Hello! I am a girl of 20 years and three months ago I had a very difficult separation. The relationship lasted half a year, which against the background of my previous relationship, which was 3 and a half, does not seem who knows what, but I feel it is much more valuable than the previous one. The boy broke up with me on the pretext that he had the feeling that such a strong attachment was killing him. Here perhaps I should add that he has never had a relationship before me and is afraid of a very serious relationship, no matter in what direction. I saw him during the relationship that he was confused and not sure what exactly was happening to him. His other reason for our separation was that he was obsessed with me and he couldn't stand it. When he is with me he is happy, when he is not with me he is not and that makes him unproductive, etc. He stated that it is best for both of us to separate ... In general, I did not understand much what was happening, because especially the last week, our relationship was more than wonderful and it came like thunder from a clear sky. But after a long conversation, I supported him in his decision because he said it would make him feel better, and yet that's the important thing, isn't it ! Anyway ... Three months passed without hearing from us for any reason. And I don't stop thinking about him every day and crying. I miss him terribly. I may be wrong, but I don't think I've ever felt such strong love. Many times I wanted to look for him, but I told myself that he still broke up with me and I had nothing to harass him about. 3-4 days ago we ran into an event, we didn't talk much because I tried not to intrude, but at one point he offered me if he wanted to send me to us when I left, he gave me cigarettes without asking him and at one point in the evening he grabbed my hand for a while ... He also smiled at me very radiantly all the time. After tonight, I hurry even further. Now I don't know what to do, because my desire to contact him is even greater, I only think about him and my hopes that they will contact this person again at the moment are huge. But I just don't want to write to him, I don't want to be the one who annoys him after he stopped contacting me, and most of all I don't want to be rejected again. I'm not sure it's a good idea to meet him, but I definitely want to have contact with him. But I can't write or call him. Maybe I just can't swallow my ego, I don't know ... But it all kills me. I would be very grateful, if you give me advice on what to do or tell me a similar incident from your life experience. Thank you for your time :)
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Hi, I'm in exactly the same position as you. It's just that I was rejected, because I was very upset and I didn't sleep all day, I didn't eat, I didn't eat, I just thought ... And she was scared because it was her first relationship and she was afraid ... I will be glad to share how developed things
Hi, before I was younger I used to do more or less the same with women. No, because I wanted it, I just offered it as an option to see if they cared about me and if they felt anything. The easiest option is to check if your partner is holding on to you and, despite the desire to separate, try to "bring you back". I have already experienced these teenage stories and I live my life well, but I am moving away from the topic. I said this because you wrote below to share a life experience. On the topic: From my point of view, he still feels something for you, because his behavior is not purely friendly. If it wasn't special for him, he would offer someone else to send it to them! : D He said that he gave you cigarettes without asking him, which is again a sign. He just wanted to be with you in some way, longer, without showing it directly. He said, that he also held your hand, which I will repeat, but it is a SIGN that he is still feeling something, taking seriously the other gestures you have described. Should you contact him? This is already your personal choice, but apparently he will not look for you after three months of not thinking about you. If you want to be together, look for him, meet and talk like white people, but keep in mind that once he wants to separate, he can ask again .. and be another disappointment .. If you want something you can to ask me or correct me, but that is my opinion. Victor 420 If you want to be together, look for him, meet and talk like white people, but keep in mind that once he wants to separate, he can ask again .. and be another disappointment .. If you want something you can to ask me or correct me, but that is my opinion. Victor 420 If you want to be together, look for him, meet and talk like white people, but keep in mind that once he wants to separate, he can ask again .. and be another disappointment .. If you want something you can to ask me or correct me, but that is my opinion. Victor 420
No, don't connect with him. If he looks for you, don't "cut" him, but you don't look for him. I think that's better. G30
I need a little more detail - what does it mean you are obsessed with it. Tell life events, such as: are you constantly looking for him on the phone - to write to you, to call you, do you constantly ask him where he is, who he is with, what he does, are you jealous and have you shown him, such as pissing and you bang when you talk to other women, etc. Because if all this written above is not there, it means that he just doesn't love you and has gotten away with these excuses. Yes, he may have liked it, he may have liked you, but he is fed up and did not feel fully in your relationship, ie even bored. How is sex ... even if it wasn't ok, still if he loved you 6 months are quite a bit to get tired of him. As a man, I will tell you the following: I fell in love and every moment I wanted to be with the woman in question. And that she shows how much she loves me and wants us to be together all the time, it will make me even happier, let alone feel obsessed. As long as things are ok and the above things I described to you are gone, I won't be tired of being with such a chick at all. Many people dream of love, some never meet it. I can't accept that a man if he loves a woman and she if she shows him the same to leave just because he felt "obsessed". Well, I like it the most when, say, I'm at work, my babe calls and tells me that she misses me, that she can't wait to see me, etc. And that it happens to me every day, if I like the one in question or just to be in love with it, even if it's just a bigger like, I still won't mind and I'll be happy. THIS DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND HARDLY NEVER! I know it sounds really nasty, but accept it and move on. As long as things are ok and the above things I described to you are gone, I won't be tired of being with such a chick at all. Many people dream of love, some never meet it. I can't accept that a man if he loves a woman and she if she shows him the same to leave just because he felt "obsessed". Well, I like it the most when, say, I'm at work, my babe calls and tells me that she misses me, that she can't wait to see me, etc. And that it happens to me every day, if I like the one in question, or if I'm just in love with it, even if it's just a bigger liking, I still won't mind and I'll be happy. THIS DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND HARDLY NEVER! I know it sounds really nasty, but accept it and move on. As long as things are ok and the above things I described to you are gone, I won't be tired of being with such a chick at all. Many people dream of love, some never meet it. I can't accept that a man if he loves a woman and she if she shows him the same to leave just because he felt "obsessed". Well, I like it the most when, say, I'm at work, my babe calls and tells me that she misses me, that she can't wait to see me, etc. And that it happens to me every day, if I like the one in question or just to be in love with it, even if it's just a bigger like, I still won't mind and I'll be happy. THIS DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND HARDLY NEVER! I know it sounds really nasty, but accept it and move on. I can't accept that a man if he loves a woman and she if she shows him the same to leave just because he felt "obsessed". Well, I like it the most when, say, I'm at work, my babe calls and tells me that she misses me, that she can't wait to see me, etc. And that it happens to me every day, if I like the one in question, or if I'm just in love with it, even if it's just a bigger liking, I still won't mind and I'll be happy. THIS DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND HARDLY NEVER! I know it sounds really nasty, but accept it and move on. I can't accept that a man if he loves a woman and she if she shows him the same to leave just because he felt "obsessed". Well, I like it the most when, say, I'm at work, my babe calls and tells me that she misses me, that she can't wait to see me, etc. And that it happens to me every day, if I like the one in question, or if I'm just in love with it, even if it's just a bigger liking, I still won't mind and I'll be happy. THIS DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND HARDLY NEVER! I know it sounds really nasty, but accept it and move on. if I love the one in question or just be in love with it, even if it's just a bigger liking, I still won't mind and I'll be happy. THIS DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND HARDLY NEVER! I know it sounds really nasty, but accept it and move on. if I love the one in question or just be in love with it, even if it's just a bigger liking, I still won't mind and I'll be happy. THIS DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND HARDLY NEVER! I know it sounds really nasty, but accept it and move on.
To Victor 420 (number 2) Thank you for the review! And I have a feeling that he still has some feelings for me, but I'm afraid that these are just some hopes in my head. Otherwise, in my current opinion that I do not want to meet him, but rather I really want to hear and see each other. I've known this man for as long as I can remember, but we were generally hello. And now we are like total strangers, which is very unpleasant to me. Yes, I still have very strong feelings for him, but nevertheless, we have always been good friends in our relationship in the first place and this is the friendship I miss the most. Otherwise, if you can advise me in what exact way to look for him ... because on the one hand I think to write to him, on the other I think to call him, and on the third I think not to look for him at all, right ... But even if I look for it,
To number 4 I've definitely not been one of those girlfriends who doesn't let her partner find. We respected each other's privacy, and although we saw each other absolutely every day, each did his own thing without disturbing the other. And yes, we did see each other every day, he insisted. It often happened that we didn't see each other all day and he wanted to see me at 10-23 pm and I told him I was tired, so he showed up at my door to see me for "10 minutes, He just said that he can't sleep without seeing me ... Yes, you may be right in saying that he doesn't love me and often, if I know for sure, I will. much easier, because since we broke up, he's been doing things that tell me he thinks of me, like: he had written to a friend 2-3 weeks ago and they were talking about me (besides my friend, she is also his). Of all the novels he had written, the basic idea was that he wanted time to pass before he decided what he wanted and that he thought he was in a hurry with his decision. But at the same time he's not looking for me ... This man is driving me crazy.