Hello! I read what you wrote and I think that the boy you are writing about has not forgotten his ex-girlfriend yet and maybe he slept with you to forget about her. But once you have feelings for him, admit it to him, because you have nothing to lose. If he doesn't respond to your feelings well - obviously he loves his ex very much and doesn't appreciate your attention, if he responds - what could be better than that ...? Good luck
You forgot to share how old you are and whether he was your first sexual partner. How can you be ready to go to sleep in them from the first invitation. Don't you have any sexual inhibitions before going to bed with someone or do you just not have patience when it comes to sex. It strikes me that you are very easy for a sexually light woman.
Well, how can a person directly tell you that he thinks of another and she is for him, you wonder if he has feelings for you? If he wants to be with you, he will look for you, he will come to see you, and there is no such thing as you write. He slept with you once because he was alone and that much. If you have any dignity, don't look for it at all and forget it.
I'm not such an expert on these issues, but I feel a slight blindness, as with all lovers. It's good that you want things to work out, but the fact that he told you about your ex is a "sign of something" to which you don't seem to have paid special attention, but you should. Unfortunately, many people do it, both men and women. To me, this is a show of disrespect, ingratitude, and if that show of disrespect goes unpunished on your part, it will be fatal. If you do not protect yourself and show your worth, that you do not want to be treated like that, this disrespect will continue and eventually lead to a fatal end in which you will lose your worth in front of his eyes, and you yourself you will feel humiliated by your own actions. Of course, the blame is in him as well. My personal opinion is that one should not be blinded when one sees such signals. The real person who is for you will never be disrespectful. You yourself should never compromise, you should never blind yourself and expect that if you do not pay attention, this will change. It won't happen in my opinion. Unfortunately, in my opinion, there are few valuable people and finding them can be a difficult task, so most people prefer to swallow such manifestations, but is this the better option? In fact, the topic is very deep and can be viewed from many sides, and from the five lines you wrote there is no way to draw a conclusion. However, it is good to think about what value you represent to yourself. As an appearance, character, mission in life, etc. and to be as objective as possible to yourself, after you do it start to increase your value. Strive to look more beautiful, more fun, smarter, better, socially intelligent. This, in my opinion, really increases self-confidence, and everything starts with self-confidence. From there, a person's smile appears and he begins to attract respect and sympathy.
What does his girlfriend matter? She's an ex. You are the present and the only one. Admit it to him. He will be happy.
He tells you that his ex was the girl for him, of course the feelings are not shared, unfortunately. In my opinion, if you admit that you have feelings for him, he will withdraw from you, stop writing to you and find excuses when you ask him. And the fact that you slept together may be because he was lonely when he broke up with his girlfriend, but still men have eyes, maybe he already knows that you feel something for him and that's why he used the moment and slept with you. I think it would be better not to acknowledge him, but to withdraw from him, to meet new people, because I will be really happy to get things between you, but I don't think it will happen and you will only suffer from this ...
He used you for sex and was blown away by it. A man who whines for you is not for you.
He has sensed where the wind is blowing, but he obviously doesn't feel the same way, which is probably why he's talking about his ex (ie, be aware that apart from sex, you can hardly expect anything from him, as he did. and happened). I think leave him a little without your presence, let him feel your absence for a while. It may rethink your relationship, who knows. But if you are constantly in his field of vision and "push", you will probably achieve the opposite effect.
Hey, you won't learn that you shouldn't let go so easily and have sex before you're sure of the boy's feelings for you. Now you're uninteresting to him, he just wanted sex. Of course, he will answer you in two or three words, because he has no feelings for you. Even if he's with you, you'll just be a replacement for his ex, nothing more.
Tell him - it will be easier for you ... but be prepared for the worst, namely not to get the same from him. Which most likely will happen. I don't want to speculate, but the boy sounds like he just took advantage of you to "forget" his ex is to try to replace her, or at least have sex with her. But when he talks to you about his ex-girlfriend ... the work is clear - he hardly really likes you ... if you ask me - don't bother at all and leave him alone, and focus on your own life. If he wanted and appreciated you so much, he wouldn't answer in two or three words, much less sleep with you after he just broke up with his girlfriend ... but you won't lose anything if you tell him my feelings.
it is because of this thinking that many women engage in pre-doomed relationships. They voluntarily submit to him roaring on their shoulders for the other, to say what she liked or not, why they quarreled, where they went. He is doomed to months of listening to another woman and wondering if he is not looking for her secretly, if they do not see each other. And all this because of the belief that the other is the former, only the present is important. If someone has not forgotten the previous person, why deal with it? Only annoyances. And if he admits, what? He will think she fell in love quickly. He can try to make his ex jealous through her, to see that he has settled down quickly, a kind of tactic to come back. Or he will feel sorry for her. In the worst case, he will use love and sleep with it so that it is not dry while he really likes one, and this can take months. Do not think that life is a novel where confessions of love will make the other forget the ex as if by magic, or that he will not take advantage of the situation for easy sex. Author, you may be sick, but don't deal with emotionally burdened ex-husbands. He can talk about her all year, will you put up with that?
Fucking shit, especially on the first day, no one goes out, sorry.
He invited you to fuck you and you knew it and you went for it. Well, you're gone, he fucked you. What confessions, what feelings, what euros 5?
If you wanted to believe it was the beginning of something, not just fucking, it's your problem. When you learn to value yourself, instead of responding to "invitations" at home and jumping into men's beds, someone may appreciate you as more than a sex doll for comfort.
Women suffer from believing in what you want, not in reality. If you think that if you slap someone after the first invitation at home and then he is tied in a towel ... You will fall in his eyes and be a whore in his eyes, rather than say "thank you, she let go, let me start contacting her now for gratitude. "
Why are you attacking the girl like that !? This makes her feel even worse! She let him go, on the first date at home, but it's going well! Apparently she hoped it was the beginning of something else. Now separate the question that was not correct (I do not). Maybe it was better for her not to hurry, but it happened. I would advise her to tell him she likes him. But she must be psychologically prepared for him not to react. But what if he reacts? Look here and give a chance for something more serious in the future.
You will lose your time and especially your nerves. He has already shown you that he is not interested in you, he did not need the question "should I confess to him?" He felt sick and slept with you, nothing more. Don't make the mistake of admitting anything to him, because he doesn't care, and the only thing you'll achieve with that is ... nothing? Keep going. It would not be bad in your next "relationship" to throw yourself into bed so easily.
№ 15 - You do not believe what you have written, but as long as you show some misunderstood supposed positivism, you give her empty hope. Or you are one of those who, in order not to be like the others in black, you call white. The others here are realists and they told her the truth, did you happen? Yes, it happens to light women. And no one wants a serious relationship with them. If she is a little smarter she will make a conclusion for the future, if not - she will let anyone who asks her on the first date and then she will post topics here.
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