What you wrote took me back in time ... Like your girlfriend, I had a purely friendly relationship with my ex. I had a new friend, but I kept seeing my ex over coffee and sharing a lot with him, I also lent him money. :) The relationship with the ex ended about 6 months after our separation, because he got a new boyfriend, who was very jealous of him. But let me add that our recovery was really friendly and I didn't have any feelings.
I think you have to be patient, such relationships with exes are up to date.
The ex is a problem when hanging out, not only will it lead to infidelity, but God knows what else. You did not approach correctly from the very beginning, it is already a late child. I give you scenarios that I went through: I went with a girl 3 years of love, emotion quota you remember. We parted but continued to keep in touch, each on his way, the moment came when she started arguing with her boyfriend, guess which shoulder she was coming to cry on. A few kind words, a few hugs, things he wanted to hear and ended up under the covers. Knowing myself, I am afraid to trust anyone. Women are emotional creatures and when there is a problem they are very susceptible. Run away dude, run.
Once she inserts her past into the present and tells her to choose between the past or the present, there is no middle ground, according to her answer, you will make your decision. I do not tolerate such contacts, if someone is new it is understandable, but to hang out with someone from the past - no, thank you
I was in a similar situation. In order to be kind and not to be angry, I wrote to my ex for a long time. Everything was over a long time ago. No feelings, no desire to return to each other. We even shared what is happening in our new relationships and we gave sincere advice.
and my new one caught me if there was anything to catch there. I didn't rub chronologies because I didn't feel bad or threatened.
and scandals nonsense and we broke even I explained to him that it is pure friendship and for me the biggest nonsense is to go back to the former.
and now I'm alone but I don't care. I was taught a good lesson
author, follow what they write to each other, because there may still be feelings, but if there are no feelings between them, do not press her to block contacts. It is better to chat with the former who does not like than with someone new with whom to appear thrill
There is always something else, if not, it is possible at 99% and the fact that she cares so much (money, ringing, etc.) and she cares, for her it is not past, it is not past, and it can happen too easily future. And so I wanted a friendly relationship with an ex "there was nothing" but ended up in bed and not, because I'm like that or that type and if you are still looking for money is too much and it is not ok. It can easily happen something is just not number 2 also gave an example so that you think correctly or they end or you have no other option with her as a woman I would develop theories of my boyfriend that it is possible that there is nothing, but not my experience proves it many times no and no but there comes a moment, and hop and those who are in the past are there. She pays too much attention to him, it is important if it suits you to be two ok
In my opinion, it depends on how frequent the contacts are. If it happens once every few weeks, I don't think you have anything to worry about, but if it's every day or every other day, run away.
Author: They often write to each other every day, I'm sure I'll see it, I don't know at most 1-2 times a month.
Oh, and I don't understand these friendships with my ex ... She loved him ok, but you've been together for a year now, what do they have to talk about? If I find out that my boyfriend is communicating with his ex like that and doesn't want to stop, I'll just break up with him.
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