Hello, I have been reading your stories for a long time and I see that many of you have been through this or are about to. So I decided to share with you my story and the benefits of it, hoping to help at least a little and give hope. It all started a few years ago when I met her, a small and curly girl who did not say a word and just smiled, immediately startled me from the first time, but unfortunately then she had a boyfriend. Luckily for me, she joined my company and so we were together every week for a year. I didn't want to ruin her relationship because I did it before and nothing good happens after that. I waited and then my moment came. Everything happened on the first date, I had the feeling that I had been with her all my life, everything was going so smoothly. This lasted for almost 3 years, years in which we did not quarrel once, everything was perfect. There came a time when she was going through a difficult period, she was confused and started behaving strangely, until the time came when she said the painfully familiar phrase "let's break up for a while to make sense of our lives." After a series of conversations, I agreed because she needed it (or so I thought). I lived with her then. I remember the day before I took my luggage out, something inside me and I looked at her phone, something I had never done before. And accordingly I saw a text message from her colleague in which he explained to her in love. As I always blindly believed her for everything, she easily blinded me that there was nothing, and I foolishly believe. I packed my bags the next day while she was at work, but this text did not come out of my head. I decided to enter her personal space to see what was in question. Well, what I understand I do not wish on anyone.
Great catharsis, everything collapsed. I didn't want to see her, I was sick for two months. Then, with the help of my friends, I was able to get back on my feet. And then I decided to get it back. The biggest mistake on earth, I changed completely, my fixed idea was to seek solace in different women. Well, to some extent it worked, but it led to a great desire to get it back. During this time, she was with the colleague in question, who is 13 years older than her, who had been trying for months to ruin our relationship. It worked out for him. Somehow I swallowed (I could never really swallow what happened), I betrayed her betrayal a little over half a year later. So what? When I got it back, I didn't know what to do, I despised it, I didn't know if it was right, I hated her in parts, but the good moments kept me happy again. Yes, but no, we were both different people. But we still tried.
Well, nothing good came out, scandals, jealousy nothing was like before. These were the most difficult 5 months of my life. Until I put an end to everything. It was over, she was no longer the girl of my life, there was no love. And so it all ended between us. And now for the benefit? This experience changed me radically as a person and a character. I learned to appreciate, one of the mistakes I had made was taking the person for granted, I never thought I could lose him. I learned not to blindly believe everything with the thought that this person was close to me and would not hurt me. I realized what things I had closed my eyes unconsciously, blinded by emotion. I've learned that no matter how happy a person is to her, he will always miss something. And the most important thing I've learned is to get things done. The fear that haunted me that I would not be able to find such a person that I could be alone for the rest of my life was gone. Advice to people who are wondering whether to give a second chance. Nothing will happen, but give it so that you can realize for yourself that the person is not for you until you realize that this is not the half for you, this thought will constantly haunt you. And one more thing, don't postpone the inevitable, personally I have postponed a lot of things for a more appropriate moment, but I was really deceived because I didn't have enough courage.
Life goes by at the speed of light, before I remember how fast my day passed, now my week passes at the same speed. And I realize how many good and bad things I miss. As we know, there is no complete happiness with every good thing comes the bad. So do not hesitate but act. I hope I have been at least a little helpful to any of you.
1 presidencemada answered
An interesting story