Nobody said that it is obligatory for a girl to be with a boy for the first time ... She has to be with the right person, right I am a girl, 20, from Plovdiv. I fell in love with another girl, we have been together for a year, but we have a problem in bed. She is a virgin, I was too until she plucked my flower. But it's not that easy because it hurts a lot. He claims that if he did it with a boy, it would hurt less than with his fingers. I just think that her skin is harder to tear and even if she is with a boy, it will still hurt her, even more. What she told me was that she wanted to do it for the first time with a boy, but only until we were together. But this offended me, because: 1) I think that if you love someone and you would not think of sleeping with another; 2) I believe that if it hurts from my fingers, a member will hurt her even more; 3) how he expects while we are together just to go and get .... with someone and then come to me. Shouldn't it be the first time with the person you love? I really don't know what to do, I feel catastrophically bad ...
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Your girlfriend's way of thinking seems rather strange to me. Somehow it doesn't sound serious. But if you care so much about a member ... offer to buy a penis belt.
if he really loves you he will do it with you, if he wants to be with a boy he will not be able to swallow the pain but then you will be sick really say that she is a natural girl with a boy and vice versa but in my opinion if there is love it does not matter no logic the girl to think that a member hurts less, it hurts me a lot, but it's momentary, and you know you're in safe hands
Yes, it definitely sucks. Everyone would feel that way in your place. Well, almost everyone. Because there are all kinds of people. But don't despair - life is ahead of you. It is normal for you to want to be with another person after a while, it is even certain that it will happen. If I were a few years younger, I wouldn't believe the way I think now. However, I grew up and no longer think the same way. And it's normal, sooner or later no matter how much you love someone, no matter a girl or a mime, something happens and separates you. It's just a law. Especially with the first love ... However, this does not prevent it from being the best feeling you have ever experienced.
In principle, not only the first time, but you should always be with someone you love. But her body is hers and she decides what and with whom to do. And if you love her, you will accept her as she is. If you can't - part with her. Personally, for the first time I was with a person who is indifferent to me and I no longer had a relationship with him. So I decided. The next is the love of my life, I am with him to this day. I'm not the first woman in his life either, but that doesn't stop us from loving each other.
Maybe she's just not quite a lesbian? Could it be some easily manipulated girl you liked and lured through your domineering persona? When you love someone, you must give them the freedom to be themselves. If he doesn't want to be with you, then he doesn't want to. If you have a problem - split up and you're done.
And I have a girlfriend (I'm a girl; 17). We had heard that a girl could not lose her virginity with another girl, but with us it happened. I was in pain, but I swallowed it, it got better every time. Otherwise, I think that if she does it with a man, it will hurt her much more. Try first with one finger, give with lubricants, it works, it will work. And if she wants to do it with a boy so much, I'm sorry for you in that case. And keep in mind that nails can also be a problem, list them well. Luckily, I hope you love each other and I hope her desire for sex with a man passes, it's not who knows what, it's like a stick and it's rougher.
He just broke me with this thread: DDD
Take it tight .... 1st: I don't know what fingers you have but if she thinks it will hurt less than a member ... then it must be Asian.
"She's a virgin, I was too, until she plucked my flower." I don't know why, but instead of being romantic, this sentence sounded disgusting to me ... (
Excuse me for my ignorance, but can you tell me how a girl can lose her virginity with a girl? What does he put in, fingers, how many fingers? Does that mean that if you put your fingers in, you're already a virgin?
To number 12: I guess that inserting 2 fingers should break the hymen, therefore this is a deprivation of virginity. But I don't know, provided that it hurts her so much, how she imagines that a member won't hurt her ... Otherwise, there are disputes about taking away her virginity. For some people, this happens on the first penetration, whether there is blood or not (for some it happens that there is no blood on the first time, but then there may be if you sleep with another person with a larger member, for example). For others, it is when the hymen ruptures. And it basically breaks completely at birth. In my opinion, virginity can be taken away with fingers, I hope there is love (see the comment on number 7) .. So it should hurt less, but the girl on the topic is obviously of a different opinion, Her problem may be further into the vagina, there may be some fungus to irritate her. But do not think that if your fingers hurt, there is no member. You just have to relax. To the author: In my opinion, it would be best to separate, with this way of thinking it can cause you the most problems related to infidelity and disloyalty, you will just feel bad ... And when it hurts and she wants to do it did with a boy, then she was scared already. I guess you're not insistent, but if she doesn't relax ... then she doesn't love you at 100 and I'm sorry. But recover while it's time! It will hurt, especially if you've been together for a long time, but you'll be fine. In that case, I don't know whether to advise you to stay friends, so I think it will be harder for you. But head up. Keep in mind that you will be very sick. With this way of thinking (being with you, but sleeping with a man) will contribute to her nepukism. Abe, in general, in my opinion, this girl does not know what she wants and does not have a very clear concept of true love. I stop writing that the comment has become longer than the topic, hahaha.
The people came out with this "gagging" ... Neither decent boys nor such girls remained ..
16 <- You're right, that's right. Women consider themselves unreachable princesses and men are becoming more and more soft wrists. I don't know where the world has gone, but it's not good. R.