Since When Does Relying On Your Parents Make You A Spoiled Rich Man?

   First of all, the reason your friend doesn't have money for school may not be what you think - her parents abandoned her out of selfish motives. It is possible that they really DO NOT have. You are still at an age that it is normal not to value money and not understand how difficult it is to live nowadays. When you have to deal with everything on your own - bills, food, etc., then you will realize what a great delusion you have been. But I think it's time to think about these things - take a piece of paper and calculate how much money is spent on food, how much it costs electricity, water, internet, television, etc. That on your mother's back will fall and who knows how many hundred levs a month for her daughter. Because she is a parent, do you understand "she is obliged". It's just that everyone stretches according to their rug. If the family can help, they will. If not, I don't see what's wrong with learning and working. Your life is yours and you make your own decisions, parents are not "obliged" with anything, they are RESPONSIBLE, but not obliged!

   Author: No, it doesn't make you a "spoiled rich man"! If your mother was insanely rich and you relied on her, then you would be a "spoiled rich man." This also applies to anyone else who does not have parents with deep pockets and wallets. Number 1, where in this quote do you see the words "my mother has to support me" or something else with the same meaning? We exclude "... no normal parent would leave their child to starve. To put themselves first, not their own child.", Because this is not a personal opinion, but a law of nature - to take care of your offspring so that he does not lack at least elementary things. Here is the quote: "But I rely on my mother. Does that make me a spoiled rich man? Tell me if you can't count on your own parents, then to whom? Of course, God willing, if I am accepted to study, I will start working somewhere, but I know that my mother will never leave me and will help me. "You seem to be reading what you want. The author is not some capricious grumbler, but a normal child who has great confidence in his mother, assesses the financial situation of his family and complies with it. If your children do something different, change them, and do not offend others. :(

   But I rely on my mother. Does that make me a spoiled rich man? - No, it doesn't make you a "spoiled rich man", but just NOT an adult citizen who manages his life alone. Because the one who continues to rely on mommy after 18 is actually like that. "failing." Tell me, if you can't count on your own parents, then who? - To myself, my girl, to MYSELF. There may be many reasons why your girlfriend went hungry, do you even know if she is hungry? It is quite possible that her parents want to eat healthy food at home and, according to her parents, she does not need money for unhealthy patties, chips and burgers. Because in fact, what healthy child can buy around school? They can give her fruit for school, to have breakfast at home, and she can hide it from you. " Since when does relying on your parents make you a spoiled rich man? "It's not from today or yesterday, it's been a long time, but you pretend you don't know, because it's easier that way. Communism has turned things around so that mothers owe it to their children, for money, for housing, for good and bad. until death separates them.But really whether Levski's mother supported him / he started working at 14, whether Botev's father supported him after 18, of course.Look at his contemporaries whether Slavi's mother supported him completely, not him sold martenitsas in the subway in February 93 and did everything to save his mother's money and make something of his own, no matter where you look at him, the one who has learned to handle himself from a young age has remained on top of long because he has learned to value what he has achieved. one day the faucet from mom stops, you will have to work and then it will be quite hard for you, you will knock on an apartment to give birth, you will knock on your insufficient income, because you will not learn easily, appreciate and settle according to your rug . Parents are relied on for up to 18 years for food and clothes, then everything given by mom is a bear service.

   Thanks to number 3 and number 1.

   I do not agree with number 3 and I would advise the author not to listen to his advice.

   Thanks to the author №2 for the understanding. №1 the reason is absolutely clear to me, why they don't give her money. We are friends from kindergarten, parents and I know them very well. They both work - they make good money. She told me many times how she was treated and I was speechless. It is good that he receives an excellent scholarship and collects money. On our birthday we had only 4 people at the pizzeria. She paid with her collected money. Her parents are not interested in her, they didn't even give her BGN 10 for her birthday. Because of all this attitude, she is of this opinion about other people. There is no one to rely on, yes, but I'm not just talking about money. They do not support it. Don't you have the support of your parents is very difficult.

   All my parents help me with what they can, it's normal. And you yourself say that you are poor.

   In my opinion, in our mistaken Bulgaria everyone relies on whom and how they can. There are "children" who make good money and help their parents, and there is the opposite. I just think that one can rely on parents financially only as a starting point. For example, money for accommodation and food the first months. You get used to the new city, you get used to it yourself, but you think about how you can be useful for yourself and for them. You look for a job, you work, you study late, but you pay for at least the small pleasures if nothing else. The reading cannot and should not be 100%! Sooner or later you have to grow up. And this upbringing starts with the parents, right from the cradle. The mistake of the Bulgarians is to teach their children that everything is ready for them, immediately, in a minute. Is this love? No. If you love your child, let him grow up and help him, by teaching him to be responsible, to work, not to rely on you for every penny. Sounds idealistic, yes, but it's a tried and tested recipe :) It's not easy! And even if there is - as with the rich, it must still deserve this pleasure. Despite the crisis and the problems in the country, the lack of work, etc. How many young people help at home? How many of you clean, cook, wash and help your mothers? Let me guess. They are always busy with something more important. The children raised in this way will raise their own and here is corruption, here are thefts, here is the result of the long-term laziness and wrong upbringing! one mother of 52 lack of work, etc. How many young people help at home? How many of you clean, cook, wash and help your mothers? Let me guess. They are always busy with something more important. The children raised in this way will raise their own and here is corruption, here are thefts, here is the result of the long-term laziness and wrong upbringing! one mother of 52 lack of work, etc. How many young people help at home? How many of you clean, cook, wash and help your mothers? Let me guess. They are always busy with something more important. The children raised in this way will raise their own and here is corruption, here are thefts, here is the result of the long-term laziness and wrong upbringing! one mother of 52

   №3, I don't think you have to wait until 18 to become "big". Here the issue is not only about age according to the constitution, things are very complicated and confused in Bulgaria. If in Germany, an 18-year-old goes to a place to live and fights alone, it is impossible here, because the price-accommodation-income is absurd. But I agree with something else - look at an 18-year-old boy or girl in Bulgaria who lives with his parents. Well, not bad. But - what does he do at home? He comes home, groans that he is tired from school or lectures, he can't help in the household because he "had to study" and in 5 minutes he wants money from you because he will go to the mall. Will she wash her plate after eating or "that mom washes in us"? Isn't that the father, for example, unscientific? I mean, when in a family the upbringing is right, systematically and consistently from an early age, this young man or woman will have the principles, knowledge and behavior of a young man who will have his responsibilities in the common home, and nothing that is still with his parents. He will work and help on an equal footing with them, at least in the household, for example / because the levels are a bit outdated, right /. Today's young people do not, fact. Whose fault is it - isn't it ours, the parents'? The mass care of grandchildren by grandmothers whose mothers don't even work, what do you call it? The child who gets hot in the garden and swallows the cigarette clouds from mom, what do you call him? Many more such examples ... He will work and help on an equal footing with them, at least in the household, for example / because the levels are a bit outdated, right /. Today's young people do not, fact. Whose fault is it - isn't it ours, the parents'? The mass care of grandchildren by grandmothers whose mothers don't even work, what do you call it? The child who gets hot in the garden and swallows the cigarette clouds from mom, what do you call him? Many more such examples ... He will work and help on an equal footing with them, at least in the household, for example / because the levels are a bit outdated, right /. Today's young people do not, fact. Whose fault is it - isn't it ours, the parents'? The mass care of grandchildren by grandmothers whose mothers don't even work, what do you call it? The child who gets hot in the garden and swallows the cigarette clouds from mom, what do you call him? Many more such examples ...

   Number 3 is the new Rakovski as I look ... You have to rely on your parents for a while. Becoming independent at 18 should not be an end in itself - you should start studying and then assess whether you can work and support yourself. At 20-21 it is more or less normal to start work at least 1/2 working day. But these opinions "at 18 if you can't support yourself, you are a drone" are a bit elementary. Yes, if you want to be a self-sufficient waitress or saleswoman all your life - go for it!

   Author, why do you think that relying on someone means having financial support? !! Did your girlfriend leave her hungry, barefoot and torn? I do not know the specific case, it is possible to really have selfish parents. In this site we have read more than one or two stories about such families. I just don't think you're right. You accept 100% of your family's behavior as correct. And you forget that every parent has the right to choose how best to raise their children. I myself am not a parent yet, that is why I speak from the position of a daughter. My parents (to be alive and healthy) were engaged in a successful private business and during the school and student years they supported me 100%. We had good financial opportunities. I never missed anything, I can even say that I lived comfortably. Yes, I had a quiet youth, but they pass. And when you get to an age that you have to take on in life alone and not be taught responsibility it is very difficult. I say again - to be alive and healthy, but I think their excessive generosity taught me to live "ready". When they were young, they were poor and obviously did not want me to live in deprivation. I can tell you another case about an acquaintance of mine. When we were last grade students, we just got our driver's licenses. This acquaintance of mine comes from a very wealthy family. Really people with great financial opportunities. They could afford to buy him whatever car he wanted. But no, they took a cheap and very ordinary car from him. He always had limited pockets, and when he went to study abroad he started working so that he could help himself with his studies. As long as your minor is a problem of your how they will support you, then everything is in good faith. "

   Many people study and work. I don't see why work automatically shuts down learning. Or learning - excludes work. From 20 to 30 years, a person is in his prime. Not in vain in the student dormitories there are people awake all day long. Man is full of strength, and if he puts them on the right path, they can start working for him, not him for them. Many people graduate with 2-3 degrees in the period up to 30. Some acquire qualifications for several professions. The more professions - the more you are in demand in the labor market.