Should I Admit To Him How I Feel?

   And so !!! "He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend, but I also have feelings for him." Now the task asks what are you doing with your boyfriend, whom you do not love and why do you not have the courage to leave the relationship that is obviously unsatisfactory for you, and you sit and waste the time of someone who may love you? The same goes for your colleague who has a girlfriend. I don't understand these things. How is it possible to be in a relationship you don't want to be in? His empty sex, isn't it, author? You will fight because you don't want to be alone and when a hop appears - you catch the new branch. It's not fair, miss, it's not fair to cheat on your friend! Don't start a relationship until you're done, don't live in lies, be honest with your boy and leave before it's too late and before you hurt him badly. Explain to him that you have no feelings and don't waste his time, because it's still good, that now you have realized that you do not love him, and not in years, when, say, you will be married with children. Then deal with other men with a clear conscience. As for your colleague, once he liked you and has feelings, he can't help but rejoice, but let the joy happen when you are both unattached, otherwise you play mean and hurt other people, and happiness is never achieved on the back of another's misfortune. . Egati dude, he had feelings for you, but he sleeps with another? Being such a man and not loving her, what about her? is he afraid of loneliness? To leave your girlfriend and then explain to you in feelings, but it's different to use the safe, to have safe sex, and if you find a new one for sex (even with feelings) you throw away the old one, but only then. How vile and disgusting this is, millet is not true. Finally, the author remembers that relationships beginning as infidelity between engaged, they almost always fail simply because they are conceived in lies and act as a corrective to lame relationships. A relationship like the one you are about to make is unlikely to have any value if it starts as infidelity on both sides. Sorry for the sharp tone, but how can I say the behavior of your colleague is very unmanly, and yours is about to become quite mean and insidious!

   Bravo No. 1 !!! You said everything I wanted to write to her.

   Congratulations on number 1, I was going to write the same, but I will not repeat it. Everything is written clearly, comprehensively and accurately.

   Thanks, number 1! Unfortunately, most people today are so ... real monkeys. They grab the next branch and then drop the first one. That even sometimes they both hold them and sway in various thoughts "but I now, she gave, then the other ..." until they fall on the tri-letter so unexpectedly that their world turns

   If you want to ruin your relationship, go break with the current one and go with this one, but don't expect him to do the same and in the end you risk being left alone. CUPIDON

   And congratulations on number one. There is nothing to add simply. Still, one has the right to choose. If the relationships you are in are unhappy or just exhausted, leave them. If even then the attraction with the colleague remains, try, create a relationship, or you can be the halves of a whole. Good luck.

   To number 1: First I want to thank you for the comprehensive answer. Here things are not about sex, but about something bigger and stronger! When he told me how he felt, I panicked and didn't answer. He's been dating this girl lately, but I don't think it's serious. When I saw that he was not alone, I decided to go out with someone - I'm not a nun after all and stay at home and wait for him, right? From this it should be understood that my current friend and I are from the very beginning. But she doesn't have that thrill that I feel towards my colleague - I know that he feels the same - :)))) He sends me love text messages, gives me flowers, waits for me at the entrance of the building with a cup of coffee. Anyway. I don't plan to stay with my current boyfriend, I'm thinking of talking to him today. And I don't know what will happen to my colleague - only time will tell

   To number 4: I have never been what you describe and I will not be. I don't like double games. I wanted advice but I didn't see it in your comment

   Thanks also to 5 and 6 - :)))) However, no one answered my question specifically: How do men react to such a thing? Are they rejoicing, frightened, or ascending to heaven?

   Number 1 is "Here things are not about sex, but about something bigger and stronger"! Well that's exactly what will eat your head one day. You catch up with a man who's engaged (and yes, I know, he told you he wasn't serious about her, but everyone says so, but they stay with her until the new one is secure in a towel). Now he is waiting to see if you will be attached to him and bingo - he beats and kicks the chick and goes with you, because it is a path that can not help but knock fresh female flesh in the evening. If you don't tie it to him, the dude will sit with her while another one ties him. Honestly, I'm also happy for your boyfriend to get rid of you and for his "frivolous" girlfriend, who would otherwise fuck up while providing other female flesh. Don't tell me these. This dude, even if he is not an ordinary whore, is obviously a woman in a man's body and also lives for thrills, grunts and all sorts of crazy things. When your passion passes (and it will pass in a year or two) you will wonder what you are doing together. Author, put on your rags and wake up in time. These nonsense about shivers, murmurs, etc. are temporary things. You have no idea what trap you are falling into. Your friend is lucky to get rid of someone like you! By the way, I wrote to you that he will be happy to admit your feelings to him, but apparently you have read the comment as much. He can't help but rejoice, he will fuck his new thrill ...

   There are two solutions in each situation. Sometimes both are true, sometimes just one, and sometimes both are wrong. Number 1 describes one development, and I can say another development. Usually our logic is such that at the first sign we remember the bad outcome of the situation, and even if we depend on our current mood and state of mind, we push for what we are experiencing. I'm not picky. No one can tell the girl exactly what will happen. Definitely her admirer will be happy. And that's a lot. However, as I read, he put a lot of effort into impressing her. What are his intentions - long-term, short-term ... only he knows that. The girl, in order to be really sure of him and his intentions, let him prolong his confession a little more. Let her torture him - I know it sucks a little, and she'll look like she's sticking her nose in, but my colleague, if he is a real man, he will understand her actions, and he will account for them correctly. The girl, on the other hand, will get more answers to her question on her own. Valuable things do not happen, but are created and developed ... I wish the author success in her work. Orpheus

   He had feelings for you .... hahaha ... of course he will tell you something like that ... he wants to fuck you ... but he doesn't want to leave his girlfriend and he won't do it ... and you if you leave your friend will now be sorry ... because they will have fun with you and beat your jester ... but your itching seems to be more siel than the current ... when you break your head, you will understand then what it is ...!

   And again Bravo to Number 1 for your comment under Number 10 !!! :)))

   The most meaningful comment so far is on number 11, for which I thank him. To number 1: Dude, you have serious problems with women ... I wonder if it was written by a man and not by a woman, would you react like that again? If you continue in the same spirit - not that no one will tie you, but you will be left alone for the rest of your life. And what does it turn out from your words - that it seems that women are not big monkeys but men ... but anyway I don't get into arguments ... I wrote this to hear opinions and not a heated debate at a sports match. Life is to to live and not to sleep, right? If nothing happens to my colleague, I will move on, but at least I will try ... I believe that not everything is sex ... Somewhere there is love, if it were not so, the world would be a very nasty place to live, right ... There is an old saying: If at least once in this life you have not loved, then you have not lived !!!

   Number 12 is far from the truth dude

   I will not judge you, I will only tell you: Do nothing until you give up your girlfriend, because you will be the comb and eventually you will become superfluous. USA

   I'm number one. Author, do you realize that you didn't know what I wrote to you? Whether she is a woman or a man does not matter if she wants a new relationship before the old one ends. Sitting with a person you don't love is called simply satisfying a sexual urge. However, there are two in the relationship and one may have fallen in love. If the unloved person is honest and simply tells him that he has no feelings - ok. Then let the lover decide if he wants to be with someone who does not love him because of one sex. There will be an injury again, but it won't be like cheating on you, cheating on you, dumping her just for someone else. You must be saying to your author, "Well, the other side won't understand." What if he finds out? And is it so far from the mind that once someone leaves a relationship, there is probably a third party involved. You say that life is for living, not sleeping. If it's a life for you to lie, to cheat, to hurt, to play with people ... I'm very sorry, but your "value system" ... The same goes for your colleague. She fucks her boyfriend, but she takes off another one! If he's not happy with her, why waste his time? Just end the relationship. As for my serious problems with women, don't worry! I have looked at women, I know women's psychology from experience to such an extent that no one can surprise me with anything. I have experienced divisions and infidelities, I have seen the "minds" of many women, and I dare say that there are still decent women, despite my bitter experience with women. Over time, I have suffered and realized that both sexes are full of carrion. Whether the whore is female or male, it doesn't matter, she's still a whore. You only remember that nothing good awaits you with thoughts like yours. If you give in to a man who takes you down, being tied up, then you are quite stupid and naive (sorry, do not take offense). A real man is not as afraid of lack of sex as your colleague. Remember that well. Women for sex as much as you want. In order for a relationship to be successful, it must start fresh, not as infidelity and deception!

   To number 1 I know very well what you are talking about - I was on both sides and they hurt me, lied and I hurt but I DIDN'T LIE, notice there is a huge difference! I thought for a long time and decided to leave it at that. The man next to me must be with a capital "M", you will understand what I am talking about ... When I said that life is for living, not sleeping, I did not mean to lie, smear, hurt etc., and do not forget to enjoy every good moment of the person next to you ... I moved on ...