I am a 21-year-old boy, a native of Burgas, a student in Sofia. I support myself and I don't have the opportunity to move out, so I live in a dormitory. I have no problem living in a dormitory with other people, because I have been taught to consider others, as long as they also consider me. The problem, however, is that it did not happen to roommates. Last year was my first, I fell into a room with another freshman and a third-year student. From the very beginning I was greeted with a scandal, but we got along. However, cohabitation did not work out with either of them. The room is small and there is not much space for individual desks, so we take turns and my turn is usually in the evening. And because my specialty is drawing, I need more time and light, which turned out to be a problem for them and they started making scandals about the lamp. I gave up and bought some of those desk lamps, which they also started using. When one of them studies, I try my best not to make noise and not to disturb, and when I sit down to study, conversations, rummaging through luggage or playing some videos / music start, and my requests for silence are not reflected at all. Last year, my brother and I renovated the room, and my roommates didn't give me a penny and didn't even show up to help, and then complained for a few days about the color of the walls. We decided to spend the internet and they "spent" me by putting it in my name, and then they stopped giving money.
I told them several times that they should give me money for the internet, but they only stayed "fine". Their things are theirs, and mine are common. They take absolutely everything of mine without even asking me, they eat from my food, use my belongings, etc. One of the boys had taken my laptop to write a course, and when I calmly asked him if he had asked my permission, he replied, "I didn't eat it." However, the problems do not end here. Neither is clean. Not that I'm the biggest cleaner, but they don't even throw away their butts. All three of us are smokers, but I'm the only one who throws away the ashtray. I'm the only one who collects the packaging and leftovers and the only one whose clothes and shoes aren't all over the room. This year, because I put a lot of money and effort into repairs, I decided to pay for my room for the summer and stay in it. However, they also do not want to move out, so they insisted that we share the fee for the summer and live together again in this room next year. Plus, I didn't pay the full amount myself, but I don't know how she'll last these two boys for another year. I'm not into scandals and I don't like to impose myself, which is a disadvantage in this case, so I ask for advice on how to act, to make them behave normally and to live together as well as possible.
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These are the elementary people, bro. Such are the people from sparsely populated areas. I am from Plovdiv and the same thing happened. The peasants take everything. Because they are faced with the choice of whether to sit in the countryside and milk the goat or to go to the big city and live a "life", which means finding a job, in which most cases agree to low pay and thus push the salaries of the whole county. Apart from not giving them anything or taking it at the moment when they use it, there is no other option. Tell them that if they don't give you the money for the installments for the past months, you will stop it the next day and so on. They will not change if you want to beat them. If they want to eat a fight every day. They are taught that way, or rather they are not taught anything. The other option is to be a mirror to them and whatever they do to you, so do you. How could someone touch your things like that, brother? I'm sure you've tried to talk to them humanly many times and it didn't work out. For the simple peasant, upbringing means nothing.