Hi! I want to discuss this very important moment for every adolescent moment of its development! I stress that I have not created a family yet and I do not have children, but I will nevertheless have my opinion on how I would do as a parent! I ask people of any age group to be involved in the conversation so that they share their experiences as parents or teenagers... In my opinion, the ideal age for starting a sex life regardless of gender is 16-18 years. From this point of view, I would talk freely with my children about sex, boyfriends, and love from a younger age – say 13-14 years. It is this moment that I perceive the right one when I start giving them detailed explanations about the sex life and the world of the big ones! As I will strive to perceive it right that the best age for the first intimate relationship is 16-18 years and in the period 14-16 years. I would tell them to pick carefully and even get to a seaman, limit themselves to kissing and pressing... For myself, I have come to the conclusion that the age of under 16. is not suitable for intercourse because of the undeveloped and poorly controllable emotional body of teenagers. The great lack of proper assessment for both themselves and others (which for some lasts for decades over these years... would easily lead the "child" to the wrong choice and the opportunity to put himself in danger is great. That is why I accept that open and frequent conversations at this age are of great importance for the further development of children and their personalities. We all know that girls get their first menses at the age of about 12-14 years, and boys – their first ejaculation around 14 years. (as the years can vary greatly in each of us); 11+ years. it is normal for both sexes to separate their first secretion. The boys began trying to masturbate at the age of 9, 10. And that's why I've been talking to them since then on "gender and sex," of course, more carefully. That's what makes somewhere 3rd, 4th grade! For the first time, which I will keep being aged 16-18, I would encourage children to be proactive, to boldly take the first steps and help them with enough advice on how to be successful with their first partner and the first attempts at sex! And most importantly, I have to spend free time and space on where and when to do it. It seems to me that many parents ignore precisely that children need autonomy and not accepting this fact hinders the proper and timely development of their own children. It even leads to an accumulation of fears and complexes with them that one of their parents will hear them and see them, which becomes a GREAT problem in their relationship with the other sex. Not to mention that it is precise because of this lack of "PLACE AND TIME", a part of teenagers miss the right age and the opportunity to be with a person, and it is the fault of their parents! Parents, release the terrain of your children and if you have no job find yourself, and not soak on the heads of your sons and generous and shout only "come on mom, come on mom" and "come on, Father" and so in 30 years, and someone up to the age of 50 shouts "come on mom" – full Bulgarian infantilism and brutal behavior towards your children!!! Personally, to my children, I will say that not only is it nice for their mates to sleep at home, but also orgasm, accompanied by screams and groans is a perfectly normal thing that they should not worry about and that they should not beware of "accidentally someone not to hear them"! Personally, I won't be in any way preventing me from hearing my teenage child having fun in the next room! The mass of people we do not live in large dwellings where only one floor is available, right? Then why would it be a problem for a few missed hundred of pleasures and sounds of slaps in the next room and from your children??? I perceive it perfectly normal and talk about what's wrong if they're missing! In life, I have convinced yourself that people who have suppressed the manifestations of sexual pleasure during sex at a young age experience a lasting loss of (greater) orgasm! It is as if there is a space in the "taboo", which "locks" them in front of the opportunity to relax and enjoy their partner deeply and experience the desired ecstasy! I look forward to your experiences and comments! By the author of the topic "The Numbers and age" Thanks! Author89
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ladybluex answered · June 07, 2020
If you wait until the age you mentioned, you'd be surprised that they're already quite experienced and wonder why you put on a hoodie after the rain.
And honestly, I don't think what you wrote here is your main idea.
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hillary_banks answered · June 07, 2020
Okay, but no one knows what it's going to be in years. You think it's easy having kids? I'm very interested in this situation.
Catching your daughter performing oral sex on her boyfriend and how you're going to react. If it happens. You're going to beat her up and get mad that you're guilty, or you're going to clap, you're going to even tell her how to do it?
I'm really going to be interested, and I'm asking you to answer my question.
Because it's one thing where you think and it's another thing to have children and know what it is!
I'il expect an answer.
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s_slave19 answered · June 07, 2020
First of all, it's too early for you to think about things like that. By the time it's time for these conversations, given that you don't even have a girlfriend right now, you're going to have so much new experience, and so many times you're going to have changed your worldview that there's nothing left of your current push.
Second, children need to talk about these topics, but your ideas cross the boundaries of normality. So you've already prepared a schedule for them what age to do? Quite rude and getting into the intimate life of children and totally out of place for a single parent.
And third, the one with listening to the moans is super cryepy. And with the above, it was already moving on the insular border, but here it has already skipped it. Wake up!
Author, I'm going to be completely honest, because I think it'il be helpful. You sound very immature. I think you still have a lot to grow before you make bills, how to raise other people. I think you're also designing some of your own unlived fantasies on your potential children. That's not healthy. Think carefully about what I'm saying.
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gibsonic answered · June 07, 2020
People, the subject is a provocation on my part to see what parents' attitudes to their children are about their sex lives and how they raise them, if they talk about it at all... In the subject of the vibrator, I read some scary nonsense, and if this topic is really true, I thought about the issue of sexual culture, which is passed on to children at home!
Don't look globally at what I've described as situations! Of course it's going to look crazy to you in general! What about how you do to your own children?
And let teenagers say what disturbs them in their parents' behavior regarding their sex lives?
And as I expected, someone immediately started to think that the kids would be on a*-ball before I opened my mouth... That's why I mentioned the age 9-10 !!!
And for the moans, you're interpreting it as a pervert who's going to hear... And my idea is – what do you do if you find your teenage child having sex or leaving his room with a hot flaming face? And I put it back into the subject because of the things that were written about the vibrator... Know.
Don't give me "nice" tips for raising children! That's not the point...
Tell me how you raise your own!?
Otherwise, the subject loses meaning...
Greetings!
By The Author
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ahunny242 answered · June 07, 2020
I will bring my comment down to the following:
1. I will make sure my children receive a theoretical sex education before they are hit by the hormone so they know what is happening to them and what and how to do (or not). I educated myself at 8, from books found in the home library - I find the method and age appropriate.
2. Relying on the above and assuming that they are aware of sexual processes, relationships, hygiene and safety - I will let them decide when, with whom and what they will do.
3. I will stay available for questions, advice or assistance if they want any. And I'il make sure I'm not home if I know they've planned a sex night (for example). Their personal life is theirs, and I will limit my presence in it to the extent that they themselves feel necessary.
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theninjanymph answered · June 07, 2020
What are you going to do, haven't you seen the gum-orbit ad? When the girl's father found them, what did the boy do, suck gum orbit and grin at the father - hi, I'm Joro, and the father as he heard it, he grinned. Children are more informed than their parents, there is nothing to give them the brains, times are different!
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bjursta1991 answered · June 08, 2020
There are no strictly age-appropriate for these conversations. My parents would sit down and talk to me whenever I asked her these kinds of questions, whether I was 6, 12 or so.
The example that I have seen and which I find correct according to my views, be one of those who always say "when you grow up I will tell you", you will answer so once, twice, and in the end the child will find everything that interests him on the internet. In my opinion, the most appropriate thing is to face the child's question and answer according to the situation, to explain so that the child understands you according to his age. I don't have children myself, but I have nephews, and I often face questions about sex lives asked by them. I try to explain things to them in a way that they'il understand me. Nowadays there are many educational films that are quite useful, you can safely use someone in understandable words than genetics, children are interested in it.
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melissahot2020 answered · June 08, 2020
What you're thinking is one thing. The truth is, your kids won't care at what age you think they should have sex. Otherwise, I agree with everything else. We need to talk to children from as early a young as possible, and by that I mean not to explain how the stork carries the children. I think 13-14 is a pretty late age for talking to the "birds and bees." From the age of 9-10, basic things need to be explained - the gender gap, that sex is not a bad thing and that no one has the right to make them do something they don't want. This includes it is good to build a stable relationship of trust with the child. Later, at the latest 5th grade, I think it is good to start talking about protective equipment and diseases. I personally lost my virginity between the 6th and 7th grades (12 and a half) and although I knew how it should always be with a condom, etc. I did not consider it necessary to insist. You'd better talk early with your kids and not make mistakes like that.
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