It's not worth it. You've already given him a lot more chances than he deserved. You tried it, and it didn't work out.
You could say I went through something like this a few months ago. I don't think I'm going to be able to give enough meaning to my next words, i hope you listen. By no means, don't give him another chance. A man who cheated once will cheat again. He expects you to always be available to him when he needs you... Please run as far away from him as you can. You deserve someone to be sure of their feelings for you, not to call you when they want to, and to chase you when they don't need you anymore. Gather all the strength and pride you have and let it go.
Take the three-year struggle for the ex as a lesson. This guy's obviously not a reader... A man shouldn't be "too sorry" to have a family with you, and that must be his greatest wish.
Be glad you separated from him before you had children.
My advice is to completely cut it out of your life, block it, don't communicate with it. A man like that will only poison your life, ruin your relationship with other, more suitable men.
Leave it in the past where it belongs. :)
G29
You both forgot them and moved on, that's my advice to you. I'm going through something like this right now, I'm kind of in the role of your ex, but with this ex- i'm not an infantile kid who doesn't know what he wants, I haven't started a relationship with an ex, I have absolutely no doubts about my love and my desire to get together - it's not dictated by a bruised ego, but a completely conscious true love. Success!
The other advice I can give you is not to start a relationship immediately after one of the two partners has ended an old relationship. It takes time to move a person's spiritual spaces before you fully rush into a new relationship, you should have enough experience to know this thing given your years, but it seems that your experience is coming late.
Not! And that's it. From what I read firmly NO!
What are you even wondering? Leave him behind and give him no more chances. Move on with your life ahead with the other boy!
Option number 2 seems to me better, but what do I understand, and I'm not in the trenches to know the situation firsthand. I don't know about the meaning? What sense can you look for in modern relationships where there are no rules and everyone does what they want?
Get rid of that kid and move on with your life either alone or with this guy you're in touch with. Your wife is no longer, not a girl, and time goes, why waste it on someone who doesn't deserve and appreciates you?
You must be purely crazy to go back to that idiot who would eventually "feel sorry" for having a child with you.
Who hurt you when you have to be happiest.
Whoever's messing with you...
Yes, you either have to be crazy or masochistic to doom yourself to an unhappy life.
I don't think anyone can help you.
Stay away from this guy, you can see for yourself what he is. Forget about family, with the most to be a single mother. He doesn't care about you, but when he sees you with someone else, he sticks to you right away. Don't believe a word. This about the wedding says it just so you don't let him go, not that he wants it. He'il leave you at the first moment.
I've always been adamantly opposed to a relationship between a younger man and an older woman. If it's just for sex, go-and-comedy. But i don't think it's going to work. That's basically it. Specifically, in your case, this guy behaves like infantil-sam doesn't know what he wants. I wouldn't give him more chances, he got them and didn't deserve it. Make your life better, start a family, it's time for you. It's not a little eight years apart, the allure in today's life is many, the young and the fresh are like mushrooms...
I've always been adamantly opposed to a relationship between a younger man and an older woman. If it's just for sex, go-and-comedy. But i don't think it's going to work. That's basically it. Specifically, in your case, this guy behaves like infantil-sam doesn't know what he wants. I wouldn't give him more chances, he got them and didn't deserve it. Make your life better, start a family, it's time for you. It's not a little eight years apart, the allure in today's life is many, the young and the fresh are like mushrooms...
I understand that he doesn't want a wife and a child, he's quite young, but if he loved you, he wouldn't want to go out and sleep with others, and you'd just wait for you to move in together, travel, go out without responsibilities, have time to enjoy each other. He's not enough that he writes with others, he cheats on you, you humiliate you, and you're thinking about family with him? Get a little tight and be with a man who loves and respects you. If you can hit on seven years younger, then you're a hot chick, what do you do with sissies?
I don't know what second chance you're talking about, since I've lost the number of chances you've given myself.
Categorically, DO NOT give a chance. Stay with the other MAN (what kind of guys are you talking about? ) and time will tell.
What's the point of the past three years? What's the point of wasting more time?
g30
I don't believe it. It's a circus!
This is not a second chance, and there is no point in believing and trying. Remember, it's okay to give a second chance, but that's it, then it's meaningless. Doing the same thing repeatedly, every time with a new hope that the situation will improve, it's stupid, and I don't think you're stupid.
Move on! Three years is nothing! Make sure the next 30 are happy! Not in vain have they said that love is measured by what a person is willing to give up for the one he loves. Looks like your ex is ready to give up on you. From now on, you don't know how many more times you're going to get to a breakup while you really have a real family... If you pick your ex, I think you're going to do the wrong thing and you're going to regret it. One life you live - don't waste it on people who don't deserve you. Listen to your intuition. A relationship without trust is labor of the wind! You're going to be okay! Head up and boldly forward with the other.
Thank you for your time to share your thoughts. You've only confirmed my inner conviction. I don't want someone who's going to feel sorry for for it. I'm going to distance myself from him and leave him in the past.
He's playing with you. He's been younger than you for eight years. When she's 35, she'il be able to reunite with someone 25 years old and you're 43 years old, that's a serious age for a woman if she doesn't have children by then. I don't think he's going to be up for the next 10 years for kids! But it's your choice. You know best.
You've been too much of a chance.
Don't give him a second chance in the world!
Chance is given once, a maximum of twice depends on the person. You gave him countless chances that he didn't take advantage of. He already knows he can spin you, he's just a polygamous and he's not going to change!! You're a woman, and you have to respect yourself, and he's kind of making fun of you :) stay with the other one, you'il get used to it and love him, you'il have a normal relationship, I hope.
If a man has dignity, in infidelity, he lifts his hammer, takes some time until his grief passes and moves on. I don't know a chiwek who can forgive infidelity and then things have ended well. You'il always see one traitor. Why do you need this movie?
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