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June 15, 2020
2 vetta_ answered
I think the situation is normal, you're just too young and you can't control your emotions. The moment I write this post, my husband has been asleep for a long time. He came home after a friendly meeting with his colleagues and told me all night who, what and how he said. He also shared his concerns at work and his ambitions... Normal! Finally, he ate and went to bed. There are days when I'm under fire. I'm going home - and who, if not with him? - I'm starting to discuss what kind of they've become during the day. If you think about it, author, we spend most of our lives at work. 8 hours a day we work, 8 hours we sleep and how much longer? 8 more, in which we need to fit everything - household chores, social commitments, relatives, loved ones, personal hygiene, romantic experiences and so on. It's not just your girlfriend.
I definitely distinguish myself from the opinion of number one. It's not a solution!
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June 15, 2020
3 hjjhhhuuuuu answered
I think you might not be attracted to her anymore. I'm driving more exhausting night shifts, but that doesn't bother me with my libido. I'm sorry, but that could be the reason. If not, get used to living with a workaholic. I don't think that's going to change.
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June 15, 2020
4 evelynmallorie answered
'I can't believe how it changes when it works like it's two identities. ' - that's a very good quality if it really does have it, but obviously can't properly apply it!? She has to be more serious in her job, and only there to use one self-worth, and after work to forget the work problems and invade her second identity, that is, become a cheerful girl. Such incarnations are described in many fairy tales and can not be considered hypocrisy at all, but it is very good quality! Advise your girl to leave the work problems at work, not bring them home, only then you will be happy!
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June 15, 2020
5 incognito_007 answered
1 gives bad advice. If at the same age I had been given an ultimatum to quit my job, I would have laughed at him. Accept that there are people for whom this is very important, that they are ambitious and want to prove themselves, to develop and work is the way to do it.
However, it is not good to go to extremes and put everything else behind (I know, and I have done it before). It could just be a period after which to keep quiet, or it could be a permanent state.
Author, try to set boundaries. The solution is mutual compromises, but if one side disagrees, things can't work out.
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June 15, 2020
6 kitty_horny98 answered
Well, that's life. Money doesn't grow on trees.
And can't you explain these things to her the way you explained them to us? Or are you just whining about her?
Otherwise, some people are like that by nature. Except for their work, they can't talk about anything else. Whether they're working on something low-skilled or highly qualified. I've also been very annoyed about this thing to some of my family, friends, girlfriends, but over time I realized that they were just like that, and the only option is to avoid communicating with them.
Nobody owes anyone anything.
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June 15, 2020
7 junocute answered
You have an egocentric one for a friend. It's not a problem, it's a bad character. Such people have no emotional intelligence, they look only at themselves emotionally and are cold, but if you like it like that, you put it, but the probing is not at work!
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June 16, 2020
8 nudehusband answered
There are such people - married to their work.
And the problem is not the work, but the degree of dedication of the person to it.
But nowhere at school does you learn how when you're done working hours, just pull the plug and turn it back on the next day when you go to work.
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June 16, 2020
9 queen__katty answered
Ahah, you're glad you're just talking about your job! I don't let you say anything, ignore every word you say and speak for itself. Like you said, Number 7, an egocentric, bad character. Run while you can.
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June 16, 2020
10 soft_soph answered
Number one, there's no way to quit your job, nowadays everyone has to work.
Number two, that's right, but that's exactly what we're not, and I'm listening to her, and she's not me. She keeps crossing me when I start to say something about me, about my work, about my friends, just not listening to her, even seeing her get nervous.
Number 3, I've thought about it and this, but when it's not working for a few days for example and it's the same as at the beginning, I don't want to go into details, but it behaves like it used to be. I'd feel if that was it, especially during sex, if you're a man, you know it immediately feels when a woman doesn't want you. For sex most of the way, she's an initiator, and I'm already afraid to be the initiator haha, not to say that's all I think about. Otherwise, her parents say that she thinks only about work and doesn't care about her, it's also ignoring them, it's not just about me.
Everyone's different, and I wish nothing would affect my libido, but I'm not. I've had quite a few periods without any libido for various reasons (sports-beastly loads), during these periods, however attractive girlfriends I've had, I haven't been attracted to, but it was for a period, then I'm the same again.
Number 4, we've talked about it, it's stopped thinking, and the moment he thinks of something or some email comes back, he starts thinking about the job. I wonder already, on working days it's one, on weekends, maybe quality is...
Number five, looking at it's a permanent state, I've told her don't mean me, but at least you don't hurt yourself, that's too much, so there's no 30 yet, but 40, 50...
Number six, I make money, too, but I'm not that emotionally involved with my job. I've been explaining it, and she's understanding me right now, and then she's under steam again, she's obviously like that.
Number 7, it wasn't like that before, in the period and without work it wasn't like that, even most of the time I define myself as the "colder" in the relationship, in the sense that I do not express my emotions.
Number 8, I hope in time he learns to pull the plug...
Otherwise, it soon surprised me with a holiday in Greece for 4 days and it was great, everything perfect, extra we had a good time, but when we got back the same job :D
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June 17, 2020
11 russian_babyy answered
Again from the author.
Too much ambition may be so affecting. She likes the boss and praises her, telling other people that she's the best employee, that she does a lot of work, etc. such things. When she's praised by her boss, she comes super smiling and radiant. But when they've had a lot of problems one day, and as soon as he starts talking to me, he's crying and hugging me and standing like this until he calms down, of course I'm getting really stupid. Not for anything else, but that it does a lot of damage like that and that I look at her sad.
It's probably more of a feminine trait, two acquaintances from the university were the same, one even on sedatives...
I'm worried that my girlfriend won't get there, her parents are also very worried about getting so much stress. I've been told a lot of times to talk to her, to change her mind that I was the only one listening. Well, he's not listening to me about it either...
He had a little bit of hormone problems soon, and he stopped following them so he wouldn't keep up with his work...
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June 17, 2020
12 caitlyn1_ answered
And one more thing, lad! We women, when we share our problems, do not expect the man to solve them. We just need to pour our emotional flow. If a friend stands across the street, he takes on this verbal tirade without putting into much engagement, and the other person gets a little too much. The problem with you is that you take everything personally. I'il give you a simple example from yesterday. It's Friday night. My husband had come to pick me up from work in the car, and I on the way began the monologue: "There is no media in this country; this is a direct war against us; they haven't translated my salary yet; to shorten my interview to 5,000 characters that I am not to speak to myself, was; and the editor-in-chief... this man has no connection with reality; may we not reflect the protests in Pernik; and my colleague told me that she had a personal job and shook my entire page; and then that chukundur didn't come to the meeting. In that spirit. My husband drives, listens to me and shuts up. At one point, however, he crouched in some direct, turned and we went out on the road again. And he said, "All right! We're going to dinner! And after a few glasses of wine and a full belly with livers of rustic and cream-caramel, the world already seemed different! And after I fell asleep in his arms, in the morning I flew straight to work and loved the whole world, a barbar with the editor-in-chief.
I do the same thing when I see him under pressure: yes, you're right, your colleagues are idiots; Now lie down, rest, I'il make you something delicious in the meantime.
Spare each other, young people! It's not easy for anyone. We work, we get tired, we get nervous, it's hard to make a living, especially today. You two, if you don't support each other, life will crush you. The questions you ask yourself, author, should be your friend's question. She works, and if she's from home, she's always having to make commitments, she's stressed, and you don't understand. Is what "serious intentions "to have to you? ! It's hell. Not a day of security! You don't know where or when the next penny will come from. You're always on the lookout, you're constantly negotiating with someone, you're always hoping, you're constantly lying to you, you're chasing deadlines... Well, get into the girl's situation!
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June 17, 2020
13 hypnoseelixir answered
And I am like this, for me my eight hours a day are inviolable, and I neither accept nor transmit. It's just a freelance experience that's very difficult in this country - there's no work, and if there is, you get paid a little to survive. And you're 24/7 at work if you work from home especially.
That's why most people without a secure income don't want to work such a job, and it's understandable. You invest your time all the time and your money (you still have to develop, expand, offer something new), you deteriorate your relationship with everyone, and the result is negligible. Lost job at all. For me personally, this is an additional pastime for boring hosts.
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June 18, 2020
14 emma_english answered
Beat her kick.
Published on:
June 18, 2020
1 tomiko_eros answered