Hello. Now I will tell you my story and I would very much like you to give me your opinion ... I am a girl of 21. Recently, on my best friend's birthday, I had a "fight" with her boyfriend's best friend. we met and I can say that it was not "arranged matchmaking") So, the boy took that he liked me very much, sent me to us by taxi, asked me for FB and even, while we were saying goodbye, told me to write to him "Have I come home?" Then the next day there was a whole day of writing, he really wanted to see me, but I was out of town and so we met a few days later. He kept telling me how much he liked me (in general, we had a lot of similar characters), after we first went out on a date, he started making plans for a few weeks, that even months from now where to go and what to do, he wanted us to talk all the time, he wanted me to take pictures of what I was doing, etc. In simple words, it was as if we had been boyfriends for a month or two. He was constantly explaining things to his friends about me, he kept talking to them ... he was glued to himself (everyone said it - both his and my friends). About a week passed (we went out every day), in which he made me small gifts such as a flower, chocolate (and I once gave him something symbolic) and at 6-7 days he wanted to go to a disco with his friends. He introduced me to them, everything was great until I offered him to come to us. He seemed a little worried and couldn't do it, and like any girl, I was disappointed because I was looking for the problem in myself and accordingly withdrew from it (the next day I was colder). However, he did not refuse to talk to me, said that he liked me very much and everything was ok. Until a few days later we went out for coffee again and his friends would come too. Before they came, he asked me if I wanted to go to dinner with him and his parents, which shocked me a bit because it all happened in 2-3 weeks and somehow it was too early for me, but I explained to him quite normally that I hadn't I'm ready to meet theirs. He agreed and we finished the topic, after which his friends came. Everything was ok, but as we left the coffee it somehow got cooler. I thought that something was not satisfied with the fact that I do not like to kiss when I'm with friends and a boyfriend for coffee + that I'm a little shy, but I told myself that I'm in, of course. We broke up and he went to the meeting in question with his parents, where he wrote to tell me that "he will not write to me in the restaurant because there is no scope." I'm not human in principle, who like to write to each other 24/7 even less knowing that he will be having dinner with his parents. A few hours passed and he wrote me goodnight, but he was definitely quite cool. I thought he was tired and just went to bed. The next day when I woke up he was on the line and didn't write to me (and this hadn't happened before), but I had a job and I didn't pay attention.
After a few hours, he wrote to me and was still "weird", he barely managed to get out, and that had never happened. When we met, it was really different. He came to us and we got quite hot, but because of MC I couldn't have sex with him. He seemed to have a lot of desire because he started to "touch" while we were kissing. At one point he pulled my hand to join, but I really wasn't in the mood (as it happened to him on the first try). And I just pulled away. He said nothing, calmed down a bit, after a while he got up to light a cigarette, offered to give me a massage and I agreed, we went to bed and so on. But since he is 19 and has an evening class (he has quite strict parents) it is time to leave. I offered to take him (I surprised him with a small gift), but he reacted super cold and then I already felt that something was happening. I took him away and then he never wrote to me (only for good night) The next day when I got up I saw a message "I don't want to delay him anymore" "I don't think it will work out between us", "I'm not looking for a serious relationship" , where I was just shocked. The first thing he was was the man with the big plans, at least on the day he wrote me this we were going to a concert he invited me to two weeks earlier and he had even ordered the same T-shirts for the famous concert, the second, which is normal to want to invite someone to dinner with yours, provided that "you can no longer delay the fact that it will not happen between us" and some. I really don't know how to react and what to think ... I ruin looking for the problem in myself because how do things get so bad in 24 hours? When I asked for an adequate explanation, it was "Well, our people told me to invite you and I realized that I don't want anything serious with anyone." , but for me things just don't matter .. do I have to look for the problem in myself? Or is it possible that his strict parents made him a problem for me? I ruin looking for the problem in myself because how do things get so bad in 24 hours? When I asked for an adequate explanation, it was "Well, our people told me to invite you and I realized that I don't want anything serious with anyone." , but for me things just don't matter .. do I have to look for the problem in myself? Or is it possible that his strict parents made him a problem for me? I ruin looking for the problem in myself because how do things get so bad in 24 hours? When I asked for an adequate explanation, it was "Well, our people told me to invite you and I realized that I don't want anything serious with anyone." , but for me things just have nothing to do .. should I look for the problem in myself? Or is it possible that in his strict parents he caused him a problem for me?
1 dirtyassgirl735 answered
Honey, there are two options for the situation. This sounds a bit like this new breed of boys we raised, not knowing how to act emotionally in certain situations. It is very likely that he just wanted to sleep with you, and therefore he put all his energy to achieve it, to fall for him and easily fall into the trap. He failed, however, both attempts were unsuccessful and he gave up - he was tired of pretending to be a romantic with a boyfriend. The other option is to be scared, you didn't want to meet his parents, he decided you had nothing to do with him and he decided to act first.