The Insecure Or Settled

   I think you should choose the one who is 29 !!!! Isabella ********

   Finally, you will choose the insecure one. This is in the nature of women. Not to say 100%, but 99% of you like to be provoked, crushed and in any other way to show you how much you do not cost for the person, and you try to prove yourself in front of him to please. On the other hand, when someone is behaving nicely and well with you, behaving properly and properly, you push them into the friend zone because they understand he is good, and you don't want to lose him as a friend. Fuck stupid logic !!! Roar that there were no gentlemen, but when he appears, you run again in the unknown. Hey, that's why I stop being a good boy, I become a jerk. There is no point in behaving well, the more times I was good, the more times I was pushed into the friend zone.

   I will objectively show you how things are, from a man's point of view, I think that's what you need. I don't put any emotions in, unlike you. First, your definitions are incorrect. The so-called insecure is a very clear, crystal clear image. The man is having fun with you, you are his girlfriend for sex and here and there something else, why not, after you allow him to be like that with you. You are not and cannot be a serious challenge for him, you are a read book and you cannot want him to look at you with different eyes, rather if you deny him your closeness, he will turn to another with thinking like yours, logically. , right? Masochist or not, you will have no future with him. The so-called settled. The man likes you, probably a lot, but he is still exploring the soil, he wants to be with you, but not at any cost, if you cut it, he will find another, not irreplaceable. I don't know how well you fit into his long-term plans given the fact that he lives abroad. You could have a future with it, but you need to download more cards to the table to clarify the picture. Conclusion: Do not be deceived by the arrogant airmen, for whom the sea is knee-deep, even if you are a masochist, you do not deserve such suffering. Give something more normal a chance, just don't act like another stupid woman, the world is full of them, be an exception. M, 34 the world is full of such, be an exception. M, 34 the world is full of such, be an exception. M, 34

   And I was faced with that choice and I chose the insecure one. Don't make my mistake! Listen to comment 3, bet on the moderate and normal person, the one who will respect you. You don't know otherwise how you will regret it later ... let me not just explain it to you ... Don't think about it at all.

   Author, I do not intend to repeat the previous comments, but I think that these girls are masochists! The more they make you tea, the more you run and then cry. Your loved ones suffer from crying - your parents, and then your children raise them. Bet on the True, passion is not love, but security and understanding. So if you want to be replaced - act!

   See to some extent you give yourself an answer to the question you asked. I read your story and my advice is not to choose either. I argue that you sympathize with the "insecure", but he shows tactless behavior by not giving you answers to any questions about your future relationship for 5 months. And the other man is a sure wing, but not what you see more in the other. In principle, once you stand at this crossroads, obviously neither one nor the other manages to offer you something better to hold on to and instantly choose one of the two. Or maybe in this case you yourself are showing frivolity and insecurity towards both. So think carefully about what you can offer your future partner and whether you are satisfied with what you will receive from him.

   From 3. I see that someone has gone to great lengths to give low marks to people who rely on a more rational, wiser approach. I bet she's a woman to whom the last sentence of my previous post applies. Of course, there is nothing wrong with that, everyone has the right to choose, and yet I urge the author, if she wants a stronger relationship, not to stop at the so-called insecure. One thing is for sure for him - he will not meet your feelings and expectations. However, if you want to experience your emotion, your life is yours :) M, 34

   Hello, sweet and confused girl! A complicated choice ... In both of them you find something that you like, that you adore and like. The following thought must have crossed your mind: "How nice it would be if the two of them got together in one man ..." Life is a series of choices that predetermine the further course of events. We have just made one choice and hop, after two steps another one is waiting for us. The easiest thing will be to tell you: "Leave it, time will tell. Don't bother with unnecessary questions and thoughts, you are young, there is still a lot to go, a lot to learn and many more men to meet". But this answer will not satisfy you, I suppose. As a woman who also suffered from wrong choices, because there was not always someone to advise me and give me a hand, and as a little older than you, I will say - bet on the safe, bet on the one who wants you and not only tells you in words, but also proves it to you. I guess you like one more as passion and temperament, and the other you feel more like a friend and confidant. Nowadays, it is difficult to meet a person you can trust, even more a man! Bet on your friend. Passion is up to time. Then there is friendship and trust. From my current age and experience, I would choose the one I can share and trust. Leave the rest of the air stuff. A serious relationship is built with trust, and I guess you want one. Bet on your friend. Passion is up to time. Then there is friendship and trust. From my current age and experience, I would choose the one I can share and trust. Leave the rest of the air stuff. A serious relationship is built with trust, and I guess you want one. Bet on your friend. Passion is up to time. Then there is friendship and trust. From my current age and experience, I would choose the one I can share and trust. Leave the rest of the air stuff. A serious relationship is built with trust, and I guess you want one.

   Thanks to everyone for the advice in the end after much thought and getting to know both of them I decided not to choose anyone ... I still like the younger boy and I can't lie to the other. But I came to the conclusion that I am not ready for a relationship with either of them or with anyone at all ... I do not like the idea that I will be alone again I will not hide, but even more alone than alone with someone :) Thanks again to everyone for the advice and especially to number 6 whose comment definitely made me think hard. The author