Standing On The Couch And Looking After A Baby

   I did not watch mine on the sofa, but I walked it every day, except when there was fog. And in addition to walking it during the day, I also went to the gym in the evening.

   The hardest part for me was lying on the couch. There is a joke about how good it is to be a mother: you get up in the morning, make yourself a coffee and drink it in the evening.

   I have two children, the first of whom I gave birth to at the age of 21 while I was still a student. Combining motherhood and exams was not easy for me, but with better organization and support than my husband, things happened. The truth is that from the age of 17-18 I had decided that I would not marry and have children at all if my husband was not my true love, he was not a good and smart person and if he did not put my interests and needs before his own. Interestingly, quite early on I found such a person whom I could love endlessly. And that's why he never left me to fend for myself after returning from work, he always realized that looking after a child is no less difficult than going to work ... So he tried to replace me. after work or on the weekend so I can steal another hour for myself to go to the library, to see friends or go to the gym to train. But in general, I managed to study and train at home with the child, it just takes twice as long, because of my constant distraction, I'm still with a baby. In general, the most difficult thing with both of our children was that you are constantly engaged, it is not a certain number of hours (for example 8) and then you have no more work. You have a 24/7 job without a break and you just hope to have someone to change you to steal another hour for yourself. Fortunately, my children did not suffer from anything serious, but if they had a serious illness, it would definitely be the most difficult. Then with my second child, I already took care of myself, so after the 8th month my husband went into paternity and I went back to work. As in our case, it wasn't because of my career, but simply because I think that it is important for the father to take part in raising the child more seriously and these few months together definitely improve their relationship a lot. And the father becomes a capable, independent parent. With the first one, we didn't have the opportunity to do that, because I was a student and we wouldn't have enough money. Unfortunately for all my acquaintances who have children and men, the situation is very different. The whole responsibility for the children falls on them, the fathers are unable to look after the children on their own for a few hours, even when we go out they are constantly called, but where and how. In general, a very large number of fathers are inferior parents ... And by inferior I do not mean that they do not take care of their children or that they do not make money, but simply that they do not know how to take care of them. Also a very large proportion of couples believe that the roles are very clearly defined and do not interfere with others, that is, the mother looks after the child and the father earns a living. Yes, but one job is 24 hours, the other is 8 (in most cases). And so many mothers gain weight, get depressed, have no support, no desire for sex, no social life, they are overtired, etc. I really hope that in the future these things will slowly change and the lives of families with new additions will be more -balanced and harmonious, so that every member of the family is happy and enjoys his life and the people in it. And about why Bulgarian women give birth later and later. This is not a Bulgarian trend, but a trend of all developing countries. Education is improving and, accordingly, more and more young people are deciding first to organize their studies and careers and then to think about children. How much I agree is another question. For me, when I will have children has always depended on when I will find my husband. Whether it was 20 or 40, it didn't matter to me, but it so happened that I found it quite young. I hope I was helpful even with a little and I think I answered all the questions. F 27

   Number 1, another I full of gas. On the subject, my husband helps a lot. We are with a boy of 2 and a girl of 9 months. Our boy is very daddy. He wants his father to bathe and dress him, he wants to do everything with his father. It suits me, let them watch. Not from him, from other people I have heard the catchphrase "She is at home with the children" as if I were at a spa in Aspen ... Such statements come either from people without children or from people with grown children. I guess the hard part is forgotten and only the good memories remain. It's annoying, though

   See women are very lowly creatures, some very dull, the combination of both dull and stubborn is naughty. Now they will fuck you how you are not the perfect mother, wife, housewife and they will line up one after another to write how perfect they are and how they handled everything on their own and how perfect they look, etc., etc. Personally, as a woman, I think that it is good to have children, but it is better, even when they have grown up and have already flown out of the nest. I have never understood women who roar that their children have grown up. It was terribly difficult for me until the child was at least 3 years old. It's best to repeat when they grow up. And men, they're always looking to get away. Some do very well, finding work in 3 places if necessary, just not to be around the baby. If I had the opportunity, I would do it too.