I need advice on how to get rid of a terribly stubborn and seemingly harmless suitor who takes down my husband. His contacts are mostly in women's groups and I am used to having many women I know and friends. Everyone flirts with him, but within reason. However, this one has been his friend since he was a child, and even as students they were together, albeit for two or three weeks, because, according to him, they did not fit in at all and constantly quarreled. She is also seriously engaged, but she is always looking for an occasion to see or hear from him, and I feel powerless because, according to him, she is just his girlfriend. I don't know how he doesn't see that she's just taking him down. He is great with me and I have no reason to doubt him, because he demonstrates his feelings in every way. But she annoys me with her shamelessness - she calls him in the middle of the night to invite him out (the last time was even at midnight), she complains to him about how badly her friend behaved (I know very well for what purpose), pretends to be a victim in front of him, flirts with him, and when we are both there and meets her, she treats me with contempt. So far, I can't afford any serious comments, but he seems to feel uncomfortable. My concern comes mainly from the fact that there are others who, for example, bother him "friendly" on the phone, but on them, for example, he does not always pick up or write, and on it every time. Many times he declined her invitations to go out, he never hides when they talk and if they are outside I always know and the seeing lasts at most an hour, but I am still restless. I ask for your advice! but he seemed to feel uncomfortable with me. My concern comes mainly from the fact that there are others who, for example, bother him "friendly" on the phone, but on them, for example, he does not always pick up or write, and on it every time. Many times he declined her invitations to go out, he never hides when they talk and if they are outside I always know and the seeing lasts at most an hour, but I am still restless. I ask for your advice! but he seemed to feel uncomfortable with me. My concern comes mainly from the fact that there are others who, for example, disturb him "friendly" on the phone, but on them, for example, he does not always pick up or write, and on it every time. Many times he declined her invitations to go out, he never hides when they talk and if they are outside I always know and the seeing lasts at most an hour, but I am still restless. I ask for your advice!
1 scarlethduxx answered
You don't have many options in which you don't go out like a crazy and ferocious woman. The stupid thing is that you don't have much to do. It is the man's job to play such brats, not to stalk you. Apparently the one in question gets off, and he lets her go, going out and talking to her. Through his behavior, she climbs on your head and jumps on top. Things like this have happened to me more than once, and it's really infuriating, because your husband's behavior, even without second thoughts, is interpreted quite differently by this woman. In her eyes, she surpasses you because he pays attention to her, picks her up in the middle of the night, etc. It's pretty stupid of you to have to tell him, not him to think, but put the question in front of him. Be calm but insistent. To think carefully about whether it is normal for them to chat at 12 o'clock and for her to treat you with contempt, because in doing so, insults him too. You are the woman he has chosen, and by showing disrespect to her, you are showing disrespect to him. For starters, I would ask him to stop answering her at any time. A "I'm hugging my wife right now and it's not comfortable" will scald her intentions. Separately, when you spot her, how does he behave? She ignores you nicely, but it would be great if he hugged and kissed you from time to time while they were talking. Let them see and hear each other, but show her that she has intentions only for you. if he hugs and kisses you from time to time while they both talk. Let them see and hear each other, but show her that she has intentions only for you. if he hugs and kisses you from time to time while they both talk. Let them see and hear each other, but show her that she has intentions only for you.