47, don't cheat, end your parody marriage. Then you will find a man and so on. However, infidelity seriously damages the human psyche. Women and men who have cheated know this very well.

   From 35 to 43. THANK YOU !! Thanks for your answer and the time you spent - it helped us too. Wisely and accurately! Your guess about the third party in the triangle is not accurate - he is a 31-year-old, free and "attractive piece" truck driver. So keep in mind that sometimes women can just step on the wrong side and slip ... out of stupidity. We are PEOPLE !! And whether with feelings or from squirrels - it does not matter. Once again - thank you and .... Smart / and with you everything seems to be not rosy. I allow myself this (if you want you will understand it) from the position of already suffering. I wish you and the Author to be OK again. If you want to remove the heavy word "K .... / rava" from your dictionary !? It does not suit your logical style of expression.

   Brother, if I'm on you, I'll throw such a brutal fight at him that he'll get a fear neurosis (if it doesn't break)

   I see that one specific word has not been mentioned by anyone so far. I'm not surprised, because she's scary and repulses a huge percentage of Bulgarians who are used to solving their own problems, with clenched fists and clenched teeth. I will mention it and immediately continue with its definition, copied through the depths of the Bulgarian Internet. Psychotherapist. A doctor who provides medical care based mainly on non-drug treatment. But as a rule, psychotherapists work with mentally healthy people (in exceptional cases, the so-called "borderline states" - neuroses, depression, etc.) Psychotherapy - this is "healing by words," going back to the past, to the patient's intimate embrace. The psychotherapist aims to open the client's eyes to the subjective picture of the problem, and to look for means in his soul, resources needed to solve the problem. Author, it's too late for me to write an opinion and I will probably repeat some of what has already been said, but the following things are obvious to me: You have a problem, this is clear, but it is a problem that must be solved. And it must be resolved as soon as possible, because the more you postpone it and hope for a miracle, the more you will collapse ... and your daughter, in the meantime, will grow. If your wife doesn't stop at anything, nothing will stop her from manipulating her and making her angry against you. Because I have witnessed just such a case. I don't want to scare you, but you have to keep that in mind. A supposedly happy marriage, nothing special, and suddenly a collapse. A cruel scandal. Divorce. Then it turned out that the woman had a lover, and the man was almost kicked in the street, no matter that it was his apartment. I don't know how he endured mentally and my hair stood on end, even just thinking about the stories he told me and my family - heartbroken, offended and confused ... how his own son cursed at his mother and punched him. , how his daughter spits in his face and demonstratively throws his clothes out the window ... and then calls him to yell at him on the phone, to pay her, you know, for his education abroad. The difference between you and him is that your daughter is a year or two old now and hardly understands what was going on when he was a teenager when it all happened. That is, this problem is not only about you and your feelings, but also about your daughter's future. As you describe the mother, it is entirely up to you (and your health) what happens when you grow up. Even if the impossible happens and your wife comes back to you, remorseful, think of the above story and wonder if you would tolerate the same thing happening to you if your wife ran another year later and the wheel turned again ... but this time with another family member, your flesh and blood and which, manipulated and set against you, curses, spits and screams at you. It is clear that you cannot solve this problem alone. I don't think that reading the internet will help you much, even though extremely decent people have responded, as far as I can judge from some of the opinions, because I read them in one breath and opened my eyes to many things about my own life. So, as other people wrote to you - tighten up. But not because you are a man and this is expected of men, but because you are above all a parent, and this is exactly what is expected of them. You HAVE meaning in your life, even though the mother of that meaning is rubbish. Tremble over her and give yourself to her more, than you give yourself to your partner so that your daughter does not become a copy of her mother. A higher meaning of life than this, say hello to him.

   From the author. Fuck and the way out is clear, it hurts me more for my little girl to have a mother like this. Can you imagine after all the twists and turns, promises, etc. Today it turned out that he continues to see his lover and ... keep from falling. He offers me to have sex twice a week against me closing my eyes to him until we finally part ... Egati garbage