Hi, I don't know if my topic is in the right section anyway. I'm a 23 year old boy. student and I have the following problem that I want to share. Today I had a minor accident in which I shivered and froze slightly. In general, a fight with an uncle on the street is about to take place. I was with a friend and this friend is nervous and had an argument with a guy. Sharp remarks were exchanged between the two of them, and for a moment I thought it was going to be bad, that is, a fight. When I feel some aggression directly against me in which I have to defend myself physically, I just go numb, I feel my hands start to tremble and even almost my whole body, my jaw stiffens and so on. Abe bad job. I've been experiencing this since I was very young. As a child, I was shy and too good, and so people got on my head. One boy was too aggressive with me and hit me with fierce aggression, making me still numb and trembling, I couldn't even raise my arms. You could say that I am an athlete, I do powerlifting, although amateur, but I went to 2-3 competitions. I have friends who do martial arts, especially with a friend we regularly "harden". We hit each other, make different keys, etc. After these "tempers" we are both bruised on the bodies ... I want to say that knowing that the person against me does not actually approach with hatred and aggression (although he strikes hard) I do not numb and tremble at all. Apparently it's all on a mental level, I know. In general, I am a meek person, I am not a complex who went to fight in the streets, and I am generally against aggression. But I feel that if something happens, I will not be able to help a friend and I will not be able to defend myself adequately against an aggressor. If anyone has the same problem, please share.
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Don't worry, I'm like that too ... I'm a girl of 15: DD. I only tremble when I argue with someone ... Stronger and bigger and so on ... aggressive. I tremble but I do not give up to tell you honestly. I raise my voice and show that I'm dangerous, but I'm not really haha. Something happens to me all the time, but constantly. With my mother's friend we constantly get into scandals and often when I jump I am scared but I don't show it. I'm telling myself what's going to hit me so much ... I'm just going to put him in jail or get rid of my head ... What a little bruise, some broken bone and blood: D ... I know you're going to say "baby, no he knows what he's talking about ... ". Well, I'm small, but no one can guess what I went through. I also had problems with the teacher. In the family they just beat me and by fight I mean a fight ... And that is what taught me not to give up. I bought a pocket knife because I'm afraid of braziers (they touch me, wink and so on) and that's why - for self-defense. You're big, buy yourself an electric shock. And if someone goes to you, if he hits you, you just let him have some electricity and smoke so that you are gone: Ddd. And I advise you to find some free time, to take it, and to learn martial arts like Muay Thai ... They are useful. Go to a psychologist and let him know, he can help you, I don't know. Success! :)