Have you ever met someone on the Internet, written to each other and liked communication? Everything is fine until you both send each other your photos and ... something crashes. The person you enjoyed interacting with is visually unpleasant. Strange thing, isn't it? We are not talking about long communication, we are not talking about love and making plans ... such things are crazy to do with a stranger from the Internet. We are talking about pleasant communication, with a polite and relatively smart person who does not have any irritating complexes that interfere with your communication, have conversations in which you have similar opinions, etc. All this can lead to pleasant emotions, but once you see what this person looks like - you no longer have the desire to communicate. There are no unique people to try to compromise for. And just - you disappear because you are not given explanations, as if you are obliged to justify your decision. The thought creeps in that this person may be left with a damaged ego or shake his self-esteem, but what if he is highly emotional and such an attitude triggers a depressed state in him? But you tell yourself that he will survive it, everything passes, there is nothing scary. There is nothing scary in an explanation like "I'm happy to communicate, but after seeing what you look like, I don't feel like I want to continue, even as acquaintances" ... the problem is not in this sentence, but in the subsequent questions. . Everyone has the right to free choice without explanation. And no - this type of disappearance without explanation - is not disrespect, but a personal choice that has nothing personal to the person opposite. I can say the same about "live" dating, you meet because you liked the look, but after an hour of talking - you realize that you don't like the person opposite. You get up and leave without feeling uncomfortable or giving explanations. It is your personal right.
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Yes, it is a choice, but it is cowardly and selfish. You do not need to give a specific and detailed explanation to the person on the other side, but you owe him at least some end. And not to let him wonder and torment what happened, why it happened, whether he should do something, etc. Especially if you've had some longer communication, it's not like you went out on a date and didn't fit in. So, you can justify this "choice" as much as you want, but it only serves you, your fears, your lack of dignity and unwillingness to put yourself in a slightly unpleasant situation for you, although in this way you will put the other in a much more bad one.