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Something Wrong With Me Or Everyone Else?

By devanjacks June 12, 2020 11 answers Last updated June 12, 2020

Hi! Girl, 19. I don't know if it's a problem, it weighs on me, I share it. I'm from the more since I graduated, I stayed here to study. I went to a law school. It's got me involved, I like it, but maybe it's not mine. I wouldn't say I was pushed in as I'm from a family of lawyers, but I knew my mother would be particularly happy if I did, so I did, I had no particular idea what to learn anyway. It's not a bad situation at the university, but they're not my people. It's hard to make friends, I'm not asocial, I just get sick of some superficial conversations sometimes, I get bored and I try to get out of a situation as quickly as I can. I dare say that with boys I make friends faster than with girls, only not by twisting the hair and opening legs, but purely friendly. I have a friend, but not many, and they're not the typical feminine chicks you're used to seeing around you. I don't know, we're talking on breaks, you just can tell how they're closer to the other girls, and they radiate femininity. That's my problem, I don't radiate femininity. I'm 1, 62, 49 kg tall, I like to do makeup and I go to a manicure every 3 weeks. My hair is medium length. My eyes are green. My body is well-formed. I'm describing you as getting an idea so you don't think it's because of my appearance. Besides, I don't like to walk very elegantly dressed in everyday life, I don't like the neckline to wear often, high shoes I also wear rarely. I'm wearing sneakers, Vance, Convers, etc. I'm taking clothes on brands, but more sporty. And maybe what's inside me, I can't hide it. I like girls, and I still find it hard to accept that. Both girls and boys. I've had sexual intercourse with both sexes. I'm afraid to find out, I'm afraid someone will even think about it. I'm ashamed of it. It's possible they can feel it, and that's why they're going to take it away from me like that. I'm in love with a girl, but right now we can't be together. I don't know how I'm going to tell my family. I try to cover it up with makeup, long nails, but I just have it in me, and it's obvious. I listen to absolutely every style of music, no folk and opera, I went to the disco, but it's not my preferred way of entertaining. From a psychological point of view, I don't understand why that's the case. My family is wonderful, with good financial capabilities, balanced relationships in marriage, my father is a typical tomboy. Everything in my family environment is fine. I didn't miss attention when I was a kid, I've been bought, but by measure. There were restrictions in the order of normality. It is important to mention that I have been diagnosed with chronic depression for 6 years. My last visit to a psychologist was five months ago, as I suffered a catharsis in my life, quite severe, connected to a third person. I've had sexual intercourse with two male people, one of them being my ex-boyfriend, who we've been with for five years and she was quite feminine. Even if I like a boy, I like feminine, gentle boys. I can't explain it. I don't need a libido, I don't need sex. I haven't had sex in over half a year, I don't mind, I really feel like something's wrong with me. I'm not being talked about by men, and I'm not ugly. Is it too much of a lesbian in me? Do I have a problem? Will that be the end of your studies? Every answer is helpful.

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lika64 answered · June 12, 2020
In time, you have to answer your own questions. We live in a bad society, don't expect you to be better off. You're young. Go around the world. Look how others live. Where you feel free, that's where you're going to be. And don't pay attention to the haters. They live from this, haha.
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marianfarrah answered · June 12, 2020
Besides, who cares who you're with and what you like?
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emilia_gentle answered · June 12, 2020
It was only when I got to the point where it was described as a cool ie that it became a matter of ego-picking.
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ekress answered · June 12, 2020
I'm really hard to answer your questions, honestly. I've had relationships with girls and boys like you. I don't call him feminine, but he's not a typical male, and I'm allowed to command him. But I'm feminine. I have Vance and other sneakers, but I don't wear them at university. I wear leggings mostly, short boots, top with a leather jacket short to see the butt and the jacket has a lot of fluff on the demec hood I look like the trendy buns. My bags are always branded over 500 leva, I go to manicures, make-up normal, I do not overdo it. But like you, I have a problem that they're close to each other, and they're not close to me. So even if it was a muffin, it would still be the same. I don't think I like girls, no one would have guessed, but I still don't have any friends. Don't take it in, find company outside of university, you've been out with someone else before.
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lau_red answered · June 12, 2020
Are we going to guess by the brand of sneakers, whether you can see your lesbian nature, the color of the varnish, and for your future, we're going to throw beans? You're not aware of yourself, (what did you know not even know) but ask the strangers here? To these questions, you have to find them yourself. If you can do without sex, you're asexual, probably. Then why would you guys talk about it? The guys at university weren't your people, but you wonder why they're scary? Well, you're not their guy either. You're not that interesting to them, not so nice, apparently.
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littleelizabeth12 answered · June 12, 2020
Too bad Bulgaria is turning into a pastry shop, only muffins in its stands, that and candidate graduates, such tomorrow and right will give!? God save us!
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watchingronnie answered · June 13, 2020
What is chronic depression? What kind of specialist did you make this diagnosis? Why do you go to such a diagnosis of a psychologist and not a gastroenterologist or psychiatrist? What do you eat and how do you eat? The relationship food, drinks, gastric-intestinal tract, psyche, depression, behavior is super direct. If you share, I will try to advise you, because it all depends only on you, and the consequences are for you.
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carolineshinexxx answered · June 13, 2020
At a later date, if you're a lesbian, forget about the law. I'm a lawyer, and I have a lot of sexual fetishes that make me happy. That plus a totally flawed legal system made me give up working in this area. The right is a hell of a conservative area and it's traded in influence. Either you have to be conservative in a family plan, or the weaknesses will be used against you. You know in these circles who's high, who's gay, who's perverted. Very often, magistrates are made, and you don't want to be pushed in that direction. Otherwise, I hope you can sort out your life. Good luck, girl
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afanasia answered · June 13, 2020
Maybe the problem is very simple. As for women, they always reject the one that transcends them with something, usually with beauty. I had such a classmate back in the day- the prettiest and most isolated of the other girls in the class. She certainly didn't like it, and I don't know if she realised they were only doing it because they were jealous of her. Clutter. But if you're pretty, you're not going to be very desirable in a woman's company.
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eyes_power_ answered · June 14, 2020
Well, you say you don't like superficial conversations, and you're trying to get away from them. I don't think they're avoiding you because of the "lesbian" in you, but because you're at different stages of your development and your understanding of things. Do you want to be accepted by them and be their friend? Otherwise, I'm a boy, i'm gay, no one's ever told me I look like one, but I have the same problems. It's harder to make friendships, too, but I'm explaining it to myself with the difference in character, not that I'm gay. Besides, because of that, it's more important for me to be OK with myself than to make sure someone on the street likes me. Success! M 21
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ikenrenee answered · June 14, 2020
Oh, I have a colleague like you. It's not lesbian at all, it's that you don't accept yourself and like it. That's why it's this thirst to be approved and liked, even people who are neither your people, nor are you interested, nor do you like them, that even your communication is unpleasant and you wonder how to end it, but even then they should like you. For what? The surest way for no one to like you is to try to appeal to everyone. Let me tell you what it looks like on the side. It's a hell of a lot of people who are artificially polite, and they don't really listen to you, look at your watch, the phone, play with some thread on their clothes, wander, and they don't care what you're talking about. You can tell when you think you're superior to the others. The co-star you remind me of is such a super duper bio chick. We're the simple one with the plastic coffee cups. We go on vacation, start talking to colleagues about what to give a child when his parents say he has everything. The case of a colleague and her nephew. She can't join the conversation at all, because the name of the colleague does not remember, let alone know that she has Christmas presents to buy today. The subject doesn't care about her at all. Okay, she doesn't have to, but I think we're all right with her. She looks tense, she sits awkwardly. To include in the conversation she uses clichéd topics where she is sure she will receive support. On what basis the fee is increased, how messed up the program, bad teacher and the like. Except we chewed them up and said these things. Courtesy, we respond something short and continue for the gifts. And after a while, we wonder where she is, did she say goodbye? Honestly, it's like a phantom to me. Another option, she targets the clichéd topic and we begin to discuss it, however, she is afraid to express a sincere opinion and sticks to the crowd. He agrees with everyone, even if I disagree, i think it's still out of listening. I'm getting a little inadequate, she still doesn't understand, and a smart girl with good grades. Very quickly she seems to get tired of the theme, which has begun and starts to get bored. Yes, that's what radiates tense boredom. It's like he's communicating by force. I feel like he's bringing a recycled notebook and there's a to-do list for the day. 1. To communicate with colleagues. - hop, tick. Worst of all, the pressure that's in it is just like electricity. I know there's going to be a very distressing conversation. On top of that, and insinces. Once you made me a set that I always dress very stylishly. And I said to her, thank you, I think it's right in an academic environment, I'm pretty weird students with tracksuits and leggings, except for the ones physically, I understand them. And she said to me - absolutely, these are clothes for sports. My sister lives in Canada and when she came home shouted bray, the Bulgarians sported a lot of sports with a sports team. Oh, I'm like, it's not what, that's how they go to university, to restaurants. They're just changing the tracksuit with the "official Adidas Hanzung." I laughed, I'm like, relaxed. Unfortunately, within days, he changed that thesis to "everyone, they have to go, as they are most comfortable" in another conversation with another colleague. I don't know how he thinks we don't notice. Even in a lecture in behavioral psychology, when it came to the emotional dependence and need for approval, brought on by demanding parents and their inadequate expectations of the child, all 64 people without wanting to look at it. Well, it's like a textbook thing: every conversation is an exam, a sacon not to say something stupid, something that won't be approved. Everything he says sounds like a cliché that has resisted the scrutiny of time and society. You're going to say someone's carving her words into a rock, and the truth is, even if the biggest is going to blow up, no one will remember tomorrow. I feel like she's been woken up and put to sleep with the words "You're super special, but you can do better."