Hi, I'm in love with a girl, but I don't know how to tell her. I am 23 years old, she is 18 years old. In principle, I have a big problem with sharing feelings towards the opposite sex, I panic, I get nervous and do stupid things. I met her in the gym (I'm not going for that, nor am I a stripper just a note). At first we even passed each other like road signs, until once she spoke to me ... a little less .. day after day we started talking, I had even written several times. The only place I see her is the gym and only there I happen to contact her, we are from a small town, etc. I had her visible before, but little by little after the conversations an hour after training I started to like her. He constantly talks to me, comes to me, asks me about exercises and so on .. I help and .. I see a spark in her eyes, but I don't know how to approach her ... if she shakes, let's have coffee or go out somewhere, it's as if a lump is stuck in my throat and I can't say those words. I did it two years ago and I suffered because I was severely cut off and now I feel scared, I always think about what will happen in the future .. I always consider each situation with a few steps forward what would happen .. I like it as it is, neither I am perfect nor anyone could be, everyone has flaws .. My biggest problem is not only in my mind what I think .. or just to have me as a "friend" and until there. Any tips on how to tell her tactfully It is clear that every girl feels when there is something like this. But her look, the way she speaks, still gives me some hope. if she shakes, let's have coffee or go out somewhere, it's like a lump in my throat and I can't say those words. I did it two years ago and I suffered because I was severely cut off and now it seems like I'm scared, I always think about what will happen in the future .. I always consider each situation with a few steps forward what would happen .. I like it as it is, neither I am perfect nor anyone could be, everyone has flaws .. My biggest problem is not only in my mind what I think .. or just to have me as a "friend" and until there. Any tips on how to tell her tactfully? It is clear that every girl feels when there is something like this. But her look, the way she speaks, still gives me some hope. if she shakes, let's have coffee or go out somewhere, it's like a lump in my throat and I can't say those words. I did it two years ago and I suffered because I was severely cut off and now I seem to be afraid, I always think about what will happen in the future .. I always consider each situation with a few steps forward what would happen .. I like it as it is, neither I am perfect nor anyone could be, everyone has flaws .. My biggest problem is not only in my mind what I think .. or just to have me as a "friend" and until there. Any tips on how to tell her tactfully? It is clear that every girl feels when there is something like this. But her look, the way she speaks, still gives me some hope. I did it two years ago and I suffered because I was severely cut off and now it seems like I'm scared, I always think about what will happen in the future .. I always consider each situation with a few steps forward what would happen .. I like it as it is, neither I am perfect nor anyone could be, everyone has flaws .. My biggest problem is not only in my mind what I think .. or just to have me as a "friend" and until there. Any tips on how to tell her tactfully? It is clear that every girl feels when there is something like this. But her look, the way she speaks, still gives me some hope. I did it two years ago and I suffered because I was severely cut off and now I seem to be afraid, I always think about what will happen in the future .. I always consider each situation with a few steps forward what would happen .. I like it as it is, neither I am perfect nor anyone could be, everyone has flaws .. My biggest problem is not only in my mind what I think .. or just to have me as a "friend" and until there. Any tips on how to tell her tactfully? It is clear that every girl feels when there is something like this. But her look, the way she speaks, still gives me some hope. I like her as she is, neither I am perfect nor anyone could be, everyone has flaws .. My biggest problem is not only in my mind what I think .. or just to have me as a "friend" "and so on. Any tips on how to tell her more tactfully? It is clear that every girl feels when there is something like this. But her look, the way she speaks, still gives me some hope. I like her as she is, neither I am perfect nor anyone could be, everyone has flaws .. My biggest problem is not only in my mind what I think .. or just to have me as a "friend" "and so on. Any tips on how to tell her tactfully? It is clear that every girl feels when there is something like this. But her look, the way she speaks, still gives me some hope.
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You invite her for coffee first, then if she does well for dinner at a restaurant. You try to touch her from time to time and watch how she reacts. If she pulls, you pull and you let her take a step forward. If she doesn't pull, you shorten the distance and at one point you kiss her. Then you tell her you like her and want a relationship.
Well, you can't tell if it's just in your mind without checking it. And you can't check it without telling her. It may turn out that she thinks the same, but she is also afraid to admit it, not to reject her, etc. Act boldly! Invite her to go out somewhere, give her a flower, tell her something romantic, share your feelings. If she doesn't back down, invite her again, for example, on the 3rd date, hug her, try to kiss her, etc. There is nothing scary! All the billions of people on Earth that you see are the result of such confessions and shared feelings ... Won't you be able to do it? If she talks to you, then there is some interest ... I don't talk to people who are antiptytic to me :)
Hi, I am a man who has some experience in communicating with women and I think in this situation the best approach is to drive her lightly, slowly and carefully and if there is any sporting event to invite her for company to go together.
It is not important to say, but to show with attitude and gestures that you like the girl. And without that, you can only startle her if you admit it directly, so drive her more delicately. But at some point you will have to take a step if she has shown you that she likes you. Then do not stand like a stump but act. If he cuts you off, then he's not your man.
You know, you waste your time thinking, and I'm convinced of that. Just invite her out. Say what you think. Well, not right away, do you want to go. Say, for example, that you think she's pretty or something. Whatever is on your heart! I wasted my time with one for weeks - to tell her or not to tell her. In the end, I thought I was scared, I told her. She gradually pulled away from me. No one died, right? It doesn't bother me that she just doesn't want a friend right now. On the contrary. The second came. I didn't waste time and nerves with her at all. I told myself the second day since I met her. I was so in love that I didn't want to think, I just wanted to try. And guess what. She had the same feelings. What I want to say is - if it is written, it is written to you. Don't waste time and nerves. Go and act as your heart tells you.
Do nothing until you are sure when you are so shy. She may say she's not in love with you. Talk to each other, laugh. Ask her how she spends her time outside the gym. Ask her about the people she spends time with. Does she have a boyfriend. You fall for someone ... and so slowly things will come naturally. You don't have to gather courage and stuff. Just run down the stream.
Once she has spoken to you and continues to do so, you are not indifferent. Imagine that your doubts turn out to be true and she really likes you. There is no way to know if you do not do something. She took the first step, now it's your turn. If you're so ashamed of live, you say you wrote to each other, invite her like that. When you invite her on a date, you don't lose anything - you either stay in the situation you are in now or you go out with the girl. Take action.
Hang on and it will turn you away. If you see that you like it, what's your problem? You try, and if it happens - it happens, it's not the end of the world ... If you don't invite her, someone else will do it and then you will start with "How nasty women are" ...
From the Author: Thanks for the comments, I am waiting a lot and there is the problem, but just after I wrote the topic I went to Instagram and saw that she shared questions / answers .. Many people had written with the Question: "Opinion" had answered: Cute, beautiful, sweet, healthy, Kisses ... etc. PP, in principle, I'm not very interested in these social networks, but let me try. I decided to write an opinion about myself? beauty (in another language and I wrote it because she told me that she learns other languages and I'm sure she won't duplicate another question) .. the answer was: Nice, smart, funny, friend, How about 20 people didn't write a friend to anyone, and it was to me ...: D obviously what I was afraid of was that they liked me, but obviously only as a friend. I had fucked her a week ago for that, that she does cardio (walks) to a hut she had mentioned to me before. that she was going and I asked her when would you take me with you? She - well, next time we'll see. Since one of the comments here was about something like sports ... shouldn't I go outside the gym, but if she has formed an opinion as a friend, it's just hard to do the opposite. That is, to get out of friendzonata .. Now this week is coming and to spot her and to spot her in the hall with what and how to approach, after the written "friend" somehow this brought me back one or two moves. PP 2. Regarding whether I am indifferent: Every time he sees me and goes to greet me, he looks at me with bulging eyes, but in principle he does not look like that. When I talk to her, I look her straight in the eye (not so scary, but I just look at the reactions) and sometimes such a child blushes and smiles with his little smile. P.P.
You think a lot, author, but a lot. Act, otherwise your fish will run away. I'm number one.
From the Author, I still couldn't see her for a whole week .. and it doesn't make sense to write to her .. I wanted to tell her or invite her somewhere live, not through social networks. interrogation, I ask a question - an answer, no feedback .. once I didn't even ask how I am or what I do and since then I haven't written more. in real life it wasn't like that, she asks me questions, talks to me, I ask her something, she answers quite reasonably, and not with answers like yes, no. Nz ... she talks to me herself. I don't explain it to myself, or I'm a very dumb piece of pie or nz.
Artist. She pushed you into the friend zone and kept you in reserve. On this meat. Bad. But you can try something else. Just don't talk to her about love and things like that that will make you annoying. Maybe from time to time just a vague slight compliment. If you have contacts - walks, outings, try to touch her casually and not too cheeky. And to say funny, cheerful, ridiculous things, try to make her laugh. The more ridiculous, the better.
Unfortunately, I fell for her and cruelly. It's like I'm nice and good with people, it happens, you go to the zone or more precisely they reject you ... When you are honest with someone they look you in the eyes and mouth what will you say, because you are not part of the crowd, it impresses them , but it scares them obviously .. because she and the look with which she looked at me were more than interested. Anyway .. for two weeks now I have neither written nor met her .. but she told me around ... on Instagram she had written from this question% answer ... I call myself come on and I will try .. I also wrote for an opinion .. The answer was, handsome, smart, funny, friend .... how come I didn't write a friend of 20-30 answers to anyone else, and exactly to me .. and I haven't dealt with it as I already say second week. Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either.
Author, if she answers you more in person, and when you write she is laconic - she doesn't like to chat, or she is annoyed to write, something else is done to her, chatting takes a long time, and the dialogue is somehow incomplete because you don't see the other person which makes me nervous. Just be a dude, invite her to go on a trip to the mountains for the weekend. Enough with these cafes and restaurants. I am a woman.
From the Author, is the dialogue incomplete? somehow things are not connected, so she is constantly on instagram and fb and constantly shares something ... she herself told me that she does nothing but chat, share on the net ... anyway. And to be a dude and not to be, it has been seen, I don't even hope to spot her anymore, because when I see her I will wrap my head with her again.