Hello. I will tell you my story briefly to get an idea and I hope you can help me :( I was 16 when I met a boy. He lives and still lives in Burgas, and I am on the other side of Bulgaria. they know me and from the very beginning they forbade me any contact with him, there were even punishments and beatings, but we did not give up our relationship. After 6 months of waiting, we saw each other. He was my first. The sweetest boy - never he hadn't been rude to me, he had touched me .... nothing bad. He's 13 years older. Our love was pure, sincere and innocent. We did everything together, but hid so they wouldn't find out about us. At some point in a year and a half things stopped going. He didn't pay any attention to me, he ignored me. I couldn't stand it and asked for a break. I started, even as a friend, to communicate with a new boy, but things grew into a relationship that developed quite rapidly. Within a week, he introduced me to his parents, and he introduced me to mine. Everyone was content and happy except me. I realized that he was cheating on me and I'm just another one. We broke up and I returned to my first love. I had hurt him terribly, he looked awful, but he was flying in the clouds that I had returned to him.
Happiness did not last long - questions began why I caught up with another, why I went to them and he at home and why I did not do these things with him (and the reason was the disagreement of my parents). I turned 18, finished high school, and he started insisting that I go with him, get married, and start a family. The problem is that my parents warned me - if you go with him, end with us !!! They will never look at me again and accept me. I'm worried about losing them, because the most important thing is the family and the people who gave you life, and they are the ideal dream parents. If things don't work out between us, if we are perfect, but it's too early for my family life ... But on the other hand I know that he is my true love, as I am his, he is ready to give me everything, but I'm worried not to it would be only in words, and when I sacrifice everything here to go to him, it will not be like most men, only the difference here is that I will not have relatives and parents to whom I can turn for support .. and I don't know what to do, it will hurt me in both cases, and I will lose something to which there is no going back.
We have been with this boy for more than 2 years, he has always been perfect, even when I was with another he did not give up on me and did not stop begging me to come back to him and that he would give me all his attention, but since then he has become different, and lately he has been rudely rude to me ... he curses me, insults me and threatens me. He constantly humiliates me and lowers me to the ground with the excuse that I haven't gone to him yet ... how do I know that when he leaves he will be nice again? Please give your opinion what you think is more correct and how you would act. I need help and advice to make the right decision.
1 deniceemoberg answered
You're in a big mistake about this man, darling. He owns you. He insults you, hurts you, and wants a family ?? These are two incompatible things. And you think correctly about your parents - do not give up on them!