Something Is Stopping Me .. Topic For +30

   From experience I tell you that there is something that does not give you peace. I don't know if your wish was unfulfilled (most likely it is), if it was that you were charged with complexes as a child. For many years I did not understand why I was like that, until my wish came true and only then I realized that due to its absence I could not be happy, although seemingly everything was fine. Ask yourself what you are missing - a family, a partner, a challenge, money, success, you need to understand. Don't listen to this nonsense that happiness comes from within. This is true, but external factors also have a serious impact.

   Someone boiling and boiling ... if by that you mean someone 10-15 years older or even more, then the chance to write you something that will really lift your spirits is very, very small, at least in my opinion. Because those of previous generations are actually much more depressed. I will not go into details why. They have also sunk into everyday life en masse. And they are quite different from us, because their characters are formed in a coma. It is very likely that an old man will write you something like: 'make children of a woman, the other is not important'; another may say: 'to me he is a man who has everything and begins to get depressed'. Well, at least you're a man, in the sense that if she was a 34-year-old woman who posted such a topic, they would probably bother her, after of course they told her some things about babies. You can try in an English forum - there it usually happens that people are more positive, positive-responsive. As 1, and I will say that everything comes from childhood. Maybe your parents were too demanding? Did they have high expectations of you? They didn't let you do different things, just because they are interesting and pleasant to you, without having any expectations ... for example, that you will be one of the best, etc.? Have you never been happy enough with the results you have achieved? I don't know ... without knowing you personally, without knowing what kind of person you are, to feel your character, I don't think I can tell you something that is really useful, reassuring ... let alone tell you 'what's stopping you' . Otherwise, about the environment - the less you care about the opinions and views of other people, the freer you will feel. And if they are so annoying to those around you - well, just minimize contact with them and focus on other people - those who resonate with your frequencies. ж31

   I am the same. At 26 men. In principle, everyone has their own problems, bad past, etc., but people like us are real. They do not close their eyes to the daily shit that happens to them and other people. I personally had a very naughty childhood, which definitely played a role in not being able to enjoy life now. The truth is that you have to break away from everything that brings you bad memories, family, city, friends and live your life the way you want. But again, it is up to a certain character, dictated by certain experiences. It is not possible to change with the magic wand suddenly, such people prefer solitude, they are self-sufficient, they feel better when they are completely alone and there is no one around them. That will never change.

   Many people are like that and wonder what it is. It's called a routine. Children, why are they not dissatisfied, depressed and bored? I'm talking about the little ones, of course, because today's aggressive and hurried weather is already affecting the children, but ... Look at the little children in the park, they are smiling, full of life. True, they have their worries, for example, that a child has poured a bucket of sand on their head, but ... I guarantee you - there is no dissatisfaction, apathy and depression in them, because everything is interesting to them, because they look at the present moment and do not think about his uncertain future and his nasty past. Make your life interesting. Only you know what is interesting to you, so I have nothing specific to advise you. Are there people who "keep" you where you are - physically and emotionally? Do something unusual for you.

   I will try to explain it to you like this. A person's self esteem comes from the inside out. So, when a person sets goals and then achieves them, he manages to get the satisfaction that "it is for something". It is how you perceive and feel yourself - (successful, unsuccessful). First you start with achievable goals so that you can reach them, then you continue with bigger ones, which are long term. I say this in connection with the fact that nothing gives you pleasure. Also, each goal must be attached to an end result, motivated by motivation for it. This is from the inside out. However, as number 1 said, happiness is also influenced by external factors. External factors are social status and the framework by which society accepts you. Imagine it that way. Just an example. If you're 30 and you don't have a girlfriend - confidentiality, that's the way by which you show yourself to the public - it is low, from there you feel that you have not achieved something that will win you a relationship - from there your self esteem is lame, because you feel failed according to the frame. Find a purpose in life, connect it with the end result and you will feel pleasure. Your definition of "just exist" is exactly what it says. For lack of productivity. Go to a psychologist if you continue to feel this way and get out of your comfort zone. If you have to find a new environment with which you will set a goal not to betray your obsessive thoughts and at some point you will forget about them. that's exactly what he's talking about. For lack of productivity. Go to a psychologist if you continue to feel this way and get out of your comfort zone. If you have to find a new environment with which you will set a goal not to betray your obsessive thoughts and at some point you will forget about them. that's exactly what he's talking about. For lack of productivity. Go to a psychologist if you continue to feel this way and get out of your comfort zone. If you have to find a new environment with which you will set a goal not to betray your obsessive thoughts and at some point you will forget about them.

   It may be due to poor chemical composition in the body. Your body probably doesn't produce enough serotonin or anything. Of course, there are some reasons for your life to make you feel that way. You have 3 options and since you are no longer a young person, I advise you to turn to them at the same time. This type of condition worsens with age, people underestimate them, but we are not eternal, everyone suffers from something, I say from experience. 1 Naturally - you can improve your diet, spend more time in the sun, exercise every day. I know that fast carbs are very harmful to people with such problems, sunlight in moderate doses makes us feel happy, sports should not be absent, and should not be overdone. 2 Social - visit a psychologist for a few months, at least you will know that you "shaved that cheek too". Be specific and completely honest with him, a psychiatrist will never give you that much time, I will listen to you 1-2 times and insist on taking your pills. 3 Medication - go to a psychiatrist. When talking to him, be concise and specific, but also frank. Don't be angry with his chosen reaction, for him you are another one with problems. Take the pills he has recommended. Accepting some of them is not a joke, you need time to act, arm yourself with patience. Follow the instructions in the manual exactly. Do not drink them on an empty stomach, otherwise they have super nasty side effects. for him you are the next one with problems. Take the pills he has recommended. Accepting some of them is not a joke, you need time to act, arm yourself with patience. Follow the instructions in the manual exactly. Do not drink them on an empty stomach, otherwise they have super nasty side effects. for him you are the next one with problems. Take the pills he has recommended. Accepting some of them is not a joke, you need time to act, arm yourself with patience. Follow the instructions in the manual exactly. Do not drink them on an empty stomach, otherwise they have super nasty side effects.

   up to 5 self esteem, confidentiality, long term? Are you kidding? Even I, as a person of Turkish-Pomak origin, respect the Bulgarian language more than you. from number 1

   With psychotherapy you will find all the suppressed problems, none of the strangers here can say anything about you and your world. Only with psychotherapy can you explore your inner world and understand what it is that makes you unhappy. I tell you from experience that these are probably your attitudes and expectations, and whatever you achieve, you will not be happy because you have the wrong expectations. And one more tip, don't deal with pills, please. If you do not have money for psychotherapy, first work, collect, invest, you will never regret. And lastly, psychotherapists, the good ones with more experience are very few, ask, do not go where it is cheapest and in any case online.

   number 8 At least he would have recommended a name!

   So am I, I'm 31. Number 1 is right, at least in my opinion and at least in my case. For me, negativity towards life starts from the lack of a partner. And the lack of a partner stems from my general negativity. That is, there is a vicious circle from which I can not get out for over 7 years, during which I have not had a girlfriend. And unfortunately I am becoming more and more an individualist, I am less and less communicating with people, especially with women. And, well ... it's not a good job. I have been going to psychotherapy for over 4 years. It helps me, but progress is not who knows what. Like I said, I haven't had a relationship in 7 years.

   When you were little, your mother compared you to other children and put you in a mold full of expectations of you. Achievements and successes that you have to achieve. You have lived another life - that of your parents. And you continue to live it, because it is set in you subconsciously, from the age of 7.