Now you're going to have a lot of people to give you advice, and how the problem is that you're limping something in your behavior - understand you're not promiscuous enough, or at least not as much as your girlfriends...
The truth is, until the right person shows up, don't have sex... By the right one, I mean one that suits you both externally and internally, to have feelings for him and to care about him, that is, to be "someone" in your life and to be kind and valuable to you...
Everything else is premature to show off, shine the k*rut, pass your leg, scratch your scabies and show everyone how much you're worth and how cool it is to be out of the herd... and of course, most of all, you can boast to your friends how big your boyfriend is.
This latter is a very important topic of debate among the small and naked... in cafes, curbs and restaurants... cup and no cup, but necessarily with a cigarette...
Now think about what's better- to get down or find someone worth waiting for?
Don't be a hollow lake, and when you find the right person, do it.
My wife was 21 when I took her virginity.
They laughed because their morale went to the p*ts. You're lucky to be a virgin, that doesn't make you smooched or cluttered. Whores are like that, but like I said, their morals are in the p*ts.
Garo
I'm 22, I'm doing 23 in May, and I'm still a virgin. Same reason you did. There's just no guys around me that I want sex with. They're either ugly or stupid or whores...
I am really sorry to say this, but Bulgarians everywhere are bad and even for sex do not work (for example, because they are perverted). Ugly and disgusting on the inside, and on the outside. I can't even find one good trait.
Of course, I do not summarize, there are decent ones, but quickly they take them and not enough for everyone. Besides, we don't all live in Sofia or another big city, so the chance to find a beautiful and decent guy like me is quite small... Sad.
Don't worry, you need a suitable one, you'il find it. I don't know why being a virgin is considered shameful than anyone? People have distorted values.
Enough of this "normal age." And if you're responding to such a fall...
It's the easiest tree to cut it off, it's hard to grow it...
The normal start of a sex life is after marriage, and I'm not old-fashioned at 25. everyone wants sex before marriage, but no one admits that he doesn't like the fact that his husband or wife was with others!
Don't be ashamed, but don't tell anyone you're a virgin, not your boys or your girlfriends! You're going to entrust this "secret" to the boyfriend you're going to be with. Don't tell anyone you're a virgin and show no shame in living your life, you've done nothing wrong. Because when you find out that a girl is a virgin, everyone wants to be her first, it's annoying. You don't have to go to bed with the first one who says hello to you. Relax, and find a man with your interests. If you have any interests, sign up there and you can find your man there!
Sarah
Hee, that reminded me of my son. He's also 19, he's 190, he plays a couple of instruments, he's got a car, he looks great, and he's always looking for excuses why he doesn't have a girlfriend, even though when we go somewhere and the girls go to him themselves to talk to him. :) Maybe your generation is some kind of perfectionist.
So if you are, you might have the problem. Be more open to the world and don't proceed with every conversation with the attitude "is this right to give him my precious virginity" :)
I don't think you wanted to hear some advice from your father's set :)
You'il find a man when the time comes. Don't force yourself just because some pseudo-friends have some misconceptions about the intimate lives of others. It's not their job to interfere with the intimate lives of others, nor to sneer. Plus, I guarantee you that many of these "friends" lie about their intimate lives for shame.
He's looking for a serious boyfriend, not just a number.
That's why there's no exact age - when you find the person and when you feel ready, then. Just because some hollow bedding is laughing at you doesn't mean you have to live by their right and be ashamed. Rather, they should be ashamed if they think it is backward and mock other people's understandings. You have to jump into someone's bed just to please them, what? That's.
It's abundantly clear to me that at your age you are immature, and you are perhaps more mature for your age and feel social pressure and feel abnormal among them, but you are not. You're much more normal than they are, but they can't understand it at that age. In their eyes, they're the cool ones, and you're the cluttered one, but it's actually the opposite.
If you can, change your environment because they're going to burden you emotionally with this behavior. I don't see any use for you to do this to yourself.
I have a question for all the author-like girls and number 4 who don't want to be part of the herd and don't look for a boyfriend just so they can brag in front of girlfriends. Where can I find you? Like, do you want to go into a tinder? Or only if I run into you at the mall, on the street? Or if we have mutual acquaintances and meet in the same company?
I don't think a man should be ashamed of anything. Everything in your life was your choice, your decision, and generally speaking, it was you. It's just not right to be ashamed of yourself and the things you've been through or haven't experienced.
Learn that there are no norms in this life. It's all in your head, especially the boundaries. It was normal to have sex between the ages of 16 and 18, but what if, in that interval of time, you didn't come across a person you had passion or love for? Lie down with the first one up for it? Cut the crap. You don't have to explain yourself and justify yourself in front of friends. It's an intimate life. Intimate, personal. No one can make fun of you or take into account things that are personal. Your body, your life, your decisions. If you were a different type of person, you'd probably be in bed with someone random so you don't have to be a virgin. Well, yes, but you want something else. I, as a side man, respect your choice and think it's right to listen to your heart in decisions like this, no matter what that means. You're not sick, you're a virgin. Maybe in a few months you'il meet someone and have sex without being in love, but you can have a primal passion and have a desire. Well. You can fall in love and experience a fairy tale. Good again. Just don't cheat on yourself. One understands when he wants to sleep with someone and when he is already ready for that step. But all this is individual, there is no secret public norm for these things.
Number 13, such girls like us usually (at least from my point of view I can speak) have developed quite a lot in other directions – in education, at work. They're scholarly. Industrious.
If you're young, noticing who are the most successful at school/university, usually the purposefulness at such a young age could guarantee (but not always) maturity on the subject of privacy. If you're already working, look around and try to determine which women around you are more combative, hard-working and looking for ideas.
A girl looking for something real and valuable, you couldn't find in a disco, club or bar. Although there is still a chance that is minimal. Just... in such an environment.
In my experience (I'm 20 years old and still in the author's position) I can say that in one period of my life I tried an app like Tinder, but I quickly removed my profile after seeing what it was about. There, men are at an absolute primary level, looking only for someone to satisfy their needs, they are massively illiterate (I'm not just talking about a language culture, they lack emotional intelligence, etc.). In a few words: they repel people like us. I know there are no perfect ones, but it is extremely ugly and unpleasant to start an online conversation with a direct desire to agree on where, how and what they want to do with you. When he gives up on them and explains that you're not looking for a fling or similar relationship, but something completely different, they fall into some kind of crisis and start aggression through messages like, "You're funny.," "You're a jerk." Lately (after all) I've been wondering again if I should try Tinder again in the hope that something has changed. But... we'il see.
To the author: I'm sorry you feel that way. I am also in a similar position at the moment, I feel quite saddened as yesterday was the first day of my new semester and some of my colleagues did not shy away from commenting on how great friends they had found, what surprises they had prepared for St. Patrick's Day. Valentine. Don't get me wrong, it was nice, I was happy even for them, but from their next words there was a slight problem in me: they did not hold back to comment on how "it is already my time", "I am late and I will get stuck" and "so much did no one pay me attention". A colleague even sat down with me on the break between two lectures and about 10-15 minutes was talking to me about how "i urgently had to find someone that I couldn't do," "I was 20 years old, not 12" etc. I'm very, very uncomfortable, and I totally understand what's wrong with you.
Unfortunately for me or not, they knew I was a virgin and I had no experience, so that's what they're treating. From which I will write this: in my opinion, you keep all this to yourself and do not share with them, as you will complicate the situation very much. Some people don't know the normal human boundaries, and all the laughter, mocking comments, embarrassing attempts at help even on their part, will be personally directed at you already and encourage your thoughts that you have a "problem" that you're not "normal" that you're "sick even." Another is the point that if you can and are not permanently in your middle, it is best to end contact with them.
For myself, I plan to talk about it with my specific colleagues very soon (as another 3 years we will be looking at each other almost daily at least).and ask humanly for this attitude towards me to end. We all have some choice, though. Personal one. I chose to wait for someone and something potentially significant. Yes, i need love, care and a warm hug, I guess it's the same with you, but I know I can't get this from another female heartbreaker.
4 to 13:
For others, I can't comment, but personally I don't move much in public places. I go to work, then home. I rarely go somewhere for coffee simply because I have no whom (I am from a small town and all my friends went to other cities after we finished school), the other reason is that I do not like noisy places, a lot of people in one place and gossip, and we all know that cafes are just that. I don't step on discos at all because it smokes in them, and I loathe the cigarette stench. Besides, it's always crowded, everyone's bumping (some even smell like sweat and all sorts of other... And it was generally super disgusting work.
Otherwise, we could have spotted ourselves at the mall. I shop once in a while.
I don't get a hold of Tinder. I downloaded it about a month ago, held my profile for about 2 weeks and deleted it. I didn't find guys by my criteria, and they're not cosmic... Everyone I saw in the Tinder in question was very bad. There were only two, three beautiful ones, but when I saw how poor their vocabulary was and how good they were, I quickly gave up.
I have, however, Badu from September 2018. I wouldn't say I use my profile, but I look at it sometimes. And I still can't find anything interesting.
I also have social networks - Facebook, Instagram. I rarely upload photos, but I visit them every day.
I go to the library for 1-2 months.
So, this is my "social life."
(With an apology to the author for spam.)
15, We the more normal men we do not want to use women only to satisfy our primary pursuits, are not usually the most mathematical in Tinder. I guess that's all you're picking for, some cool guy- a bunch of fuckers, and you're wondering why that's all they want you to do. I've never offered sex to a Tinder girl, and I've dated. I've only had sex with one when she proposed.
13, they're everywhere. And in Tinder, they walk around and walk on their streets and on discos. They're just really in the minority these days.
I had a boyfriend who, at 17, had slept with 14 people at the age of 17. He's a hell of a whore, but how'd he... you don't believe it. After a while and 15 cheated, we split up, normally.
After many years, I had another boyfriend, 19, half-slept with a boy, but very wooden. He doesn't know his body, he doesn't know the pleasure of whores. We split up after a couple of very dry attempts and awkward conversations on this topic.
So such "humble" girls / women who say "debauchery" of everything - what curves from the bed and the three saints (missionary, posterior, rider) there, but now how much and to whom...
It's Bratan.
17, enough with all this "use" crap, it's super idiotic, and that's always the way the complexes talk.
It's called consensual sex, without commitment. They both agree, and they both feel good.
However, men make more sense to be called "used", because after sex they are increasingly tired, emptied, without strength. Women don't have anything, nothing changes, nothing comes out of them, and after sex they can take a shower and be new in five minutes. Men, meanwhile, are like beaten dogs.
And the problem. And what's going to change if it's just for your girlfriends. If you listen to people's stories, you get yourself in real trouble.
They're laughing because they're some simple geese who think they're being slaughtered by 10people and cosmopolitan and walking.
Then they're so wasted that at 23, 25 they look like strippers.
If you ask me, make sure you keep yourself safe and look good and the other thing about it.
and a virgin to marry, there is no guarantee that you will be ok with this man, some men boast that their wives were virgins, but a woman with one x. it doesn't stay, so live your life the way you feel it, when the time comes, you'il feel it, and then you don't make sense.
Success
Number 19, a good attempt to lie, but inside you know the woman was used. And I don't know who's tired, that's all the way he's beaten. Maybe those who are with you are fed up with you once and so justify escaping (d. you are used and roaring and looking at every topic, the smart woman knows this perfectly, and therefore, men always understand it). If you want to be one of those women and not the rags used and thrown away, then stop with this nonsense and self-delusion and pull yourself together ,D.
I'm a 22-year-old boy. Above average beauty, in the top 1% - no, I'm not a vain narcissist.
I have had almost no social contacts for maybe 6 years, for personal reasons.
The result of the little time I have had a social life is 5 times sex with 5 different girls, in any case it was on the initiative of the opposite side. I've denied two girls and sex at 11 (yes, I count them, maybe it's stupid). I'm a magnet for female attention and presence, but I have self-respect for myself. By the way, men who want to be in the top 1% , I will tell you that it is annoying and not so pleasant. Okay, it's cool, but for example, when you have sympathy for a girl, but she doesn't take the first step (instead she waits), it annoys you and you start to feel anger and envy and depressive waves (you doubt your beauty) because you're used to just girls talking to you.
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On the subject. Dear girl, being a virgin on 19-20-21-23-24 is extremely sweet and gentle. If I can solve my personal problems, the boy described above will be looking for a girl like you. Your girlfriends are a type of "mahlenki" who live in a straight-line style like animals, that is, the constant for support is the mass crowd. I know they're depressed because it's natural for a person to make comparisons with the circle, especially when they're young and confused. Besides, we just need a lot of sex at 20-/ 5. But just keep your class and wait for the right moment when you'il find a boy you're going to love and do things magically.
It should also be noted that the last Bulgarian generations of ours, living en masse in an unworthy and spiritual fall, can hardly generate norms. Oh, and it's very rude and rude to directly discuss the private life of someone next to you by imposing on them.
Good luck :)
This is strictly individual. I remember the day after my first sex (23 years), I thought everyone on the street knew what I had done and they were looking only at me. I felt like I had committed a crime. I'm over it. Guess what I did later if I cared!
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Well, I was a little older than you when I lost my virginity, but I've never been ashamed of it. I didn't look out for anyone, nor did I wait for a prince on a white horse. There just wasn't a person I could trust and who I wanted to do it with. But the first time I met the boy who took my virginity, I just knew I was going to do it with him, and even if it didn't work out, I wouldn't regret it because I was convinced I wanted it. I'm still with him after all this time, he was my first and he's still in a lot of things. And even though I'm an extremely shy person... I've never been ashamed of him, and I've always trusted him. So the most important thing is what you want and what you think is right. Don't let others give you advice and convince you of things that are strictly individual to everyone. You'il know when the time comes alone.
You shouldn't be ashamed. I was 24 when it was my first time. Wait for the right one, you'il feel who you want to be intimate with, don't rush. The important thing is to trust each other. And as for someone else's opinion, you don't care at all. I cared, too, and I was worried that something was wrong with me, but no, it wasn't a problem. It's just that when the right one comes along, you'il feel it yourself, and things will work out.
Success.
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