Should I Leave Him Or Be With Him?

The Story

Hello! I want to share with you my story, or at least part of it, and give me advice on what to do: leave or stay. I am 21 years old and my friend is 28. He is handsome, behaves well with his family, has completed his education and works in his profession. But .. I'm not happy .. What do I need to be happy. At first glance, everything in it is perfect .. But why am I unhappy .. First .. Every time I adjust (makeup, hairstyle) and go out somewhere, and he always looks at other women .. Sometimes I spent hours in front of the mirror to manages for him, and he doesn't even notice it. Even when we are on the street somewhere and talking, he still looks away or kisses me - but his eyes look elsewhere. You will say that I am very petty or jealous. Yes, I'm really jealous, and very much so. But this thing what he does is just terribly damaging to my self-esteem. I feel like the ugliest woman, as if every time she looks at another, I fail because I want her to look at me. He knows this thing annoys me, but he still doesn't try to change. Second ... I am a student and I do not study in my hometown and we have to be separated. HE: he forbids me to go to discos, to gather in someone's room after 10 o'clock, to invite boys to my room, be it colleagues ... These prohibitions of his start to suffocate me even more and I realize how I cry and cry almost every day . When he gets angry, he starts insulting me with all sorts of words ... it's just awful. Of course, I've always done these things. I don't want him to doubt me. But at what cost ... I'm wasting my youth. Third ... He is a mother's son. He is 28 and still lives with his parents. He can't deny them anything. Whatever he is asked to do, he always does, even if it means postponing a meeting with me. He probably hears from his mother 10 times a day. He doesn't give a word to peel, he prefers to quarrel with me than with his mother. Fourth .. When it comes to making an important decision for myself and my life, he makes the decisions for me .. (he wants to make them for me because I no longer allow him). Fifth ... We were going to move to live together in his apartment (there is an empty apartment where no one lives), but he does not make any repairs. He doesn't even make plans for our future cohabitation. Sixth ... Whenever we quarrel, he starts comparing me to other women. Did she do that to her husband, etc. When I'm with him, I feel calm, but not happy. In general, what attracted me to him? Maybe that he treats me nicely and pampers me by buying me some things (I'm talking about food - for example, when we go to the store, not for clothes, jewelry, etc.). At first I liked that he liked to help his parents, until I realized that he just couldn't take a step without their approval. How can I tell you, I feel that he is not what I fell in love with in the beginning. We have been together for 2 years and he does not take any step towards changing things (for example to live together) .. I know what I am looking for: I want the man next to me to be mentally strong, cruel maybe, to defend his opinion, to make his own decisions for his life, to slap his hand on the table .. and most importantly to love me unconditionally, truly,

Last Updated
August 12, 2020
Author:
coalition14feb

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