Hello, A man with a long-term partner is writing to you. Our relationship is quite good and there is still a spark between us. We both work, but we hear each other at least 2-4 times each time. We live together. We get along well and don't fight often. When we do, we sit and talk, but we already know each other well enough and it is not even necessary in most cases, because we know who is annoyed by what and why. :) Everything looks more than good and it really is. There are practically no such long relationships in my environment, and if there are ... well, they don't seem as good as ours. What is the problem? Sex. It has been almost absent lately. We last did it a month ago. Great, isn't it? As I said, when we have problems, we discuss them. Because she always insists. Over time, I learned to discuss, before, as a representative of the stronger sex, I considered it unnecessary. And I have already made several attempts to initiate the discussion of our problems in bed. For my part, there are some small and some not so small that I told her about, but she usually doesn't tell me anything about them or denies them completely, as if this problem doesn't exist. And in fact it is there when I feel it in me, isn't it? I made hints to her, suggestions for diversification, etc., which in the general case were rejected during the discussion or were rumored enough to reject the number that she understood me. I list some moments that I have touched on, but remain unheard of: 1. I have shared that if he writes me dirty messages during the day, in the evening I will be much more ambitious, so to speak. According to her, this is nonsense and she does not want to write to me. He wants us to do the things we eventually write about. 2. He thinks that erotic lingerie is unnecessary, although he knows that it is important to me. According to her, if she is completely naked, she should turn me on the most. I claim the opposite. 3. I've hinted that she's not well-haired downstairs, but she tells me that I either imagined it or what happened. I don't like it, it should be enough, considering that I take care of my hygiene. 4. For some more special fetishes, which are quite common, by the way, there is no question. We've tried, but it's such a parody that even I like it and I'm no longer interested. But if a person asks her, yes, we did. On the other hand, why it was important to me, according to her, is nothing special and there is no reason to want it. 5. Oral love is 10 to 30 seconds, and it's super important to me 6. When we have sex, sometimes I wonder why I push at all, as if there is some desire on the other side, but I don't feel it. I'm feeling awkward. I ask if everything is OK. Yes, it was okay. It was great. But my sixth sense says otherwise. Etc., etc. I've shared these things, she doesn't seem to complain and she likes everything I do, but the emotion is zero. Honestly, I got tired of trying and went with the flow. I close myself in the bathroom, 5 minutes and I'm ready, without any complications and conditions. Easy sex. However, this can be practiced by any average loser. Until 2-3 years ago it was not so. She offered to diversify on her own, she bought sexy lingerie on her own, my pussy was getting tired of half an hour of oral love. I understand that if she had cooled down in general, I would have decided that the lack of sex is a natural continuation of the failure of a relationship. But we behave great with each other, we seek our attention constantly. However, there is a full hole in the bed, and I am not too old yet. I want ... I just want last but not least, the first 1-2 conversations about this were marked by great sex after them. One is probably in the top 3 I've ever done! All the extras I can think of were great. But why is the effect so short-lived? Next time it's complete boredom again. I'm tired. For 1 month now I don't even hint at sex. When he walks around naked, I pretend to be distracted. She comes alone, ah, oh, but nothing serious. I don't know anymore. My desire evaporates. I care about her a lot, but I perceive her less and less as a sexual object, which is not good. But why is the effect so short-lived? Next time it's complete boredom again. I'm tired. For 1 month now I don't even hint at sex. When he walks around naked, I pretend to be distracted. She comes alone, ah, oh, but nothing serious. I don't know anymore. My desire evaporates. I care about her a lot, but I perceive her less and less as a sexual object, which is not good. But why is the effect so short-lived? Next time it's complete boredom again. I'm tired. For 1 month now I don't even hint at sex. When he walks around naked, I pretend to be distracted. She comes alone, ah, oh, but nothing serious. I don't know anymore. My desire evaporates. I care about her a lot, but I perceive her less and less as a sexual object, which is not good.
1 otsenreallatnas answered
Men only demand, and what do you give? Do you make oral love to her to want to be done to you? Why only the woman should arouse you, and you are waiting for everything ready? Not only talk, but action is needed. No wonder you are the tree.