My story is quite banal, but once I get here for advice, things still can't find a solution on their own. My friend and I have been together shortly after February 14 (this year), and we have known each other since St. Stephen's Day. The story began in a long pursuit on his part, patiently and tenderly he courted me, and I firmly did not give him a month and a half, despite everything, things went ... From the beginning, as maybe every relationship, everything was ok, but very soon everything changed. It's not my first relationship, I think I have some experience, but this guy is just stepping on me. Almost daily quarrels began, it always had to be what he wanted and he stopped complying with my desire for anything, at first I thought I should keep quiet, thinking that he was coming back to me in this way for the long time in which he "chased" me, and I didn't give in to him, but at one point I got used to being silent. Those around me, who were aware of the situation, encouraged me to show character, but I did not, so as not to lose it. It so happened that about a month ago we had an argument (because one day I waited for him for a long time in front of the front door, given the fact that half an hour before we talked that I go to them and do not turn off the phone because he was asleep, yes but no he heard me and I waited long enough for him to be rude to him when he opened it for me, and for him to be affected so much that when he woke up and I was waiting for him in the kitchen, to make dinner and go eat in the other room, whereupon I left, and he directly told me that he would not chase me, but that I had bought beer on the way back), no phones for a whole week, nothing ... I had to give him money and I decided that this would be the occasion to see me, at which, however, he postponed our meeting because you had work to do. I drank, I couldn't stand it and I wrote to him that I was sick, and he told me if I wanted to go to them, which I supposedly did. Things got better. A week later he had forgotten to come and pick me up for a gathering, at which I was angry with his phone, for which he also scolded me, but very brutally, in front of the people he was with (and he knows that my mother died). I went to the place in question and after thousands of apologies, things got better again, I swallowed again ... He recently told me that I was fat, that I needed to lose weight, and I hadn't moved since we met, and then he liked it. Yes, I am fluffy 170 cm 66 kg with pronounced shapes, which I used to like, but now I don't notice .... He is a civil servant with the typical belly which is awful, but it is not an obstacle to be with him even though he is a 24 year old man and 197 it suits him anyway i love him. I really haven't moved in my weight, unlike him, but yesterday I was already overweight. I bought a rocker that he wanted to see how I felt after I put it on, in front of everyone who was in the room (our friends), he said I definitely needed to lose weight and I had cellulite (laughed, but not jokingly), I I countered, and the others defended me because he was wrong. Then I resented him for not thinking about when and what he was saying, and a note of swearing was heard again, but I pretended not to hear him. It so happened that I had to sleep in them, they left us there, and I couldn't catch a taxi at 1 o'clock at night to the other end of town. Today, when I got up and tried to have a conversation with "what are you doing" and when he answered "I do what I want", I smoked a cigarette in their kitchen and left, politely saying "bye" These days he goes to sea and is definitely happy that he will go with his colleague and not with me, for some unknown reason. I don't know him well, but I know there is no other woman, we all know that, we just can't figure out what his problem is. Many times I try to tell myself that I have to dump him, but I don't have the courage, either because I'm afraid I'll lose him (men hurt), or because I blindly love him, I don't complain about fans, they are, but I want him or at least the one he was when we met, not this horrible creature he has become now and I remember being a woman twice a month .... I really don't know what else I do with him, give advice. Our friends tell me to dump him and wait for him to look for me, that he would do it, yes, but I don't think he will do it, and maybe that's why I'm afraid to decide, I just have to be ready to lose him. ,, and I am not. This is my story that I really have no solution for ...
1 stargazer1066 answered
Drop it! As you men say pain! He doesn't respect you, you don't need a man like that. You must be wanted, wanted, loved and respected, not trampled on. How long do you think you will last with him? I think you can find something much better!