The Another One And Typical Female Story

Try to see your husband you had feelings for before him. Do things distract you. Or just give it to him, maybe they'il drink things.

How to stop loving the wrong person. Not at all! How do you forget someone you see every day? Not at all! There's no cure for that, and time won't help you. Trust me. I've been like this for six years. It's a similar situation, except he's married... Obstacles all you want. Including age difference. Congratulations for resisting despite the overwhelming desire, passion, etc. And you didn't break up your family and your child's life. I also showed common sense and did not give in. But only whoever hasn't experienced it doesn't know how much it hurts to want someone so hard, but you can't even tell yourself.. for a number of reasons. For example, things will never happen because we are very conscientious, honest and honest. My advice is not to write to him, not to look for him, to keep the good tone, without explanation. I didn't let the man in question into a social. networks, it's enough for me to see him every day, keep his family safe. I learned to live with these unspoken and unspoken feelings, I learned to ignore the words ( and the few he speaks to me), I learned to ignore his looks and touches. Basically, we're just taking it to a salute. We're both running away from conversations. But the fear of the thrill must be evident! How do I try to escape from everything... I enrolled second, i'm busy with work, exams, housework and childcare. I play sports, and these are the ways i don't think about this guy. And the best part of the whole situation is that I realized I wanted a second child. Think about it. By the time you feel sorry for this man, it may be too late! Greetings.

There's a job to be, and money is made by a girl while you're in front of you, you can't forget it, and if you catch yourself in a weak moment, you're going to bloom :) The other option is to confess to your husband, after all, you have not consumed with the colleague, and to go to a psychologist for couples together, solutions there are, easily not ;) Good luck and don't bother, it can happen to anyone. You haven't done anything irreversible yet.

Emotional infidelity is the same meanness as physical. Likewise, you lie to your partner, hide, lie and smear, even your sex is fake and hypocrisy when you think of someone else. I don't feel sorry for you, because I suffer from the same kind of infidelity, only that I'm on the opposite side - my husband hooked up with a co-star like you. And he paused before "consuming" their relationship. But for me, it's all the same. Now we are a family only formally and for others. Your pain now is the price of lying and meanness. Every iter, whatever they've had, you know. It would have been easier if you didn't see him at all, but by choosing the hard way... You're going to get sick somehow, but the scars remain.

From author to number 2 It's clear to me that time doesn't help, but I can't help but hope. About the second child, I don't want to. I just don't want anything else, especially with that confused head. What scares me the most is the crazy jealousy I have. Because I know he won't always be alone. And I don't have any rights to test her, but it's eating me up. But he's nice, he's nice and he's good... It's natural for him to move on with his life. I'm the only one who's going to sit here and cry. Why are women always stupid and succumbing?

I think this man doesn't love you. I advise you, as I would advise my best friend.

You don't love your husband! You're in love with someone else! You're on fire! That's how I burned it. To the point where I was in love, it affected me so badly that I couldn't hide it anymore. It's just that at some point you take the cards off and when you're pressed by your soul mate, you admit everything. A divorce ensued. The psyche of both me and my child and my husband collapsed. Right now, I needed him, the one I loved, and he loved me. It was at that moment that he decided to step aside forever. He didn't want to take responsibility, he didn't want to look after someone else's child, he didn't want to get into other people's troubles. I guess I was a foreign problem myself. He was single. Now he has another with no past, no "trailers", ready to give birth to his children. I have a great sin for my child. I left him without a father, and the little one suffers from his dad. There is nothing more important than the happiness of your child, and no man who is foreign to him is worth more than the future of your child, especially who has a caring father by his side. Find a way and strength and keep your family. Now you don't understand it, but there will come a time when you'il cry for it.

No 5 - Just because you don't have the will and enough sense doesn't mean all women are like that. Speak only for yourself and say "I'm stupid." I assume you'il let him go as long as he asks for it more insistently.

I'm number two. Your head is confused because even though you realize what's right, you have expectations. Jealousy is the result of these expectations. If you really care about the man, you have to realize that he has the right to be with whoever he wants to be with, if he wants to be with a married woman. That's his choice. He's free! You're busy! You have to accept the situation and look at what happened. For a third person to show up, though only in your thoughts, there's a reason. I've figured out the reason for myself. For many years I suffered and hoped. Things didn't change. I just realized more and more that it didn't make sense. Neither I nor he took a step. Time can help you accept the situation. But time won't kill your feelings. It's very ridiculous and difficult, but it's a fact. I'm under the impression that you haven't decided yet if you want this man in your life or don't want it... And you don't have to cry. And you're not stupid, and not all women succumb, and not all of those who succumb are stupid... :)For every action there's a reason.. There are two options. Or try to create situations where you can make sure that he will disappoint you, because love very naturally and quickly ends after disappointment.. Or quit your job. The easiest and most reasonable option. For me, the disappointment didn't work out, it even proved more and more. But I quit my job - not because of him - but for other reasons, now I'm calm, i don't strain my presence. We see each other a lot, but in the neighborhood, we just say hello. That's it. There's no other way. We are big people and we are responsible for what we do.

Author: I'm very clear about the consequences of my actions. I'm trying to make sure I don't have irreversible consequences. But it's very interesting how you give sentences with ease. I'm not fooling myself that I have a future with him, nor that he has the same feelings. In fact, he's a responsible, decent man, and we never promised each other anything. Not that this changes anything, but my husband had a mistress years ago. I don't think that could justify my actions. Because when you give yourself a chance and forgive, you don't do the same thing. Just just say, "Don't let me have enough." I never thought it was necessary for this to happen to me, but it happens to those who don't expect it. At the age of 30, I experienced feelings as a 15-year-old. I can certainly argue that feelings for this wrong person are the best and strongest thing I've ever experienced. And at the same time the most terrible and disastrous. Thanks for your points of view and advice! It's a shame I'm not emotionally mature enough to look sharp and take things easy.

6, I'm not the author, but why is someone always on this site slapping "very bad" or similar comment? The woman pours out her feelings, her grief, she can tell she's a nice guy and - bam! "You're so bad"! You're not bad. I don't know what to advise you but to let your feelings cool down over time.

2015- 2015 I'm not a woman, I'm not with children, nor am I married. But I'il try to give some advice. In my opinion, for this to happen, to forget about the feelings between you, you both have to set yourself up. You have to take the situation seriously and decide that from now on, your relationship becomes collegial. No unnecessary intimacy, revelation, etc. Also, limit your thoughts to the person. Get in your step when you're imagining some situations with him again and immediately direct your thoughts to another, more important direction. You have to limit the time you spend in your mind. I believe that if you keep this in time, everything will pass. Time helps. When you think of yourself as an intelligent woman, then you can look at the situation from a rational point of view. After all, love is just a brain reaction to an attachment to another person. When he gets what he wants, he releases hormones of happiness. And when it's taken away, what he's attached to, he starts to experience the symptoms of withdrawal. It's as dependent as cigarettes, drugs, etc. And how do you treat addictions? Well, there I did not care much, but I think the most important thing is to limit access to the object of dependence. - Brattan Jr.

I'm number two. See... you are intelligent, and this is evident in both your statement and your way of thinking. Ignore the reprenement and hasty conclusions that some people "feed". No one's in your shoes that they've come your way. No one has the right to sue you, and that's the easiest thing to do. But what's the use... I know how you feel because I've been through a story like this. I can definitely say that such feelings for my husband I have not experienced and certainly will not experience for the rest of my life. I've learned my lesson without cheating, and without hurting my family. The power of my feelings for the other person has killed me enough for years, and that's punishment enough. You know what I'm talking about. My heart hurts. It still hurts. I've been thinking a lot and I've been analyzing a lot. But there's no point in that. At one point, I began to realize that despite all the good moments, stolen smiles, glances and nice conversations. That's it. I had no right to live anything more. But some don't live that either. I had (and is) love. Shown and proven on both sides, delicately and in children's... That hurts even more. You haven't made your relationship clear, you don't really know him enough, he may also have serious feelings for you, but if he told you there were no obstacles on his part, why didn't he act... I think that when a man is sure of himself that he wants a woman, it doesn't matter to him if she's married, free, with a child or not. This uncertainty from where it comes from, from your contradictory behavior, or from the fact that he has not made it clear to himself. You say he's a good guy, he's good at not reaching out to you because he knows you're married and he doesn't want to go into movies like that. Men run from such problems, you know. It's possible he realized he was unthaunty and therefore retired. He may have interpreted your behavior as disinterest. Because he told you there were no obstacles on his part, and you didn't cry. Maybe he realized he wasn't getting into trouble with a married colleague. There's a lot of opportunities. Only if you sit down and talk in plain sight can it become clear. And then it's not certain... because his behavior is also contradictory, " I know I should not write to you, but I write to you." You're saying your husband used to cheat on you. You've moved on together, you say you forgave him, but whether that's true... People find it hard to forgive betrayal... I wonder if you've actually been estranged since then, and in fact, then you've been swamped by your colleague. You have to understand the reason for yourself. I don't know what to advise you. I personally, for my situation, I can say that if this man had been persistent and consistent towards me and had hit me in a moment of emotional weakness, maybe I would have succumbed.. I have realised, however, that it was his anxiety, his shyness and his integrity that kept my family. As for your last sentence, things like that aren't easy to accept when there are feelings, everything is difficult. You think very maturely, but it's just women that we're sensitive, and that's it. You're on the ground, just if you have to avoid it. I avoided it in every way I left, and when I left, I was relieved :) I wish you health and smiles. You need time to accept the situation.

Right now, you can see why Arabs wear burqas. Because you have no control over yourself. And if one lets you indulge in emotions, you start to break up families. Then roar with frustration. It's better if no one likes you. Sometimes I think the Arab world is actually quite wise, and we here are absolute fools and naïve people.

It's a disastrous passion, and it's going to be like that until you don't have it physically. Then you'il know it's not who knows what, or you're going to fall even harder. And eventually one day you'il stop loving him too. As much as you're in love, you've always subconsciously wanted revenge and revenge for your husband's infidelity, and that gave you courage. After all the feelings, hormones, chased everything always ends in disappointment and pain and you wonder how and why it was.