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2 little_whitney answered
She is still very young - only 24 years old. I didn't want to hear about children at that age either, and the children annoyed me terribly. I was born at the age of 32, but then I asked for it myself. This may be the case with your girlfriend. Or it may be from women who will never want children (a very small percentage). There is no way to understand it now. One thing is for sure, at the moment she does not want children and there is no point in insisting. Whether this will change - time will tell.
3 nikaqlove answered
Well, what can I tell you, these things are specified at the beginning of a relationship. People talk and share their ideas about life, dreams, plans, etc. You did not do it, which leads me to think that the relationship is not very close to you, there is no trust and sharing between you. She has every right to live as she pleases. You too, but with a different person, as she told you. There is nothing to do but to continue your life as you understand it. And the next time, don't waste so much time, but talk to the woman next to you, clarify your intentions and desires from the very beginning, so that you don't stay with a finger in your mouth again. You men are strange creatures, you think that your wife owes you something after you spend some time together. Well no! The woman also has her own perceptions, dreams, etc. and it is not at all obliged to fulfill other people's dreams. Children are your dream, not hers. Look for a person with whom you can share dreams and goals.
4 littletwink_ answered
Maybe there are some problems that she didn't mention to you and because of which she doesn't want or can't have children. Talk seriously.
5 viennerare answered
But you too! First you fall in love with a crazy party girl, a fan of free life and open relationships, and then you roar that she won't give birth to a whole team and tie herself to the stove. Well, I'm sorry, but when you started a relationship with such a girl, didn't the light shine on you that she would hardly become the perfect mother? If you wanted a quiet and submissive wife and children to have looked for a girl with such desires, and not now to be angry with her for not thinking like you. And yes, she is right! In the 21st century, women have the right to decide for themselves whether to marry or not, whether to have children or not, etc. And no one has the right to be angry that she said NO. She is absolutely right. So instead of making scandals of her, split up and find a girl who wants children. Because you have no, absolutely no chance of changing her mind, and with this nonsense like taking children home and dragging them around the playgrounds, you achieve the opposite effect, because you can also see the children as nice and cool, but in her eyes it means only one "PROBLEMS!". So don't do nonsense, show that you accept and understand her decision and it's best to separate as friends, because the issue with children is fundamental and if you don't agree on it, it just won't happen. So you have two options. Either you reconcile and stay together, but completely forget about the children, or you separate and look for a girl who dreams of becoming a mother. Understand, not all women have a maternal instinct, and forcing such a woman to give birth is a real crime against both her and the child. but in her eyes it means only one "PROBLEMS!". So don't do nonsense, show that you accept and understand her decision and it's best to separate as friends, because the issue with children is fundamental and if you don't agree on it, it just won't happen. So you have two options. Either you reconcile and stay together, but completely forget about the children, or you separate and look for a girl who dreams of becoming a mother. Understand, not all women have a maternal instinct, and forcing such a woman to give birth is a real crime against both her and the child. but in her eyes it means only one "PROBLEMS!". So don't do nonsense, show that you accept and understand her decision and it's best to separate as friends, because the issue with children is fundamental and if you don't agree on it, it just won't happen. So you have two options. Either you reconcile and stay together, but completely forget about the children, or you separate and look for a girl who dreams of becoming a mother. Understand, not all women have a maternal instinct, and forcing such a woman to give birth is a real crime against both her and the child. Either you reconcile and stay together, but completely forget about the children, or you separate and look for a girl who dreams of becoming a mother. Understand, not all women have a maternal instinct, and forcing such a woman to give birth is a real crime against both her and the child. Either you reconcile and stay together, but completely forget about the children, or you separate and look for a girl who dreams of becoming a mother. Understand, not all women have a maternal instinct, and forcing such a woman to give birth is a real crime against both her and the child.
6 littlelili23 answered
You're actually also young at 25 in principle men later decide to have children, maybe she's not the person for you ..
7 ketchuphellmanns answered
I think you're acting selfish. Why don't you ask her what she wants? Why are you forcing her? Ask yourself, would you like to live with a woman who makes you do things against your will? Nowadays, a woman does not want to give birth 30 years ago. If you want children, find another woman, because she obviously won't have children.
8 VanessaRusso answered
Hello, I read your story with interest and I was blown away! For several reasons. First of all, after so many years of relationship, are you really unfamiliar with her worldview? Second, she really has the right not to give birth. It is possible that she made this decision consciously, but it may also be the result of her difficult childhood. Third: you write that you love her very much and do not want to lose her. This is a matter of your personal priorities. What do you want from the woman (whoever she is) next to you? Family with children? Relationship? In the first case, I advise you to forget about Alex. Respectively for children, at least at this stage. To assess whether she really suffers from some kind of depression, go to a psychologist, but ONLY if she wants to. And if you see that there is no result, separate and let everyone go their own way - without drama and without base performances. 5 years is not a little, but it is not a lot. You can easily start fresh, with another woman whose intentions for the future coincide with yours. For now, give Alex time. Don't look for her, don't press her. But don't make compromises that you can pay for a lifetime.
9 newharoobompark answered
Look now. She is a free and independent person. There is nothing to be surprised about. When he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to. You have a good desire, but I'm a boy of 20. And to be honest, at 24 it's pretty early for me. I told everyone around me not to talk about children. I plan to have it from 32-33 onwards. And, marriage, I don't even recognize it as an institution anymore. You're a dumb piece of paper. I will spend a lot of money just to get married. Then in 2-3 years, for example, we will grab each other's throats and it will cost me double and triple to divorce. No thanks. The world is free and I don't have to have any false morals and misconceptions about life. I have ambitions for a scientific career abroad. I have so many things to fix in my life. I just need some tea to hang around my legs. When you want children, find one to give birth to. Nobody with anything, he doesn't owe you. So let the howl of the moralists begin now.
10 miss_cherry2 answered
Well, I'm sorry, but she doesn't have to give birth. If you want children so much, separate. Why do you think that as a woman she will definitely want children !?
11 str8curious070 answered
Author, I'm sorry to tell you, but you're completely selfish! And everything she told you was right. First, why do you think all women have to give birth? If we are not mares for breeding, where does it say? Second, have you ever considered that the girl is only 24 and may not feel ready to become a mother? Children are not toys, you have to be mature enough to become a parent. And third - after you want a family and children so much, find a wife with the same goals! You can't put the bird in a cage, find out! There are people who are free at heart and do not respect marriage and family, so - do not try to change it. Either accept it as it is and comply, or look for it according to your interests !!!
12 mixmix689 answered
Indeed, there are women who do not think that the mission of their life is to have children. In this case, it is difficult to say whether this is so or is it just the age of the girl, or does not see exactly you as a person to start a family with, etc. Options and causes a lot. My opinion is that it is too early for her to become a mother - 24 years is a good age to give birth, but on the other hand it is early. A child changes absolutely everything forever. Yes, including your figure to varying degrees. Try to understand her and accept what she feels and thinks. It is clear that you want different things at this stage of your life, and maybe even from it at all. The idea of playgrounds, your brother's son and the like only made things worse. Not all women have a maternal instinct or acquire it when they already have a baby, and some do not even acquire it. Let things happen and one day you will realize that everything is going as it is best for you. This is true for all of us.
13 southerngal09 answered
unfortunately you did not act sensibly and tactfully with her. once you saw her attitude towards marriage and children and that this was a sick topic for her, you didn't have to argue with her. you could easily, carefully and gradually explain to her and show that she is very important to you, that you want to live with her, to be a family, etc .... these tales that she is obliged are quite out of place, no one owes you anything, and especially children are created at the request of both. in addition, you are young, you can safely wait a year or two. to the question: if you contact her and she listens to you, talk to her. however, if you do get together, keep in mind that he may not change his mind about the children. ask yourself if you would like to live with her without children for life and if not, just experience it and move on. and the greatest love can disappear if there is no compromise on this really important issue. F44
14 glittergypsy answered
Is a woman mentally ill if she does not have and does not want children? If you definitely want marriage / children, you better give up and forget about it. Some people just don't want that in their lives and you can't change their way of thinking in any way.
15 ptvph answered
Accept it, there are such women. I am one of them and in the future I do not know if I will have a serious relationship with a man, as I am about 30 and I do not want to disappoint people who want a family. Either you live with her, hoping one day to agree to have a child, or you resign yourself to being childless, or you look for another.
16 lali_rain answered
Author: I want to thank everyone for the comments and advice you gave me. I really understand that I was wrong, nor did I do the right thing to her. For these 5 years. I found out about her that she wants to live at high speeds, that's why I asked for children, I always wanted a big family since I was a child. When she refused me, my dream prevailed and I exploded, yes, wrongly without letting her choose. Yesterday she contacted me by phone, she went abroad, she said she loved me, but her ideas about the future are very different from mine. She wants a job and a career, not a family. For now, this was her decision, and that's why she stuck to fleeting relationships with women, she didn't look for a more serious relationship with a man, because sooner or later he would want children like me. We broke up, it's hard for me because I love her. She is one of the people which are so full of energy that they even charge you! I will hardly ever forget her, even if I found another one, I didn't want that to happen, but I respect her as a person and that's why I have to let her go ... whatever it is. Thanks again to everyone involved!
17 cutiejanee answered
"I was angry and said that she, as a woman, had to give birth to my child, and she laughed at me and left." Even if there was the slightest doubt, even if she allowed in the farthest corner of consciousness that maybe she would have a child someday ... then after this simplicity of yours, any normal woman would laugh at you and leave. What were you? !! Who do you think will have someone's womb and desires? !! Hey, this is what every woman will think. And no less stupid is your next step, to talk to your father about something that depends solely on her - a second rude intrusion into her personal space. Wow, wow, you men aren't going to learn any time soon that you're finally left alone and wondering why women don't do things to you. I wish success and happiness to the girl, and to you to learn from your mistakes!
18 wildandwet answered
I'm a little late, but I'll still give my opinion. I immediately assumed that she had been invited abroad by her mistress! Seriously! You said it yourself - she was crazy about this woman and you couldn't distract her and push your wishes for children as a cover, but these are not her wishes! Anyway, you acted stupid. And you are so different characters - she was screaming, you were waiting for her. You should have realized a long time ago!
19 ttchibisexy00 answered
see, you just want different things in life. happens. you will find the woman for yourself, with similar expectations, and you will help yourself to achieve common goals. the current connection is over.
20 kaykayxxxxx answered
Yes, author Alex looks like myself at this age. I am now 33 and I still have no children. BUT! When I was her age, I had been in a relationship for several years with a terrible friend, whom I loved very much. I was also a madwoman and a party girl and I wanted to live and dream. As the years passed, we were in a relationship with a dude, until on my 25th birthday he proposed to me! He had been talking to me about children for some time, and I was pretending to be distracted. I refused his marriage, but not categorically, but not at the moment, because I was not talking. I was only 25 years old, I had just graduated from university after 6 years of study, I wanted to start building a career, gain experience, earn money and then just think about having a child. And so my man and I completely broke up! He kept blabbering on about children and marriage, and I kept not wanting and thinking about where I was going and what I was going to do. Finally, on my 26th birthday, we broke up. A very difficult separation for both of us, but it happened. He is now married and has a child. And I don't, but I'm not sorry. I matured for children and marriage only 1-2 years ago (that is, when I was 31-32). Until then, I didn't even want to think, it's just that everyone's watch is ticking at a different time and everyone has different goals and ambitions. That's it. I don't think Alex will come back to you, she lives on it, that's it and accept it. And you have found a girl who dreams like you of a home and family and things will turn out exactly the way you want - I assure you! He is now married and has a child. And I don't, but I'm not sorry. I matured for children and marriage only 1-2 years ago (that is, when I was 31-32). Until then, I didn't even want to think, it's just that everyone's watch is ticking at a different time and everyone has different goals and ambitions. That's it. I don't think Alex will come back to you, she lives on it, that's it and accept it. And you have found a girl who dreams like you of a home and family and things will turn out exactly the way you want - I assure you! He is now married and has a child. And I don't, but I'm not sorry. I matured for children and marriage only 1-2 years ago (that is, when I was 31-32). Until then, I didn't even want to think, it's just that everyone's watch is ticking at a different time and everyone has different goals and ambitions. That's it. I don't think Alex will come back to you, she lives on it, that's it and accept it. And you have found a girl who dreams like you of a home and family and things will turn out exactly the way you want - I assure you!
21 jok_32 answered
don't bother, but run while it's time, believe me, it doesn't make sense
22 lia_sunnyland answered
Drop it while it's time. If she is still flying in the clouds at the age of 24 and waiting for a stable job and career, then she will not think about children until the age of 31-32, and if you want a really big family it will be difficult for her to give birth to 3 children at the age of 35. Not to mention that if she really is a careerist, then she will agree to 1 child, and by the end of the 30s you may want to try for a second, but for a large family you can easily forget not only with her, and generally with women who have this type of thinking. I myself am 30 years old and I had this thinking, only I am a man, and from the point of view of time I regret that I did not agree with children when I was 25-26 years old and I had this option with an ex-boyfriend. Yes, I will have children in the future, but I am definitely sorry that I have not become a parent anymore, because I, like you, feel ready and I want it.
23 thesuitedracer answered
Forget it is not worth it at 26 wait until 30 your life is still in front of you why now you want to fail it because of your children. It is better not to start a family before 30 because then it will be difficult to raise these children in time
24 luv2cumxo answered
There are almost no valuable women in Bulgaria who are mothers of your children! Not at 30, but at 40, they are not ready, because pubs, discos and hiking are their priority !!!
25 robertonessa answered
Number 27 - this is complete nonsense! I'm a 30-year-old woman and, believe me, discos have never been important or a priority to me. During my student years I went 15 times because of my friends. Back then, smoking in restaurants was not forbidden and he could barely breathe, it was disgusting. Women nowadays do not want to have children before the age of 30 in order to be able to ensure a decent standard in case the child's father decides to beat a jester and then the court awards alimony for the child in the range of BGN 80-100. the Bulgarian man learned that the woman is not his servant and stopped abandoning her with a small child when she is most vulnerable, then the Bulgarian woman will want to give birth before 30. Think about how many men help women look after the child? Most of my girlfriends who gave birth before the age of 27-28 did not receive a gram of help, except in the form of a throbbing in the chest that the man worked all day, brought money and therefore she should not even think of leaving his baby for 1 hour so she can go to the hairdresser (provided she has become like a kicker) basket in the head). I do not plan to give birth before 32-33, because I want to save money for rainy days. My husband is great, but how do I know if he won't leave me if I gain 15 kg during pregnancy and stop being so attractive? Valuable men who want to keep the relationship and do not give in to superficial reasoning are gone. That's why we women have become like that. I do not plan to give birth before 32-33, because I want to save money for rainy days. My husband is great, but how do I know if he won't leave me if I gain 15 kg during pregnancy and stop being so attractive? Valuable men who want to keep the relationship and do not give in to superficial reasoning are gone. That's why we women have become like that. I do not plan to give birth before 32-33, because I want to save money for rainy days. My husband is great, but how do I know if he won't leave me if I gain 15 kg during pregnancy and stop being so attractive? Valuable men who want to keep the relationship and do not give in to superficial reasoning are gone. That's why we women became like that.
26 Jeniffer answered
It is normal for someone who had a difficult childhood to be afraid and still not want children. I myself had a difficult childhood, although in most cases it was mental rather than physical abuse and as a result I can not trust 100% of any person, I still think that they have back thoughts and that they will hurt me. . This was a taboo on family harassment. Now it has happened that I fix the mess of the big ones, but I can't share everything I've been through with anyone, because I don't want them to feel sorry for me and I'm somewhat ashamed, although I realize that I'm not guilty of anything. So, if you love her, don't insist on children, she may want a shorter one, or you can adopt a child. Only one person who has experienced harassment can understand another with similar pain. Although I'm pretending to be strong and I'm overcoming everything, I have not subconsciously forgotten it and I remember everything. So, if you love her as she is, support her if she doesn't find another.
27 anallovinlusty answered
And I would react that way if my friend told me the fact that I had to give birth to a child ... well, he's not like you, but he also cares about his freedom and development. As women we don't owe you anything! You know? With absolutely nothing!
1 switgal answered
Well, what exactly do you expect - she is 24, not mature enough and does not feel ready. And you, instead of showing understanding for her desires and the way she feels, have "attacked" her on all fronts. After 1-2 years she could change her mind, at this age people change, they start to settle down. He is unlikely to return to you. I'm a woman and I had a similar relationship, but we were younger - me at 21 and he at 20 - and he had imagined that I had to drop out of university to have 2 children that he couldn't even support. I only imagined the misery we would live in, and ... Well, guess what - we parted with a bang. If he had waited a few years for both of us to finish our education, to have a stable income, I might have been inclined. I didn't want children then, but now I'm ready and my husband and I are counting to 1-2 years. to start experiments. I just want to show you the female point of view. The woman is more vulnerable and it is relatively easy to "make" a child for her, and the consequences for her are more severe than for the man. She completely changes her lifestyle and may become materially dependent on the man. Author, if you have a daughter, would you want someone to harass her and convince her to have children if she is not ready? Maybe not everything between you and "Alex" is over, but you have to accept that whatever happens, it's his fault. would anyone want to harass her and convince her to have children if she is not ready? Maybe not everything between you and "Alex" is over, but you have to accept that whatever happens, it's his fault. would anyone want to harass her and convince her to have children if she is not ready? Maybe not everything between you and "Alex" is over, but you have to accept that whatever happens, the blame for it will be yours.