Hello! Straight to the story - a 17-year-old writes to you, whose girlfriend is obviously cheating, as the title says. From a relationship, almost 1 year, I just started to notice how he stops paying me as much attention as he used to pay me; she was constantly interested in where I went out when I told her "uh we're going to eat with friends" and I mean not in a jealous way, but in a "dress well, it's cold" way. I guess you got me. We went out all the time and had topics to talk about. Well, yes, but everything has started to change lately, I noticed this lack of attention on her part to me. Most of the time, she stood by theirs, telling me not to call her because she wanted to save time for them. I didn't blame them, of course, I respected her every wish, as well as her personal space. But once I decided to go out, while she was with her parents again and quite by chance I noticed her about 60 meters in front of me, talking on the phone. The thing that really made me worried was that she wasn't on her way to her parents. Well, maybe she wanted to go out too, but forgot to write to me, it happens. Until one day ... We were staying at home and she asked if she could use my laptop because hers was under repair. How to refuse her, I gave it to her and started watching videos on my phone. At one point she got up from her laptop and went to the balcony to talk on the phone. My curiosity prevails, but as I wrote above, I respect her privacy. After about 5 minutes of conversation, she came in and told me she had to go to theirs. Interesting ... just before I invited her, she mentioned to me that she would be free because they were out of town. Well, some people out of fear, they just can't lie :). I decided to sit in front of my laptop and play with friends, because I usually do that when I'm alone. She had left her Facebook open, I stepped up to the red hiccup, but the chat caught my attention a lot. Now ... I know I said I respect her privacy, but the laptop is mine after all, right That doesn't mean I'm contradictory ... Well, maybe a little. Anyway, looking at the chat, I was shocked. All the messages were things like "off mine is super naive" or "calm down, today my parents will be out of town again" (the second message I will never forget). I got angry and called her on the phone? No, no, I kept my composure, I'm a pretty positive person and I just started thinking about the situation. When she returned to their house, she invited me to go. I'm still hitting, but all her chats with this boy in question are on my fake phone (which I leave on the lady's desk during tests, apparently still working) and I asked her in a delicate way how the meeting with theirs went, what you talked about and There was a very slight tremor in her voice, but I was silent. Although for almost a year, I know her well enough to know when she is lying to me. It was very ugly. He confused words quite often ... he didn't do it in general. But that's not all. A few days later, when we were home again, she went to the bathroom and her phone rang. He was in front of me on the table, I saw a name and two hearts next to it. Hmm ... Well, he must be her cousin. 1 minute later, a message came from the boy I was chatting with, a few days before. He wrote her to call him when he could. After returning from one place, she uses the classic number with her parents again. I was silent this time too, telling her to tell me again what they were talking about. So, in general, I am a very patient person. I thought about it. I dedicate my time to her constantly; I buy her presents every month from the day we met; I was never angry with her. Isn't that my fault? Most of you will probably say that I was too nice to her and she considers me naive, etc. I'm okay with that - she won't be my last, I'm 17 anyway, but there's one thing that's very it bites me from within. I want to make her a number. I don't mean to overwhelm her by showing her the messages I took in the screenshot. I recently read an article about a man catching his in bed with his lover ... on her birthday while her mother holds the cake and is about to shout "surprise!". I thought I'd follow her, while they go out, but no ... it's too worn out. I'd love some advice, what do I do now? I want to have fun while looking her in the eye. Maybe it would be quite immature on my part, but life is short! Give me advice, what to do now?
1 jeannie_bottle answered
Tip - break up with her and don't bother anymore. Don't even tell her why you did it. It does not deserve such attention. Watch your life.