Swapped Roles ?!

Cheers! A desperate girl of 27 writes to you. I hope you can help me at least a little. I have a friend, his name is I. - we have been together for 6 years. We have been living together for almost 3 years, but lately we don't understand each other much. We used to fight so seriously once every 2-3 months, but now the quarrels have become more frequent and the work has become serious - it got to the point that he told me if I want to judge and leave his apartment - where we live alone. The main problem, in my opinion, is actually sexual. In my opinion, we are talking about the exchanged roles of man and woman, ie. I have a lot of masculine features, and he has feminine gestures, thinking, as a child he communicated with many women - his mother, his sister, his sister's friends - he liked to watch their pantyhose, etc., how they put on make-up, make hairstyles etc. Now that he's older, these things turn him on, and I was more in male company - my father, my brother and his friends. Unfortunately - I could not find my femininity until now, to find it and arouse it in front of him as every man wants to be excited and happy with the woman he loves ... It is difficult to write about it, but it should be ... The most interesting thing is that we both love each other a lot, but I work late and I can't take care of myself as a woman and a woman - a beauty and a model, I jump in my jeans in the morning and come on, without thinking that I kill the woman in me and my love and I can be left completely alone ...: (But there is something else - he has problems with the waist - he has an operation - a herniated disc - he has chronic pain, it is difficult to get aroused and it is difficult to keep his erection. has found and says and I know that it is so that he needs a very strong stimulant, ie a very weak, graceful and elegant woman, and I'm not very close to these qualities and vision, and I'm a male type of girl and always with pants - only occasionally with a skirt, it ruins him, and I realized it only now ... He wants from me a root and immediate change - but for me this is difficult ... He is my first husband, and I am not his first. But I have no experience and I can't give him enough to get aroused, and he only arouses me when he screams and sees the man in him - I want to see that beast that wants to possess me and tear me apart with pleasure I don't like sado -mazo - I don't like violence at all - he is very tender and loving ... I love him I want to make him happy, but somehow I don't feel like being a temptress, how can I achieve it ? and I realized it only now ... He wants a radical and immediate change from me - but it is difficult for me ... He is my first husband, and I am not his first. But I have no experience and I can't give him enough to get aroused, and he only arouses me when he screams and sees the man in him - I want to see that beast that wants to possess me and tear me apart with pleasure I don't like sado -mazo - I don't like violence at all - he is very tender and loving ... I love him I want to make him happy, but somehow I don't feel like being a temptress, how can I achieve it ?? and I realized it only now ... He wants a radical and immediate change from me - but it is difficult for me ... He is my first husband, and I am not his first. But I have no experience and I can't give him enough to get aroused, and he only arouses me when he screams and sees the man in him - I want to see that beast that wants to possess me and tear me apart with pleasure I don't like sado -mazo - I don't like violence at all - he is very tender and loving ... I love him I want to make him happy, but somehow I don't feel like being a temptress, how can I achieve it ??