Hello, I have the following problem, which has not happened to me so far. I had a long relationship (3+ years) and I was in depression, an emotional hole or as they call it for a long time and during that time I didn't want to have contact with women. After gathering my thoughts and recovering, I decided it was time to try a new relationship. I found a girl I generally liked, etc., but I have the following problem. She knows that I like her, I said and we only go out almost every night, but since the first meetings I decided to kiss her, etc. (she did not pull) then she told me that I was in a hurry. We go out, but when I raise the topic of relationships, some stories like that start, but we still don't go, where are you in a hurry, etc. I've said several times that I don't understand her, because we go out and sometimes she wants kisses, sometimes not hugs lying on your lap, etc. Conversations like WE, and then again at some point a boom but we do not go and my mood worsens. See you for 3 weeks now. It is clear in my opinion friend zone. So my question is should I wait a little longer or tell her directly that this will not happen and look for another one. She is 20 and I am 26. I just decided not to write to her not to look for her and in the evening she starts. In principle, I am not a person who gives up easily, but here in this case, even I do not know what I look like and it is difficult for me. If anyone has had an improved case let me know. I also want to add that this woman had a relationship until less than 2 months ago and I sense signs of depression, etc. the things I went through. I don't want to be a trash can, a temporary substitute, etc. I just don't know what is best to do in this case. I want her, but I'm just mentally crushed by these stories and I lose the desire to do anything. I've tried to talk while we're together. I also tried chatting on the phone and there it gets worse and gets worse. I think I will wait a little longer and if it continues like this I will stop all contact without unnecessary explanations and dramas.
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I think you made the right decision. Even from what you explain, I don't know if it makes sense to go any further. In my opinion and my experience, when two people like each other, there is no pulling. When he does that, he obviously doesn't want you or is wondering about something. Either way, it's not good for you. Of course, if it's so wonderful and perfect for you, it makes sense to fight harder to see what happens.