will you marry a mother or a daughter?!?!?!?!?
Love is the most beautiful thing, it will probably be difficult for you, but if you love it, act! Good luck!!!
Are you preparing for a "boiled son-in-law" that you are so excited about her mother? If you have an idea of where to live separately - get married. But still, don't you remember that your girlfriend's answer doesn't have to be "YES"? So the problem with the mother and you will solve it after that.
I don't know what to say, I've only seen such things in a soap opera. I think if you love her you should be with her. In the end, you will marry her, not her mother! Good luck!!!
Hi, I'm the "abandoned bride." We met our parents in May. Then my father and the father of the man I wanted to marry talked to in a remote place. The boy had withdrawn 5,000 euros at his father's request. His father called on my 5 000euros. You wonder why - because he wanted his father to buy the second floor of the house which cost 10 000euros. My father refused to give him that money. Then his father told mine that there would be no wedding - and it happened. And in order for his father to be sure that some "lost soul" would give him this money, he forced my fiancé to find a new girlfriend. And so it happened. Now she lives with him and my story will be repeated with her.
Keep in mind that his father is a pilot and an old communist. And my boyfriend and I were happy, at the moment his father did not say that if he does not have a baby, my boyfriend will be deprived of a 3-room apartment.
Once you love someone, don't listen to others. And with her it is like with my ex-fiancé: no money - no wedding, no baby - no apartment. And she will be deprived of something. But once you love yourself, you have to get married.
I hope she doesn't make the mistake of my ex-fiancé.
It is wonderful that you love each other and it is normal to propose marriage to her so that she marries you. A problem can certainly be avoided if you do not live with her mother during the marriage. There is no other way out. But on the other hand, if there is no alternative to another home of your own, for example, go to an apartment. But in no case do not separate because it hurts a lot and the wound heals slowly, if at all.
I am currently in such a situation only that the problem with me comes from his father, who has a very difficult character and because of HIM we separated. And we were together for more than 2 years. We talk to each other but then it gets harder.
DO NOT ALLOW OTHERS TO DESTROY YOUR HAPPINESS. BECAUSE IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO MEET YOUR HALF AND WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS SHE, DO NOT ALLOW HER TO LEAVE.
Be smart and happy. Courage in life.
I will skip my personal opinion on the issue, but on the issue of the parents of either of them, I will share that it is very important to be accepted with joy by the other party. If this is not the case at the very beginning of your marriage, you will be burdened with a whole bunch of family problems.
But I wish this didn't happen to you!
It just didn't work out, as some advised me, and I proposed to my girlfriend, and she accepted. The next night we went to them to tell them and there was a crazy scandal and I left and my girlfriend stayed in them. And the next morning he returned the ring to me and said that he could no longer be with me and that we should not see each other. It hurts me terribly, I can't imagine life without her and the problem is that her family is very influential and rich and they do everything possible to prevent us from loving each other AND THAT'S WHAT THEY SUCCESSED. For a week now I have not seen her completely desperate, I hang up my phones, block my messages and so on. I started drinking every night with friends in pubs, even at home I started drinking. I almost lost my job. My life is just falling apart and I have nothing to do.
I am a young woman. My mother didn't like my boyfriend either. She kept saying she had nothing against him personally, but he didn't like her. It took me months to argue with her to make it clear that I was older and could make my own decisions. I let her know that she could no longer command me, that I loved him madly, and that I would follow him even if he lived at the North Pole. A month before our wedding, he tried again to make me hesitate, or rather to check if I was firm in my decision. After we fought for 2 hours, because it was difficult for both of us to talk calmly, it became clear to her that she would not change my opinion and to my surprise her behavior changed 360 °. She became so kind and happy that I was startled by this change.
It was hard for my mother to accept that someone else was first in my life and not her. I love her too, but have you heard the saying: "With mother and father to the sea, with her husband across the sea!" I think talk to your girlfriend and let her clarify with her mother. If she succeeds you will be happy, if she fails her mother will always interfere. We have been married for 6 months now and sometimes mine tries to attack my husband again, of course he doesn't know, but I immediately cross her. She was always kind to him, but when he harassed me, I told him and he supported me. Even then he taught me to love her, not to quarrel with her, to respect her, but just to be firm with her. My father supported me completely and told me that my mother was jealous.
Let your girlfriend get along with your mother, no matter how hard you try, you will always be a thorn in her side!
DO YOU GET MARRIED FOR MONEY? WHAT ARE THESE APARTMENTS, CARS, MONEY ... LOVE IS ONE, IT IS NOT PURCHASED WITH MONEY AND NO ONE AND NOTHING IS ABLE TO FAIL IT, IF IT IS TRUE.
How much did he offer you?
Friend 3 years is not a short time I do not know what else you are waiting for once you have decided to offer and because tomorrow may be too late. Listen to your heart it will not lie to you.
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