Single / Divorced Mothers

   You will not find the man for you in Bulgaria. I tell you from personal experience. They are Ganyovtsi - that's why. They are by the way, not by giving.

   A friend lived with a woman with a child. They separated after 3 years and told me never to deal with a woman who has a child. Once she failed to keep her family, she did not become a wife and was not entitled to a second chance. Nothing that has already proven that it can perform its reproductive functions successfully. Personally, I have no experience with such women, but I would be interested to hear other opinions on the matter. Hopefully there will be a good discussion in the comments so that we can all learn from the experiences of others and not repeat their mistakes.

   №1, what are the incomes of the average Bulgarian and the average English man and how many foreign children do they allow them to watch? Something opportunity to take a housekeeper, or move to a larger home where there are enough rooms for everyone? It seems that women in such a situation are gangsters and you are in a trance once you have allowed it (the situation) with your badness and stubbornness, and then you expect the man to look after your children with his Bulgarian income.

   Do you touch upon the topic of looking after foreign children and compare London with Bulgaria? Now compare the incomes of most men in London and Bulgaria, can a Bulgarian man support a woman with another's child and possibly his own with a salary of euros 500? Incomes in Bulgaria are so low that everyone realizes as little as possible spending, until the Londoner does not even think in the store whether he will be able to pay for what is in the shopping cart. Bulgarian men are not fastidious, they just don't have the opportunity. Even married people no longer have more than one child due to lack of funds.

   1. The excuse is like an ass - everyone has one. Yours is that the Bulgarians were Ganyovites. OK, that's right. What kind of mothers did these Ganyovs raise and raise, I ask? Otherwise, to the author - in a country where women look like a cross between a racehorse and a warship, it is not surprising that any Bulgarian woman would find a superior husband, ready for good guaranteed sex to pay by watching N number of foreigners children

   ? !!!! № 3, not all "ganks" have allowed the situation with their badness and stubbornness ... maybe they were just naive and Ganyo used them ... it's never too late to feel and run away ... and living together with someone is not just about ... "you expect your husband to look after your children with his Bulgarian income." ...

   I fully support number 3. Otherwise to the author: If she is beautiful, she will find a man, another question is what kind of man she is looking for, what are the criteria, etc. Nowadays, most women put themselves in this position. They marry young without thinking, and then, in the same vein, abandon their partners because they are tired of thinking about the consequences. I wrote this because it is much harder to meet a divorced woman without a child nowadays than the other way around. As 3 has already written, it is a completely different topic that it is easy to start a relationship with a woman with a child, but it is very difficult to continue, because usually young girls give birth when they divorce, they are already 25, while raising children they become 30 and then without education and with low culture, they understand that apart from saleswomen, no other profession is waiting for them. And so they want some handsome man, who both tolerates them, and their child likes them, and he takes care of him and last but not least to pay for everything. That's why such women are usually content with someone ugly to look them in the eye and pay like a priest, and the fact that she had no feelings for him did not matter, she can always catch a lover, right? :) It's hard in two words.

   Well, if you are looking for a man to support you with the children, it is very clear that you will not find, the fools are over. Be financially independent and you will see how men will not be so cowardly.

   I know men in Bulgaria who have married a woman with a child before. And I don't think there are no such men, and there are more women. In Bulgaria, most women who marry a man with a child from before simply try to erase the memory of that child from everywhere. Fathers rarely see their children and rarely take responsibility. Some women are angry with their husbands by giving euros 5 to another's child. Otherwise, there are decent women who accept their husband's child, but as often as men who accept their wife's child. Otherwise, I think number 3 is right. Ultimately, the child is the responsibility of his parents and must be cared for by both mother and father. A third person cannot be burdened with this responsibility. Since I know quite a few couples who are a woman with a child and a man without a child, I can tell you that I was impressed, that when a woman gives birth to a second child, she obviously shows more sympathy for the first, who is supposedly without a father. He often finds it more unjustified and is bought more and paid more attention. I'm not saying that all cases are like that, but one part. And I was also impressed that a woman with a child is mostly looking for a young man without children. I have very rarely seen a woman with a child go with a man with a child and look after their two children together. It's just that the question is very complicated. Of course, women and men with children are not second-hand people, but it is normal for a person to be more careful when going out with a person with a child. After all, a child is a responsibility. I'm not saying that there are no decent cases. A close friend of mine remarried after living with her second husband and child from her first marriage for 4 years. Take the time to see if things work out, whether the child will get along with the man, whether the man will accept the child and finally get married, have a second child and are a normal, happy family. But in many cases, the woman is just looking for a man to look after her and her child, which is not common in England. In Bulgaria, women without a child are in many cases looking for someone to support them .... Anna

   If a man loves the woman next to him and even if she is divorced, he will love her children. I have such a relationship with such a woman, I love her, I love her children. I help in everything. Someone can blame me for that, it's me. If a man loves the children of the woman he is in love with, he has entered the woman's heart.

   №10, you are very right, and you are a wonderful person, but not every woman with children can expect and demand this from every man. Not in the mass case. This is the bitter truth. In addition, the unit are those who can afford it financially, housing and anyway. From №3

   number 10 how long have you been with this woman? It strikes me that you are still in the phase of talking about love, but I think after it (until the 3rd year) the fun begins. Do you support her children? and if not, who does? Otherwise, number 9 also said important things, with the only addition that I do not think that Bulgarian men in general are irresponsible. I know too many men who, after divorce (in the mass case requested by wives), give crazy money to them to be well. My best friend did the same thing until he realized that all the money he gives goes not to the child, but to the mother's clothes and cigarettes, and only then did he cut her and now she gives no money except for alimony, but goes to the market with her child. he buys. Of course she plowed everything alive that he was a "terrible father and irresponsible" after that.

   №2, your friend said a lot of nonsense - there is no way to make such generalizations, because people are different and everything depends on the person. And the fact that if a woman had not managed to keep her family, therefore she did not become a wife, killed me! Isn't she an independent unit in this family? Abe, according to the gray matter, everyone draws some conclusions. On the topic: I fully support №10 - this is the truth. I am also divorced with a child and have a long-term relationship with a man who accepts my daughter as his child. But it is also true that these lucky cases are rare.

   On the contrary, №12, Bulgarian men are generally totally irresponsible after separation, divorce. There are certainly crazy mothers who decide that they can live mainly on their husband's support, although I don't know how that happens. The maximum alimony awarded in court is not more than euros 120. But being awarded does not mean paying. For amounts under agreement ... - such things are very rarely heard. And this is not such an often awarded amount. And so most fathers are exactly biological ones - no responsibility in the upbringing or financial support in raising the child. The common case is that mothers wonder what gymnastics to do to cope with the situation, and fathers are blown by the wind on a white horse, live peacefully and think that by giving support, the mother buys cigarettes, cosmetics and various nonsense. The children are harmed by all the work. This is the picture. And as for the fact that wives want a divorce in most cases - of course they will. A man very rarely risks divorce because he just doesn't get it. He enjoys doing what he wants, keeping his mistress and having a cook, an iron, a washing machine at home. However, there are wives who definitely do not like it and the divorce follows, after which all the copies remain in the wife's house, but this is the better option for her anyway. And the more correct one. to support his mistress and to have a cook, an iron, a washing machine at home. However, there are wives who definitely do not like this and the divorce follows, after which all the copies remain in the wife's house, but this is the better option for her anyway. And the more correct one. to support his mistress and to have a cook, an iron, a washing machine at home. However, there are wives who definitely do not like this and the divorce follows, after which all the copies remain in the wife's house, but this is the better option for her anyway. And the more correct one.

   Everyone speaks from their belfry. Men in Bulgaria as a whole cannot support themselves, let alone others, this complicates them and they are not proactive. In Bulgaria. the woman is the leading figure - as much as I want it to be the opposite. She is proactive because after a divorce she knows that her child is hers and she is responsible. That's why it's like a machine she wanted to achieve for everyone, so in her quest to provide what she needs for the child and her - she forgets that she is a woman. If she meets a man and accidentally falls in love, he will be afraid to take responsibility, because he knows that he cannot reach or achieve what she does. They are just scared - I think that's the problem. If we are in a country with a higher standard and we have not embarked on this struggle for survival, it will be different. And men, who embark on such an adventure are quite combative and the fighting woman does not frighten them, but accepts her as an equal partner. Men with lower social and material status than women, as well as education and career - it is normal to be afraid of them. When you are looking for a man or a woman - regardless of whether he is married to a child or it is not important that they have the same status and status in society - the grandmothers said: to be from the same rug, ie to have the same value system and the same views - to look in one direction. The other is temporary, it's called attraction, sex, passion, but if the passions cool down / although it's important to have them - it remains prose, but only passion ... not enough / That girls in such a state have married young and they have no education - I'm not sure ... this happens to everyone, especially if he is in love, and then he is irradiated ... he is forgiven ...

   I am the author of the topic. I am 23, I have no children yet. My question is about my first cousin. She lived with a man on a family basis. A child was born to them. He admitted it. And shortly after the child's second birthday, he said he was leaving them for another. In principle, he was not a person who cheated, drank, etc. It's just that no one expected that from him. They separated. My cousin sentenced him for alimony of euros 150. per month. In addition to the official support, the father always helps as much as he can if necessary. He always drove the child to the emergency room. He took care of him when he was ill, but his mother could not be absent from work. My cousin is an accountant in a private company. It is not a question of someone supporting her child. At the beginning of autumn I returned to Bulgaria for a short time. We talked to her and she shared, that she is super desperate for men to treat her when they find out she has a child. They had always retreated. This is not about getting married right away. They just don't even want to have a relationship just because she's with a child. Here in London I meet many couples, I emphasize couples, not yet families, one of whom has a child / children from a previous relationship. I often ask men here if they would back off if they found out their new girlfriend had children. How come no one answered in the affirmative? that their new girlfriend has children. How come no one answered in the affirmative? that their new girlfriend has children. How come no one answered in the affirmative?

   Even if we exclude the financial side of the issue, which is not insignificant at all, because no matter what we say, the expenses are miserable, and some do not even pay them, it is difficult to look after children. Even my own children sometimes make me terribly nervous, especially when the commitments become a lot, and what's left for another child (I'm not deliberately saying that someone else will jump)? Not to mention how the child will perceive the other person. So I wouldn't blame anyone for not wanting to get involved, because things are rarely like in the movies: a big happy family.

   I joined the topic only because I was irritated by the first opinions "what was the income in England?". When we talk about children, it means talking about children, not about income and other conditions with which we justify our own decision. You use the same argument for income when it comes to your own children and how old you are, at 50 or 60, which is very simple to compare the creation of a human life with money! In Bulgaria it is not about income, but about mentality. And I have noticed that if you already have a child, no one wants you, no matter what the reason and what happened! I've even heard remarks like, "Well, leave this one with this trailer." One thing to remember, THE CHILD IS NOT A TRAILER, THE CHILD IS NOT MONEY, THE CHILD IS NOT A SUBJECT, GOODS!

   Women claim that men in Bulgaria are irresponsible, but if so, I am very interested in the sample that in 74% of cases, women abandon their husbands (everyone can see it on the net). On the other hand, if a man is irresponsible, he has been irresponsible before, not since yesterday. And what comes out is that a man was perfect for a while, then the woman changes her priorities and suddenly the man becomes something, either irresponsible or different. The most provable here is how many men post a topic that they cheat on their wives and how many women post such topics? "I bet the latter are many times more. And women are number 1, go to a dating site and you will see how many women there are and what they are. Most are either married or divorced with children. I enter one and soon I have not seen a girl who is not without a child or a man. And then comes the question, what do these women do there all the time? They don't look after their children, they don't cook for them, they don't take care of them or? Otherwise, in words, men have always been unreliable, and you are only victims, you are never guilty. And yes, I would never catch a woman with a child. It is clear to me that in the beginning everyone pretends to be hit and terribly good, just because it is clear to them that they cannot be measured by the indicators of the unattached, but after the moment of pretense, what is left? The pathetic reality. And the biggest mistake of women is that they are looking for a man with money. What about money? And even if there is, what can you give him in return for this financial security? As she is with money today, so she will be without money tomorrow, or she will be with another who is looking for the same money as you. I hear so many women that I want men with money, a lot of claims, but in reality, even if they had one, I haven't seen any dividends from this, because I haven't seen anyone give away like that soon, just because someone wanted to. I would never take a woman with a child as a partner because she decided one day to have her own, not her. On the other hand, it became clear that this child would have to eat, he would need clothes, he would need vacations at sea, mountains, excursions, and this money could easily go on my own, which will be known to me. he calls his father, and there is no time to hate me and tell me that I am nothing to him.

   18, and what is it? Isn't it a gypsy to throw 3 loaves of bread at home on the 10 chavets today and that's all you care about them? It is not even a question of a comparison between a horse and a hen, if we have to compare how Bulgarians and gypsies look after their children. I don't know the English, but as far as I read there they are looking to get a maid from Eastern Europe, that obviously there is not enough male strength and responsibility when it comes to babysitting, running a school, etc. And their wives should not spoil their manicure by accident.

   Until №19. You're right - that's why it was written on top of a rug! The child is not a commodity, the child is a human being and needs attention! It is not vital to just feed him - he wants Care! I quote: "On the other hand, it became clear that this child will have to eat, he will need clothes, he will need vacations at sea, mountains, excursions, and this money could easily go on my own, which will be known. that he will call my father, and there is no time when he does not tell him to hate me and tell me that I am nothing to him. "Whether a child will hate you - depends on you! It depends on the age of the child, even if it is yours Biologically!

   "Be financially independent and you will see how men will not be so cowardly." ... Bravo Number: 8 AMAN from women who want a man to provide them with a good standard of children with them.

   My observations are as follows - a woman who has been married and has a child / children - then there will always be a man by her side, whether a lot of men for a short or a serious long relationship. It's just that the attitude of these women from the very beginning is such that they prefer to have a partner, that is, they easily attract men. At the same time, it is full of women without children who live alone because they are used to it. Even if they have many suitors, they consciously or not repel them because they are afraid of commitment. Of course, there are exceptions, but according to my observations in 90% of cases this is true.

   I used to have one opinion on the issue, now I have another. I used to think that this was happening, that it was human things and that it could happen to anyone. But over time, most of the divorced mothers I meet, almost all of them (I can't even think of exceptions), are so bad emotionally that I don't think it's a coincidence anymore and I would hardly go out with one. Most of those I know behave like teenagers, leaving their children to their parents and not taking care of them on their own or properly. Personally, I really liked such a woman with a child. Outwardly she was perfect and very strong in speech and in words she looked perfect, but the more I got to know her, the more I understood what she was talking about. she dumped her husband because she already loved him, then it turned out that she had 3 more relationships after him, which were serious, who had ended at her request, men who had taken her into their home, who had paid for her and the child, and who knows how many frivolous relationships she had. Not to mention that at first I didn't think about it, but in order to be with me, she systematically dumped her child with her parents and told them that she had a job late. Then she wondered why her child was a problem at school, why he didn't get good grades, and why he was weird. As long as she abandoned her husband and this child was hardly seen with him, but the other parent, instead of watching him, to study together, she throws him to the grandparents to watch him. homework, life lessons, he knew all of them, and the mother who played him as a victim, as a single parent, had played so much that over time, the more I understood, the more I became disgusted. I even asked her one day, well, you know that he has an important math exam soon, why don't you come home to help him, and she replied that she didn't understand math problems, and then she almost blamed me for the situation, because it was because of me that her child it was just. not to mention that before accepting me as a friend on Facebook, sending her a kiss there made me useless, because what would everyone on her profile think, and in fact then I realized that shortly before he met me, another one was over. a relationship with someone who had been behind for more than a year, who did everything for them, but it was uninteresting to her and she couldn't last it in the end. not to mention money, that she regularly went to buy new clothes, went to beauticians and hairdressers, solariums, and her parents took care of everything for the child, and even gave it to her. So I lasted less than 6 months, then I told her not to bother me anymore. Then it started to impress me that in fact many of the divorced women in children under the age of 30 behave like that. Discos, as they said above, dating sites, makeup is just that in their head, and their children are watched by their parents, and you see, they needed personal space, because it was not easy for them to be single parents.

   I'm number 8. Number 24 described very well perhaps 90% of single mothers. There are probably decent women among them who take care of their children, but like decent people, they are generally a minority. Although I have not had such a relationship, I know many such "mothers" and they are all an exact copy of the image described above. I can only add that not up to 30, but all their lives remain so.

   №24. Emmy, that's right. I'm also a single mother with a child. Let me note here that I am not the case of your ex, ie I was dumped most brutally. We live with single parents. Yes. We live. If we were married with partners, we would think and take care not only of the child but also of our partner. Only those who have not been single parents do not know what it is. I have not thought about the question in the topic. At least for now, I have no intention of getting in touch. But even though I have a child, I don't miss suitors.

   Ooo №26 What does "I want to live" mean. A woman's life changes the moment she gives birth and she cannot afford to live as a maiden (so to speak). It doesn't matter if you abandoned or were abandoned, it matters whether as a mother you take care of your child. It is important what is your priority in the thoughts "I want to live" or the child. I am married with two children, don't I want to live? But I take into account that I have created children, even if they abandon me one day, I will still be the mother of my children and I have to watch them at least while they study.

   24 to 26. 27 she told you very softly and gallantly, but I'm thinking of explaining to you how things sit in plain text. You're right that you want to live, I shouldn't have. however, the point is that somewhere in the past you made a choice and you have to live according to that choice. Ok, they dumped them, but isn't it widespread now that you women choose your men? If so, then why didn't you choose the right person? The second choice you made was to have a child, I hope he was quite conscious, not a mistake. So when you decide to have a child, it automatically means that you have to take care of that child you want, you don't want, it doesn't matter. Where do you find these many suitors? Hardly because you were sitting in front of the washing machine and the stove, as well as cleaning at home. There's one like you, before he told me that he could easily fit in time cleaning, cooking, beauty treatments, coffee with friends, even a movie, within 24 hours, given that 8 of these 24 work :) a normal person could not believe it you remember. So do you, you had a lot of suitors who you probably meet by chance for a second, when you take the child to kindergarten and run to work. In general, what is written is a complete sorrow, unfortunately it affects the children, hey this is the biggest mistake. And yes, with such thinking, you will not meet a responsible person who wants you or if he does, it will be in as little time as he understands what you are doing :) you couldn't believe it, you know. So do you, you had a lot of suitors who you probably meet by chance for a second, when you take the child to the garden and run to work. In general, what is written is a complete sorrow, unfortunately it affects the children, hey this is the biggest mistake. And yes, with such thinking, you will not meet a responsible person who wants you or if he does, it will be in as little time as he understands what you are doing :) you couldn't believe it, you know. So do you, you had a lot of suitors who you probably meet by chance for a second, when you take the child to kindergarten and run to work. In general, what is written is a complete sorrow, unfortunately it affects the children, hey this is the biggest mistake. And yes, with such thinking, you will not meet a responsible person who wants you or if he does, it will be in as little time as he understands what you are doing :)

   From 26 to 27. As a mother, don't I have the right to go out for coffee with my friends once a week? As a mother, should I lock up that padlock job? Sakun, because I have a child, I don't deserve any sex. I can't claim to be the perfect parent (it doesn't seem to exist). I work, I take care of the child, I provide him with what he needs, I do not abuse him, I have been in hospital several times while he is sick, I want a good future for him and I try to give it to him. But now, if I don't think at least a little about myself, when? The child will grow up, will have his own life and what will I cuckoo? Or will I do the things I wanted to do with a cane and a chin? Go see how people who have children in normal countries live. The Bulgarian mentality is a terrible thing. It is not for you to let communism raise this cult of the selfless mother to the grave. There is no such thing nowadays. Yes. I love my child more than anything. I hope he grows up alive and well. While I am on this earth, I will help him as much as I can and support him. But that doesn't mean I have to completely forget about myself. To be left in a very unsightly state. So when I went to an interview for a new job, for example, they cut me off despite the knowledge and qualities I have. It doesn't mean I shouldn't see anyone and not have fun. Because from the lack of such things, some of us feel mentally harassed, and we all know that this leads to all sorts of diseases. that I must completely forget about myself. To be left in a very unsightly state. So when I went to an interview for a new job, for example, they cut me off despite the knowledge and qualities I have. It doesn't mean I shouldn't see anyone and not have fun. Because from the lack of such things, some of us feel mentally harassed, and we all know that this leads to all sorts of diseases. that I must completely forget about myself. To be left in a very unsightly state. So when I went to an interview for a new job, for example, they cut me off despite the knowledge and qualities I have. It doesn't mean I shouldn't see anyone and not have fun. Because from the lack of such things, some of us feel mentally harassed, and we all know that this leads to all sorts of diseases.

   Single mothers and divorced women with children can naturally find a new relationship or start a new family. History №1 She doesn't have an attractive appearance at all, but she doesn't have one at all. At 165-166 cm. is 90 kg. that and above. He met a rum. They quickly lived together and she became pregnant. During this time, the Roma went to prison, and when he was released, it turned out that he had a wife and a child. In short, she was left alone. Her father was going to have a stroke. He coiled her when she gave birth to give the child up for adoption. When she gave birth to a brother and stood firmly behind her and with him and her father and raised her daughter. She tried several relationships, but it did not work. She accidentally met a man from another city on the Internet, a bachelor, several years older than her. And they were very physically fit. He is just as plump as her. They met several times and later reunited. Today they live happily. History№2 Even at puberty she went down the wrong path. School escapes, alcohol, prostitution. At 21, he met a light. A football fan who one day in his life did not work. Everything seemed to be serious, but after she got pregnant he started behaving disgustingly with her. He beat her and kicked her every day. She gave birth. He named the child after his mother. But after another beating, when he broke her ribs, they finally parted. She was terribly upset and unhappy. He set out again on the path of prostitution and relationships for a night or two. That's how she met him. Usually a working boy. Despite the past, he and the child accepted her. To date, they are happily married. She is 7 months pregnant. These stories are real. It happened before my eyes. So it's all a matter of luck and a little more persistent search. alcohol, prostitution. At 21, he met a light. A football fan who one day in his life did not work. Everything seemed to be serious, but after she got pregnant he started behaving disgustingly with her. He beat her and kicked her every day. She gave birth. He named the child after his mother. But after another beating, when he broke her ribs, they finally parted. She was terribly upset and unhappy. He set out again on the path of prostitution and relationships for a night or two. That's how she met him. Usually a working boy. Despite the past, he and the child accepted her. To date, they are happily married. She is 7 months pregnant. These stories are real. It happened before my eyes. So it's all a matter of luck and a little more persistent search. alcohol, prostitution. At 21, he met a light. A football fan who one day in his life did not work. Everything seemed to be serious, but after she got pregnant he started behaving disgustingly with her. He beat her and kicked her every day. She gave birth. He named the child after his mother. But after another beating, when he broke her ribs, they finally parted. She was terribly upset and unhappy. He set out again on the path of prostitution and relationships for a night or two. That's how she met him. Usually a working boy. Despite the past, he and the child accepted her. To date, they are happily married. She is 7 months pregnant. These stories are real. It happened before my eyes. So it's all a matter of luck and a little more persistent search. Everything seemed to be serious, but after she got pregnant he started behaving disgustingly with her. He beat her and kicked her every day. She gave birth. He named the child after his mother. But after another beating, when he broke her ribs, they finally parted. She was terribly upset and unhappy. He set out again on the path of prostitution and relationships for a night or two. That's how she met him. Usually a working boy. Despite the past, he and the child accepted her. To date, they are happily married. She is 7 months pregnant. These stories are real. It happened before my eyes. So it's all a matter of luck and a little more persistent search. Everything seemed to be serious, but after she got pregnant he started behaving disgustingly with her. He beat her and kicked her every day. She gave birth. He named the child after his mother. But after another beating, when he broke her ribs, they finally parted. She was terribly upset and unhappy. He set out again on the path of prostitution and relationships for a night or two. That's how she met him. Usually a working boy. Despite the past, he and the child accepted her. To date, they are happily married. She is 7 months pregnant. These stories are real. It happened before my eyes. So it's all a matter of luck and a little more persistent search. She was terribly upset and unhappy. He set out again on the path of prostitution and relationships for a night or two. That's how she met him. Usually a working boy. Despite the past, he and the child accepted her. To date, they are happily married. She is 7 months pregnant. These stories are real. It happened before my eyes. So it's all a matter of luck and a little more persistent search. She was terribly upset and unhappy. He set out again on the path of prostitution and relationships for a night or two. That's how she met him. Usually a working boy. Despite the past, he and the child accepted her. To date, they are happily married. She is 7 months pregnant. These stories are real. It happened before my eyes. So it's all a matter of luck and a little more persistent search.

   I completely agree with No. 28 On No. 29 I can say that there is nothing wrong - We have heard 1001 tales, the question is that it is not the rule, but the exception is for a prostitute to meet one, right? According to your theory, to do nonsense per kilo, then we will meet a man who will fix our lives, look after our children and make us happy? I am a pragmatist - a man who is firmly on his feet and therefore I support n. 28. It sucks, it is even cruel, but such is life and such is the reality - as a woman I can confirm that we make the choice, but as a woman I am aware that I have the right to a limited number of choices, and when a child appears - the end of the fun. It is not bad for divorced mothers to look for their happiness, but the interests of the child must come first. And I'll start like No. 29, but I'm tired of watching irresponsible women, who jump from man to man and every month a new gentleman is the "father" of their children. Calm the ball down a bit, get on your feet and learn to be responsible for yourself and your children, then look for men. I will tell the author that not only in our country, but also in the West, men do not kill for divorced women with children. However, even for divorced men, women are not killed there, because the people in question are bound by huge sums. This is not the case in our country, men get away very easily. Well, in the West, in certain low and low classes, divorced women with children are even sought after because they have a secured income (from the ex-husband) and can often shelter a breadwinner to live on the support of the person in question. But anyway, this is not the case in Bulgaria. Dear women, do not waste your time looking for Mr. Prince on a white horse, but watch your children. Let them and their interests be number 1. Yes, they will grow up and go their own way, but until then you are responsible for them. Do not break their psyche and life, because you do not know what you want and how to organize your life. You will change 10 men, and what? Men will not make you happy if you are not happy. However, your children are completely dependent on you. Remember this. ж28

   n. 24/28 I forgot to write that unfortunately I have similar observations as you. I'm not saying that all single mothers are like that, on the contrary - I take my hat off to most of them, but there are a lot of women among them who bet entirely on another man. There are women like your girlfriend, and there are women like them. Rather, I associate this phenomenon with the very early and reckless birth of children. But you made your experience. However, do not put all women under one denominator, however, each is different. However, run away from women who do not know what they want, cannot take responsibility and are not interested in their relatives, friends, even their own children. Carefully consider your future wife, because your babe has not always been divorced, and she once wrapped a fool, as she turned and turns her parents all her life. As a wife, it's clear to me that I make my choice, that I choose the father of my children. This is a huge responsibility, but everyone makes mistakes. However, I cannot understand women who repeat the same mistake, especially if it is at the expense of their own children. N. 2 is quite extreme - everyone deserves a second chance, but unfortunately I know a lot of such women. What they have in common is that their husbands are always to blame, that they have not learned to be independent, but they are always waiting for the next man to make them happy, to do this or that for them, without them being able to do anything themselves. either for the man next to her. The author is otherwise wrong - not to go to the moon, to the moon, you can not escape from your mistakes, most of all you can not escape from yourself. who repeat the same mistake, especially if it is at the expense of their own children. N. 2 is quite extreme - everyone deserves a second chance, but unfortunately I know a lot of such women. What they have in common is that their husbands are always to blame, that they have not learned to be independent, but they are always waiting for the next man to make them happy, to do this or that for them, without them being able to do anything themselves. either for the man next to her. The author is otherwise wrong - not to go to the moon, to the moon, you can not escape from your mistakes, most of all you can not escape from yourself. who repeat the same mistake, especially if it is at the expense of their own children. N. 2 is quite extreme - everyone deserves a second chance, but unfortunately I know a lot of such women. What they have in common is that their husbands are always to blame, that they have not learned to be independent, but they are always waiting for the next man to make them happy, to do this or that for them, without them being able to do anything themselves. either for the man next to her. The author is otherwise wrong - not to go to London, to the moon, you can not escape from your mistakes, most of all you can not escape from yourself. and they are always waiting for the next man to make them happy, to do this or that for them, without them being able to do anything for the man next to them. The author is otherwise wrong - not to go to London, to the moon, you can not escape from your mistakes, most of all you can not escape from yourself. and they are always waiting for the next man to make them happy, to do this or that for them, without them being able to do anything for the man next to them. The author is otherwise wrong - not to go to London, to the moon, you can not escape from your mistakes, most of all you can not escape from yourself.

   I prefer a woman without children, I guess most single men are like that

   According to my observations, I can say about England as a rich and extremely social country, although in a recent crisis. I have lived here for many years. The reasons why an Englishman is not so afraid of whether a woman has a child / children are: 1. Financial: - for the child the state gives weekly money to cover almost his food expenses. I deliberately do not mention numbers, because they will mean nothing to a person who has no idea what the equivalent of this amount is. I'll tell you what the money can buy. -the mother receives money from the state as a single parent This money is as much as a minimum / basic pension for the country. The woman can buy food, clothes (children's clothes are very cheap), pay her rent (which can be at municipal prices if the apartment is state-owned). And she can take priority because of her status as a single mother. -can receive a municipal housing, for which the rent is lower than a private house, for example, and the maintenance and repair of installations in the house - electricity, water, gas and mowing the lawn in the yard, for example, provides and performs the municipality as landlord of the house - he can receive other regular or one-time benefits - here each case is individual and depends on the needs and circumstances. The child can be given free food stamps at school, a free or cheaper transport card, house tax can be paid, etc. - medicines for children under 18 are free here - treatment in hospital is free - education up to 18 years is free With the money so far the minimum subsistence level of the mother with a child is guaranteed by the state. That is, they will be fed, clothed, warm, the child will be provided with free education and treatment. There is a requirement that a child not be left alone at home until the age of 12. And the mother has to take him to school at 9 o'clock. and take it at 3pm and something. So, in practice, there can be no full-time job if there is no one else to rely on. Mothers here work part-time - 4-5 hours a day, even unmarried women, so they can look after their children and the house. It is difficult to meet a middle-class woman, for example, who works more than 28 hours a week (the full working week is 37 and a half hours). They don't bother at all, although they will take more money, because here they are paid by the hour. They prefer to have more free time. However, just for information, the neighborhoods with municipal housing do not have a very good reputation in society. There the atmosphere is .... different from a "good" neighborhood. -the support from the father is also helpful -separately if the woman works more money will enter the house There are babysitters with hourly pay (part of the money for this is paid by the municipality) for the purpose or the mother looks after them. Private gardens are in the pocket of a woman with a stable income and profession. In some municipal gardens, a woman on a minimum wage can leave her child for a few hours a day, otherwise it is expensive. He can still use financial assistance from the municipality for this in the form of vouchers. Keep in mind that a household with people on minimum wages spends about 25% on food, no more than 30% of their income. And above all, most are for various fees, insurance, etc. They go on vacation in Spain, for example. The shopkeepers are mostly young people without families and children, students or older mature women, some in pre-retirement age, who have already looked after their children .... No employer has a requirement for the saleswoman to have a pleasant appearance, with higher education and to be up to 25 years old, as in BG .... and to speak English :) :) Eee, to here as you can see financially a woman with a child would not be a burden on the income of her second husband or friend (many of them live without marriage) 2. cultural and social Feminist society are and women are quite arrogant. Drinking them Friday and Saturday nights to oblivion is unprecedented. It is socially acceptable for a woman to have a child and no husband, unlike, for example, some other societies. It is also normal for a couple to have children without marriage. You can also see many pregnant teenagers or young children. There were a lot of girls in my son's class who didn't graduate because they got married and gave birth. Half after graduation they go to college, very small part in university. Most, however, finish something while working. Internship and experience for them are more important than an education without experience. In general, my impression is that they are not as ambitious for learning and career as the Bulgarians, for example ... In general - they earn a college and look after their lives. But that's enough for them, they are more practical. Then, in the process of work, they take a higher educational degree, if the employer offers them. They are paid by funds. Many of the children leave the family around the age of 18 and live alone with someone somewhere. They take out a loan to study at a university if they are going to study, if they don't get a job somewhere and support themselves, and that's it. And their parents don't feel obliged to help them financially, to buy them houses or to look after their children. They have their lives. From all that has been said so far, it is not a problem for an Englishman to " and her maternity leave was paid for 9 months, but then she received other benefits. And the father, if he is at home, will play with the children or take them out to the park, they will kick a ball, they will play - what is the problem. Homework is not just for women. At home they are not cleaners like us - who has not entered an English house with small children has not seen anything. But they don't care at all that other alas were not cleaned. When they go somewhere it will be with the whole family and for them where there is 1 there are also 3 and it is a very fun-full house with a children's league, and they do not embody like us so much for things and so they live easily .... I can write much more .... But in general there is nothing to worry about the man so much, because they live in a welfare state with a high standard, in which the elementary minimum and care for the child and for the person in general is for the most part the care of the state. ... but they made it. When our grandfathers plowed the fields and fought for the nat. independence, theirs were on the ships and conquered the world. Now 32 countries (one third of the world) are in the British community, the same were their former colonies. So how come their grandchildren aren't well now? Jeanne

   Jeanne, very nice, but I did not see how the situation in England is better - on the contrary, they stimulate people from the lower social strata to procreate and take loans and increase the taxes of normal people. I don't know when you haven't lived in Bulgaria, but we are a poor country and we don't have the right to loans, because we've been through this - and the British won't be spared, don't worry - they have no production, they are uneducated and have been uneducated for 120 years. develop only in one direction - backwards. I feel sorry for this once great nation, but they have not been a great nation for a long time, they are not rich and, in fact, they cannot afford to waste it. The key there is precisely in their poor public education, which is what the children of single mothers receive. How many mothers do you think who are on social benefits can afford a good school? In Bulgaria, elite high schools and universities are public to remind and the children of single mothers share the rank with the child of the Speaker of Parliament .. But the topic was different - yes, definitely not only in England but throughout Western social Europe is full of single mothers and men for them, but you forget that we also have social classes there and these people automatically belong to the thaw of society. In Bulgaria we not only do not have social classes, but also single mothers are found among all strata of society and are far from being automatically written off, they attend the same schools as the children of rich families. Otherwise, middle-class and wealthier men in Western Europe do not die for single mothers. There are lovers, of course, but no man marries such a woman, which I do not see Bulgarians,

   I do not agree with the author - yes, I am a woman :). Bulgarian men, in general (I am not referring to anyone individually), have a lot of deficits compared to men in the West. This is due to many factors, the most serious of which are economic and legal. But I do not believe that single mothers are more prejudiced than their European counterparts. And I will explain why. My cousin has been in a relationship with a single mother for three years now. She has a 9-year-old child. The child is raised by his grandparents. The mother goes home to sleep or change. My cousin helps her financially because, according to him, with her salary of euros 800 it is very difficult for her. Every year they go abroad twice - the three of them - entirely at his expense. But completely! :) In the summer they go on several vacations. The three. Once a month they go out of town - the three of them, at his expense. At other times, she sees her child when she returns home after work before meeting her cousin. The fact that she does not take enough care of the child impresses him in a negative way. The fact that she accepted the huge expense at his expense without wanting to change anything in her life in the direction of reuniting with him also began to strongly repel him. He is now parting with her, but he is sad for her boy - how he will react. Case two. My sister is divorced. He has a son from his first marriage. She met a man who became a second father for her son. Her son is already 20 years old, and she broke up with this cool man, but he continues to take care of my nephew - he helps him financially, they talk on the phone every day etc. Certainly there are cowardly men, calculating men, cowardly men - but such exist everywhere. There are, however, responsible, mature men, who, once they decide that they have met love, accept it as it is. I, for example, do not particularly accept the free English model. The man abandons his wife with their two children, goes to another with three foreign children - to look after them instead of his own, and his wife finds a liberated ... father of several other children by two or three women. Well, isn't that very normal and responsible? :) :)

   Everyone who is so bad and can't do well in BG goes to London or somewhere else ... and there are common bulls and they work again for euros 300.

   from n34 to n35 What I have written above is solely and exclusively based on personal observations and experiences from my life in England, not what I have read and watched as films, commentaries, journalistic articles, etc. those that can be deliberately betrayed, manipulative and misleading. It seems to me that you have never lived and worked in this country, but you allow yourself to comment on things and phenomena that you do not know in depth and therefore sound prejudiced. Since the topic is for single mothers, and more specifically why it is not a problem for an Englishman to marry a woman with a child from previous relationships, I have tried to explain to people in more detail why. On the question of why money is given to the lower social strata. In the last 2 terms, the ruling party was the Labor Party and things were under their control. Their idea is that this reduces child poverty / misery and crime, as well as raises the standard of living of the lower social strata. Many social projects and programs to support children and young families have been implemented. But as in many things the coin has two sides - it also encourages births among young uneducated girls, etc ... There is a lot to talk about here, but I will stop here. As for their education, I wouldn't say it's bad. It's just different from what we're used to - it's more practical and more about life. It is not so archaic and dry. Their material base is ... a dream. In my opinion, if there is a lack of educational progress, it is more a problem of the mentality and culture of one person (or a group of people) than of their system as a whole. That is, if a person prefers not to take much effort to study, he will not make very clear progress. It is so everywhere. There are many nice public schools here - with traditions, prestigious, with a good base as complexes, which are run by state, but are independent and run academies, so they call them. What prevents a single mother's child from studying there - nothing. As long as he has the desire and learns from him. There are such children in my daughter's class. I will not comment on this for the classes, because it is not the subject of the topic. I will only say that there is social mobility here, and the people are more cultured and educated, unlike the newly hatched rich Bulgarians and those from the former nomenklatura, who consider themselves to be something more and are extremely arrogant, lying and stealing, and here such things will not be tolerated for an hour. Come with health! Jeanne with a good base as complexes, which are run by state, but are independent and run academies, so they call them. What prevents a single mother's child from studying there - nothing. As long as he has the desire and learns from him. There are such children in my daughter's class. I will not comment on this for the classes, because it is not the subject of the topic. I will only say that there is social mobility here, and the people are more cultured and educated, unlike the newly hatched rich Bulgarians and those from the former nomenklatura, who consider themselves to be something more and are extremely arrogant, lying and stealing, and here such things will not be tolerated for an hour. Come with health! Jeanne with a good base as complexes, which are run by state, but are independent and run academies, so they call them. What prevents a single mother's child from studying there - nothing. As long as he has the desire and learns from him. There are such children in my daughter's class. I will not comment on this for the classes, because it is not the subject of the topic. I will only say that there is social mobility here, and the people are more cultured and educated, unlike the newly hatched rich Bulgarians and those from the former nomenklatura, who consider themselves to be something more and are extremely arrogant, lying and stealing, and here such things will not be tolerated for an hour. Come with health! Jeanne I will not comment on this for the classes, because it is not the subject of the topic. I will only say that there is social mobility here, and the people are more cultured and educated, unlike the newly hatched rich Bulgarians and those from the former nomenklatura, who consider themselves to be something more and are extremely arrogant, lying and stealing, and here such things will not be tolerated for an hour. Come with health! Jeanne I will not comment on this for the classes, because it is not the subject of the topic. I will only say that there is social mobility here, and the people are more cultured and educated, unlike the newly hatched rich Bulgarians and those from the former nomenklatura, who consider themselves to be something more and are extremely arrogant, lying and stealing, and here such things will not be tolerated for an hour. Come with health! Jeanne

   from 35 to 34/38 I haven't lived in England, but I don't write barefoot - my brother has lived there for 5 years, I have many acquaintances there, I know the language, I watch BBC, I am an economist by education (I graduated in the West) and there is no way - I have also gone through the economic history of England and we have analyzed the reasons for this country to degrade in this way. I know at least 2 Bulgarian families, true - not single parents or socially disadvantaged, who returned because they could not afford a private school in England, and in first grade there taught their children to count with a Christmas tree! As for the material base in the school - in my city in Bulgaria the best material base is the sports school - they even have a modern pool, they have a winter garden, large rooms, each floor is a different color, they have expensive equipment, etc. but no normal parent sends their child there, and in the 19th-century High School of Natural Sciences and Mathematics with rattled boards and damaged heating. However, in Bulgaria, as in most countries of continental Europe (excluding Spain), you can be sure that public education will give your child a chance to stand on the same level as that of the son of the Speaker of the National Assembly. In the Anglo-American system, however, you have to prepare some 10-30 vouchers a year for this privilege. This is the reason why the Island is not a good place for the children of emigrants - no matter how studious you are, neither the material nor the system are made for you to prosper and have an equal chance. He is not wanted! When the official languages ​​and the Germans were formed in the 19th century, the Russians, for example (and the Bulgarians), chose the phonetic principle - you write what you read, the English deliberately chose not to write what you read, so that the lower classes do not have access to letter and reading. Even today (according to my brother) it is no exception in England to find people who cannot read and write. His colleagues could not read what was written on the bins for separate garbage collection-ANALPHABETS. In Bulgaria we complain about typos, but in terms of literacy rate we are second in the world after Singapore and well below 1% of our population are actually illiterate. I'm not talking here about reading comprehension, but about elementary literacy - being able to read "mom", "daddy", knowing the alphabet - we don't have a practically illiterate person, even gypsies can read that much. Where are the scientific and economic successes of Great Britain in the last 50-100 years? Ask the aristocracy and hereditary industrialists, who have long exported production to Asia and do not sleep for their own population (the masses). The political system is designed so that only two parties have a chance, who defends the interests of the poor classes? It's just that, according to an old tradition, the upper classes provide the lowest bread, the roof, so that the latter can remain silent and degrade peacefully and quietly in a social home, but far from the estates, please, far from the places where "high society" moves. for God's sake, away from the schools and universities where children learn "tons." My best friend is a single mother in Bulgaria. The son? attends the best school, and she has a friend (they don't live together yet) who takes the child? from school in the evening because she works shifts and sometimes there is no opportunity. In this child's class are the children of the local rich, the children of the doctors, even the children of the mutts, the children of the janitors, the children of the mayor. In my class in Bulgaria were the children of the owners of the largest cosmetics factories in the country, as well as the daughter and heiress of the largest company for bottling mineral water. My family was poor, and Sergei's family consisted of a drunken father, an unemployed mother, and three children. What I want to say - well, the children in our country have a relatively equal chance. When I grew up, I had connections, I could always call the boss of company X and Y, because I had studied with them in elementary school, in high school. From kindergarten I know a very famous Bulgarian director, the Deputy Mayor. Do you think in the class of children of single mothers, immigrants and the lower classes in Britain whether there will be children of mayors, politicians, aristocrats, industrialists? By the way, not only in Bulgaria the system is like that, it is borrowed from the French, German and Russian systems. As for men - there are some, there are some. My classmate, also a rich son, married a woman with two children. Everyone knows people with two marriages, it is no longer a miracle in Bulgaria, but yes - the state definitely does not encourage people to give birth to children they cannot take care of. We can neither, nor do we want to print money like on the Island, nor do we want to increase taxes, so everyone has to make their own account. The state is not obliged to look after our children. Many people have grown up more or less in poverty, but it has not hurt us, because in our country poverty is not inherited and there are no classes, unlike in the UK. I'm not ashamed that I was poor, I'm not anymore. There was no heating or pool in my school, but look - it didn't hurt me and I went to study in the West, but yes - in a country with a developed public education, where the children of single mothers, emigrants, etc. have more or less equal chances, not social benefits on a hat. At the moment, only so many people on social benefits live in the UK alone. The problem is not that - the problem is that their children will live as their children did, but will they be able to afford it in the future? How long can you print money and produce nothing but the socially disadvantaged? The attitude of a society towards single mothers is not measured by the amount of social benefits, I mean - the attitude is measured by the chance for their children for a better future and their chance compared to the children of the rich, the rich. where the children of single mothers, emigrants, etc. have more or less equal chances, not social benefits on a hat. At the moment, only so many people on social benefits live in the UK alone. The problem is not that - the problem is that their children will live as their children did, but will they be able to afford it in the future? How long can you print money and produce nothing but the socially disadvantaged? The attitude of a society towards single mothers is not measured by the amount of social benefits, I mean - the attitude is measured by the chance for their children for a better future and their chance compared to the children of the rich, the rich. where the children of single mothers, emigrants, etc. have more or less equal chances, not social benefits on a hat. At the moment, only so many people on social benefits live in the UK alone. The problem is not that - the problem is that their children will live as their children did, but will they be able to afford it in the future? How long can you print money and produce nothing but the socially disadvantaged? The attitude of a society towards single mothers is not measured by the amount of social benefits, I mean - the attitude is measured by the chance for their children for a better future and their chance compared to the children of the rich, the rich. The problem is not that - the problem is that their children will live as their children did, but will they be able to afford it in the future? How long can you print money and produce nothing but the socially disadvantaged? The attitude of a society towards single mothers is not measured by the amount of social benefits, I mean - the attitude is measured by the chance for their children for a better future and their chance compared to the children of the rich, the rich. The problem is not that - the problem is that their children will live as their children did, but will they be able to afford it in the future? How long can you print money and produce nothing but the socially disadvantaged? The attitude of a society towards single mothers is not measured by the amount of social benefits, I mean - the attitude is measured by the chance for their children for a better future and their chance compared to the children of the rich, the rich.

   It is not a question of who has how much money and opportunities. If a woman comes to me just with the idea of ​​finding a piggy bank for her and the child, it won't happen. Even if the child was mine, I still would not tolerate such a person next to me, I just do not see the point. First a person must be able to take care of himself and then of those he has created. You cannot give birth expecting someone else to take responsibility for you and your children. You can't have claims for vacations and other pampering, since you don't earn even 5 leva. There's nothing wrong with going out with friends during the day or, say, going to a disco on a Friday night. Grandparents can cancel the parent for a few hours, but watching the child permanently until the mother leaves the cafes and discos is frivolous.

   All divorced women with children I know have partners next to them who take care of their children. Are they the perfect men? Hardly? But there are none for women without children. There are simply no perfect people. In any case, every single woman with a child with 100% certainty is looking for a man to help her financially, and this is not because she is necessarily a materialist. It's just that every mother would do everything possible to provide for her child financially, and in most cases her search for such a partner is even on a subconscious level. In this sense, my observations are that women divorced with a child or a single parent with a child are much more successful in finding and finding a partner to provide for them, because they are more inclined to compromise, they are more insistent, they are more persistent, they are more compliant, if you will, they are also more "sticky". They are ready to cook, to clean, to please without much objection, until they bind the man to themselves and until they bind him very tightly to themselves. They very easily take on the role of a victim - a woman with a child who needs a protector, and men die to feel strong and protective. These are my observations on friends and acquaintances ... the system always works flawlessly. I know many wonderful single women and many single mothers - each with a partner next to her.

   Single women with children left them to their parents, went to hairdressers, beauticians, discos, etc. I know at least 5-6 such married women who do the same. But no one has said about them, "What is waving to the left, to the right, and not looking at the child." For such women, anything is possible. They are married. They have kept their morale. And that they may have several lovers, the others do not care once they are married. People understand that when a woman is left alone with a child, she cannot be alone to the grave, without sex, without a partner. Why not put on a veil, huh? That's enough. Realize that we live in the 21st century. Karina

   42 just as we are in the 21st century, it should give people at least a little brain, not act like tamagotchi. Those families who do as you describe have a temporary advantage, namely that they have found men who are so stupid or so weak as to tolerate them. Divorced people were not so lucky, and given the children they gave birth to, they must comply with far stricter rules. And if it was so easy and promising, they would not be alone with children, but probably would have a different social status. All this is irrelevant and a matter of personal choice, but only and only if the divorced in question are not lying on someone else's back, for example their parents who want to do not want to have to take care of their children while their "sick" mothers do desperate attempts to pull a wealthy gentleman.

   Author, you have a chance as long as you have hope. Do not be left alone - look after your life and do not make sacrifices for the sake of a child - THERE ARE NO MORE UNGRATEFUL BEINGS THAN CHILDREN. So don't make sacrifices and look for a friend - no matter how it sounds to you. I am a loner - she sacrificed herself for an UNGRATEFUL daughter. Be happy and seek your happiness!

   I did not have time to read all the comments, but I want to give my opinion. And that is that if the mother wants to find an excuse with her child and blame him for her bad relationships, first, that she will never find happiness, and second, that she will complex her child, which goes on, so to speak. Otherwise, what are men capable of? After all, as long as the woman they love is of good quality and knows that the child always comes first. My girlfriend has 4 children, the first is from a man who does not look for her, then there are 2 more and then she divorced. Her second husband does not separate the other from his. Now she has a baby and together with her 3rd husband they raise all 4, and the previous one also takes them. I'm not saying she's right, she's not. The point is, she'll never say my kids bother me. If a man tells her, she will say that if she doesn't accept them, and they are part of her and of her life, then he is the only one who hinders her. The fact that your child prevents you from going out in the evening, meeting men or "realizing" yourself at work (I have not seen such a company in BG but fuck it) is an absolute fabrication and the easiest excuse for a woman without self-confidence. . I personally have 2 children and I do not plan to divorce. But whether I do it or not, my children come first. ~ Ramona ~

   №45 you write that you have two children, but you are not divorced. Then do not give a competent opinion on something you have not experienced. I am 26 years old, a single parent with a child under 2 years old. At the moment I do not think to get seriously involved, because this year I will graduate and look for a better job. And right now I want to take a break from family cohabitation. So if I decide, for example, to go out in the evening with men, of course I can't leave the child. First, our people would not agree, and they are not obliged to. After all, he is my child. My child is not at such an age that I can leave him a friend to look after him or a babysitter. I would say that when they are small the children hinder us, but then after the age of 5-6 it is different.

   I support Ramona, even though I find that girlfriend? not for example, but quite the opposite. Otherwise, number 46 - to think when you were in a hurry with the family academy. No one is to blame. Let me remind you that it is forbidden to leave a child under 12 alone, so do not think that at 5-6 you can leave your child to go after men. You are 26 years old, you were in a hurry to take everything from life, but there is no free lunch.

   From №46 to №47, if you don't know how and why I got to this situation, don't talk. Somewhere to read that I intend to leave my child ONLY? No, of course. I meant that when he turns 5-6 he will understand more and for example I can leave him to a friend.

   № 48 At the age of 2 the child will experience a few hours of separation from his mother, at 5-6 it will be more difficult for the child. The babysitters are professionals, the child sleeps in the evening, I guess you can't live to part with him now. For which it will be better if you look for a second father at all, it will be now, both for the child and for the man, it will be easier if the child is not 3 years old.

   49 - I do not completely agree with you. I have worked for 3 years as a babysitter and you just can't replace the mother, although in a few hours you can be right - in small children it's even easier for everyone. And you're not right about the rest. If you do not find a quality man, the age of the child does not matter. M. is a single father who raised his child from the age of 2 and changed many "mothers", which terribly stressed his child and today is a damaged young woman who ran away from his parents from him. Every woman did not meet his requirements, he always put the child in the first place (he always repeated to every next woman that his daughter was number 1, to get used to it) and terribly spoiled the little girl who did terrible tricks to get rid of every next woman. in his life. Not today ? napping for a father ?, of course. He stayed to repeat 12th grade and lived with his grandparents, where they continue to pamper her, her father stands alone like a cuckoo and loses the last woman who loved him. The problem with single parents in general is that there is a reason for them to be single parents in the first place. Most of them (not all) have too high requirements for partners and are not ready to compromise. The tragedy is that they feel guilty about the lack of a second parent and turn their children into the meaning and center of their lives, pamper them and raise the next generation of single parents, because such children are used to and expect to receive everything, attention and pampering and not tolerate a normal person next to them Most of them (not all) have too high requirements for partners and are not ready to compromise. The tragedy is that they feel guilty about the lack of a second parent and turn their children into the meaning and center of their lives, pamper them and raise the next generation of single parents, because such children are used to and expect to receive everything, attention and pampering and not tolerate a normal person next to them Most of them (not all) have too high requirements for partners and are not ready to compromise. The tragedy is that they feel guilty about the lack of a second parent and turn their children into the meaning and center of their lives, pamper them and raise the next generation of single parents, because such children are used to and expect to receive everything, attention and pampering and not tolerate a normal person next to them