Smashed

   But why?

   handsomely

   You have to experience a broken heart and a failed relationship with an idiot for whom you were ready for anything BEFORE you meet the right one and get married. Otherwise, how will you feel the difference? This pain you are talking about is devastating, but once you experience it, you are like new.

   M31 I feel exactly like this every day, except fear, I am not afraid of anything. I fell in love with a girl I can't be with. I know the feeling of emotional pain turning into physical, the worst feeling I've ever experienced, I don't wish that on my worst enemy. Still, I try to be positive. You're not alone

   Many people have gone through similar periods. My advice is to remove the mask (whatever it is) and you will find someone to share it with. I think the problem is that you're lonely. Write in the topic, create a dialogue with us (counselors) you will feel better. Fucking job, but don't shut yourself in ... Head up

   I am like that every day. Male of 30.

   Hold on and it will pass!

   From inner pain, to feeling dead, and so on, as if someone had ripped my heart out, to feeling emptiness and an inability to feel joy. And many moments when nothing makes sense to me, and the only way out of this state is death. Soon there is a fear of her unknown. I used to suffocate. Loneliness sometimes gives you a wonderful opportunity to read or create, but it can ruin you. Sometimes my breath trembles like this, as if I have been crying for hours, not crying for days. Almost every day I struggle with the desire to take revenge on those who have hurt me, but there is no point in revenge. These are all negative emotions that only burden us and prevent us from moving forward; they obscure our judgment of everything around us. The place of the past is exactly when it happened. If you cannot forget the past, you will not be able to look at the present and the future. You sound like a very hurt person. Seek help. I'm not just talking about a specialized one, but about someone close to you. If this condition persists for a long time, you can become dangerous to yourself and others. Black Sabbath

   Yes. It's called depression. Get help!

   It happens to everyone at some point in their lives. You are not the first, you are not the last to feel this way. At least say why so that we have some direction to help.

   Yes! Well, and? Are we angry? Tighten it up!

   I am in the same situation at the moment ... Girl, 20 years old.

   Yes of course. I had the feeling that someone had put my heart into those machines that grind minced meat, then jumped on it, and finally threw it into a puddle in the middle of the street. I have felt it after separation, after the loss of a loved one, after the illness of a loved one, after a spectacular failure, after a series of failures, after violent scandals in the family or with a friend, many times. Sometimes it lasted a long time, there are things that still weigh on me, but years have passed. Sometimes it affected me physically - nervous stomach, trembling, palpitations, sweaty hands, paleness, yes. And what? These moments make me feel alive. There was a time when I was completely blocked and it didn't hurt. It was awful, like I was a robot. It's good that you have feelings, they guarantee that you are still human. It's even better when you overcome the pain and stand up. It's like life throws a stone, you look at it and say, "Well, I don't care, no problem, I'll handle it. Try again. “. Do not indulge in grief, it also passes.

   From the author: Thank you all !!! It's amazing how strangers can make me feel better! Number 3 I am already married, that's where the pain comes from 12 years. family .... I want to separate so that I do not feel this pain, that I am not wanted and not loved, rejected ... but it is not possible we have 2 children, and they want their father ...

   Yes, I felt exactly as you described. The only two things that got me out of that black hole were poetry and hope. By writing author's poetry and by reading foreign poetry, I discovered that it became easier and more bearable for me. And the hope that one day everything will be fine and that I will have a decent woman by my side supports me even now. Otherwise, loneliness and depression are brutally poignant and sinister, their destructive power can easily be described as "phenomenal". I know how hard it is, believe me, I really know. But also know that as long as you are alive, as long as your heart beats in your chest and as long as your lungs take in the life-giving air of our Mother Earth, the "game" is not over, your life can take a new and amazing path that is not and assumed it existed. At some point you will come to the thoughts of suicide, but you must drive them away decisively and firmly! Remember that death is the only guaranteed thing in this world, and that is why it is pointless to cause it yourself. She will come for you sooner or later. But you should not cause it yourself! When you overcome suicidal thoughts, you have to find some new meaning. For example, I found trust in poetry and in the hope that it might be something else for you. Whatever happened to you, remember that the "game" is not over until you leave this world. And sometimes the biggest twists come just before the end of the game ... I hope you understand my words or at least part of them. She will come for you sooner or later. But you should not cause it yourself! When you overcome suicidal thoughts, you have to find some new meaning. For example, I found confidence in poetry and in the hope that it might be something else for you. Whatever happened to you, remember that the "game" is not over until you leave this world. And sometimes the biggest twists come just before the end of the game ... I hope you understand my words or at least part of them. She will come for you sooner or later. But you should not cause it yourself! When you overcome suicidal thoughts, you have to find some new meaning. For example, I found trust in poetry and in the hope that it might be something else for you. Whatever happened to you, remember that the "game" is not over until you leave this world. And sometimes the biggest twists come just before the end of the game ... I hope you understand my words or at least part of them.

   I've read the story to you several times - I'm so familiar with what the French say - deja vu ... I certainly don't spell it correctly. The bad thing is that it lasts a very long time for me. It started with the most banal infidelity ... dumb to nowhere. Many times I have thought that if those who cheat feel only part of the pain they cause, they are unlikely to do so. And who knows about me, they are complete egotists who don't care what they do to others. Obviously you have problems in marriage - you know what they are, you write a lot in general. I didn't get a divorce because of my two children either - but a terribly high price is paid, believe me ...

   From the author: Where is the way out of this situation? Both the children are well and you are happy? Is there a way out at all or do you have to endure to the end! Or to return with the same? Does a wedge kill a wedge?

   At first glance, you have a problem with the ego that rebels and feels underestimated, it is very important to work on it, do not think that someone in this life owes you something, and you do not owe anyone. It will be difficult to understand because your ego will not allow it, learn to control it, you must love yourself again and take care of your soul. Free yourself from fear and suffering, from the feeling of inadequacy and, accordingly, from all desires, needs, dependencies and attachments ... reach inner peace and the understanding that God rules everything, even when your world seems ready to collapse. Get rid of the disease burden with another person and remember that on a deeper level everything is fine, you may have problems, but this is on the surface. Respect yourself and don't live so much, because there is no one to love you and take care of you but yourself. M29