Do these diseases matter the same? I don't know. I have not gone to a psychologist and I do not want to worry about ours, we are poor, and if I tell the psychologist that my only real friends are in the online environment she will 100% tell my mom and she does not let me write with strangers). When I was little, I swallowed that shame and fear. I wanted to be social and get paid attention, but I didn't get anything more than bullying at school because I'm fat and I have problem eyes. The first seven years of school ruined me, but at least it's not bad anymore. The worst was in 6th and 7th grade because there was this girl who made fun of me for ABSOLUTELY everything (financial condition, phone brand, my social media followers, my chamomile, my body, my hair, my family (I have a fucked-up family and had a difficult childhood) and others). I couldn't wait for this hell to end. Sometimes he would come up to me and ask me "Why don't you talk to anyone? Do you have a problem? And I didn't know about social phobia and autism at the time. The only thing that saved me from this hell is my secret online friends. They became closer to me than my only live friend, who I don't get along with very much. And before you tell me to block them because they might be dangerous, I would ask you, would it be easy for you to block someone you've known for over 5 years and you've talked to each other billions of times on a video chat, you've done live knows and you have your phone numbers? These people made my life a paradise. I'm me with them, and they are. I even got accepted by telling them I was afraid of people and always having to socialize for one reason or another I would die and talking to someone (which is rare) or stuttering or talking the biggest nonsense. I always find an excuse to escape a social situation. I'm afraid of saying something stupid and laughing at me afterwards, while with my online girlfriends I'm relaxed, but I can no longer make online friends out of this fear, and I haven't made friends since safe 2017. I always try not to seem to be afraid, but you can tell and people talk about it. I can't look people in the eye because, like I said earlier, I have problem eyes, and that's why my classmates are talking behind my back about how maybe I have autism. Sometimes I can look people in the eye, but for no more than five seconds. I've read a lot in the last few years about these two mental illnesses, and I'm confused. What if I have autism? Does that mean I'il be rejected by society for the rest of my life? And even worse for me, when I grow up, there's no escape. I don't want to socialize and talk to my colleagues or I'm going to listen to "I think she's got autism all my life," "I think she's crazy. How was she accepted to work?" or if I accidentally started socializing someone to say "Don't talk to her. She's crazy." What am I supposed to do? I don't want to bother mom because she has so much to worry about, and I don't want to talk to a psychologist.
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jack_b1 answered · June 22, 2020
Well for these things there is no laboratory test, everything is based on the behavior of the person, but everyone has different behavior, even if they feel the same way (I mean, for example, the "shame" everyone reacts differently if they experience it).
I guess your mother won't let you write to strangers because they might lie to you. But I give you an idea - you can tell her everything and tell her that you need friends (like any person), and at school you can't find them. You can "introduce" her to the friends in question, even if you invite them to your house and she can see them live. Because I guess she's afraid of being fake, meeting somewhere in secret and doing something to you. I don't know if your mother has a tendency to understand you, but I very much hope she cares about your mental state and the ban is just because of the potential dangers to you.
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docnpenny answered · June 22, 2020
Autism is a medical condition, I guess if you're autistic, the last thing you're going to care about is that you're autistic.
You probably mean an outsider, which is a common occurrence, even I am.
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sexykarensexy answered · June 22, 2020
Girl, this is the third time you've written this story. Once again, I'il write to you, no, you don't have autism.
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allyallyallycat answered · June 22, 2020
Lately, more and more children have been using this word as an insult. If someone offended you like that, that doesn't mean you have it. Autism is a serious disease. I'm not a doctor, so if you're worried, go to your doctor and ask him. Otherwise, it's nice to see a psychologist. And not because there's something wrong with you, it's so there's nothing wrong with you. You need a normal person to get guidance from, which you say they lack.
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mysweet92 answered · June 22, 2020
You don't have autism. Dance, acting, languages, tour groups or something.
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ophelias_dream answered · June 22, 2020
Be yourself, and you don't care what other people think. Make friends outside the online space with similar interests like yours. Don't hide behind the computer all the time. Eventually, it's going to affect you, and you're going to be more and more afraid to be out there. And you can't be behind the computer all your life. It's disastrous. The ones who laugh at you are complexes. You're pulling them one and this. Don't let your self-esteem get crushed. Be brave! Both at work and in social contacts. What if you say stupid, big deal.
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slsoeleoeoledodl answered · June 23, 2020
You don't have autism. You can get a psychotherapist here. Social media only exacerbates the problem. It's all about a social environment. When I was a kid, I was ashamed to even talk on the phone. Years later, I was working at a 5* hotel as a receptionist and picking up the hotel phone (in an English-speaking country). I went alone to change, because like you, I wanted to change the situation.
Here are some tips:
1. Stand in front of the mirror and keep the look as long as possible. He talks softly and compliments himself.
2. Go outside and start greeting strangers- it's easiest with elderly people- on the first only nod, the next say "Hello", the third "Hello, how are you today? '. make a compliment for a hat, scarf, shoes; hold someone's door, ask for the name of a child/grandchild.
Important: let the spotlight shine on the person opposite/next to you
3. Imagine that your best online friend is in the face against you or that you are talking to her sister.
Let your imagination go wild!
The process is gradual, but you can get better and better at it. Consider it a game or face challenges in advance. When you do them, reward yourself (make up an award, unforward what it is).
"Life is a scene and we're all actors" -W. Shakespeare
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