Author, you are not sick, you are not crazy or too jealous. He is the one who crosses all boundaries. It is not normal to stare non-stop and chat with different colleagues. I fully understand that you are in love and hold on to it, trying to justify it and force yourself to be patient, but the writers here are not emotionally engaged and we can look more sober. Think very carefully about the price you are willing to pay to be with this person. As the saying goes, there is no free lunch - if your relationship is more important to you than the fact that you salivate on every skirt, ok. Somehow you will get used to living with it. But if you can't reconcile, don't force yourself. It is quite possible that he loves you in some way and is happy to start a family with you. Maybe you are good, exemplary, comfortable for your partner and mother. This does not stop him from teasing and wanting other women. Many people care about their family - they take care of their spouse and children, but they look for someone else and manage to draw a clear line between the two. In these cases, one does not interfere with the other. In the end, he said it to himself in that chat - he reads it, obviously about a serious relationship. The women he falls in love with are obviously for fun, sex, fleeting passions. Personally, I find his behavior extremely offensive and humiliating. Moreover, you feel how you have become a powder that just lurks. This is NOT your job, a normal relationship does not go that way. Only you can decide about the child. As I said above, when it starts to show and after you are born, you will completely take on the role of mother and housewife, you will completely become a comfortable and meek friend who suffers from oligophrenia. She will become even more impudent, she will not look at you like a woman at all. I deeply doubt it will change. Think about whether you yourself want to have a child at the moment, only your opinion is important. But please don't think that having a baby will solve your problems. Usually many couples (especially women) are misled that this will strengthen and fix the relationship. In 95% of cases this is not true, things only get more complicated. He may want to play dad while surrounding various babes, but in this case, his opinion has no weight, because his behavior is hellishly unworthy and disgusting. There are decent men, but there are very few. The tables are a kind of middle ground - they like to look at each other, fantasize, discuss, etc., but without who knows what real actions. However, yours does not belong to them, because his behavior is completely whore. Years ago, I went with someone who was tormented by a hole, he offered threesomes in front of me to various girls, told me that nothing could help me (relative to my appearance) and what not. The worst relationship in my life, a complete scumbag. Watch what he does, not what he says. № 4
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Girl, you saw what he was like, why did you get pregnant from him? He is the same as my ex. These people are constantly looking for others, if you ask them why - and they themselves do not know. Such a search usually leads to finding, keep in mind. My ex, as it turned out later, also played a lot with different people, until in the end he fell violently one by one. Which led to a logical end to our relationship. Dual life is not for everyone.