Hi For the first time in my life, I resort to sharing in a forum. I always thought that important decisions in life should be made by themselves. But here I am, confused, crushed, indecisive... I had a three-year relationship with a boy eight years younger than me. When we started seeing each other, he was 21 and had just split up with his girlfriend. I had barely escaped a very toxic relationship. We fell in love - me first, him after a while. After about six months, we split up for a pretty stupid reason. I tried to get back together, but he said he didn't love me enough. We got back together anyway, but she started writing to the ex who still loved him. I asked him to stop, he didn't stop right away, and when I gave him an ultimatum. Before long, we went abroad together. At first, it was like a fresh start for both of them. He was talking about how we were going to have a baby and we'd settle down. Before long, however, he changed his mind, he wasn't ready, he was early, and so on. We split up again, he said he didn't like enough and wasn't ready for the next step. But the breakup had I engenders her because I was fed up with the constant sighting of others, trying to chat, digging into various Facebook profiles, etc. So didn't want to stop his friendship with the ex. But... we got back together and it was magical. We've never been happier and in love. So until our vacation in Bulgaria, where he cheated on me with his ex. When we arrived, she was waiting for him out front. Something flickered him, and so on. You didn't tell me anything about her. I found out when we got back. He was going to go back to Bulgaria to be with her (like he wanted me to wait for him). He wouldn't be with her for more than five or six months. The problem was that he had a very strong drive. He wanted to live, he wanted us to split up last time. She never returned to Bulgaria because she dumped him on Facebook. I started dating someone else. He was going crazy, he was giving me trouble, but he didn't want us to get back together. He was going to sleep with a few women, and then he'd "come for me." Of course, piccolo didn't sleep. I stopped seeing the other guy because he started talking to me about how he wanted to get back together, and I still have feelings... But of course, the moment I was alone, she backed away. He knew I wanted a family, and he wasn't ready to give it to me. Soon, however, I renewed my relationship with the other boy (and he is terribly in love and wants to give me everything, I also have feelings for him). When the freak in question found out I was seeing the other guy, he showed up again and said he wanted another chance. He wanted us to try again, next year, to get married. He was afraid to have children, but he would "feel sorry for himself" by a year or two and so on. I'm very confused now. Should I give him another chance? The point is, I don't know how sincere he is, nine months nothing concrete did. I don't believe anything's changed in two days. And the other one didn't stop fighting for me, he went through the hell of this love triangle. But if I throw the ex away now, what's the point of the last three years, that's why I fought. My inner voice says he's not sincere. The truth is, I made a definite decision to go on with the other boy. But now I'm at a crossroads... I know it seems like a long story, but I've saved a lot of details... I'm asking for your opinion. I'm terribly confused.
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athickone8 answered · June 24, 2020
It's not worth it. You've already given him a lot more chances than he deserved. You tried it, and it didn't work out.
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almosttaken answered · June 24, 2020
You could say I went through something like this a few months ago. I don't think I'm going to be able to give enough meaning to my next words, i hope you listen. By no means, don't give him another chance. A man who cheated once will cheat again. He expects you to always be available to him when he needs you... Please run as far away from him as you can. You deserve someone to be sure of their feelings for you, not to call you when they want to, and to chase you when they don't need you anymore. Gather all the strength and pride you have and let it go.
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enveeluna answered · June 24, 2020
Take the three-year struggle for the ex as a lesson. This guy's obviously not a reader... A man shouldn't be "too sorry" to have a family with you, and that must be his greatest wish.
Be glad you separated from him before you had children.
My advice is to completely cut it out of your life, block it, don't communicate with it. A man like that will only poison your life, ruin your relationship with other, more suitable men.
Leave it in the past where it belongs. :)
G29
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philipgermany99 answered · June 24, 2020
You both forgot them and moved on, that's my advice to you. I'm going through something like this right now, I'm kind of in the role of your ex, but with this ex- i'm not an infantile kid who doesn't know what he wants, I haven't started a relationship with an ex, I have absolutely no doubts about my love and my desire to get together - it's not dictated by a bruised ego, but a completely conscious true love. Success!
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charlottesky69 answered · June 24, 2020
The other advice I can give you is not to start a relationship immediately after one of the two partners has ended an old relationship. It takes time to move a person's spiritual spaces before you fully rush into a new relationship, you should have enough experience to know this thing given your years, but it seems that your experience is coming late.
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babygirl29xo answered · June 24, 2020
Not! And that's it. From what I read firmly NO!
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verybustygoddess answered · June 25, 2020
What are you even wondering? Leave him behind and give him no more chances. Move on with your life ahead with the other boy!
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varrva answered · June 25, 2020
Option number 2 seems to me better, but what do I understand, and I'm not in the trenches to know the situation firsthand. I don't know about the meaning? What sense can you look for in modern relationships where there are no rules and everyone does what they want?
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vera_velvet answered · June 25, 2020
Get rid of that kid and move on with your life either alone or with this guy you're in touch with. Your wife is no longer, not a girl, and time goes, why waste it on someone who doesn't deserve and appreciates you?
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mirajay0746 answered · June 26, 2020
You must be purely crazy to go back to that idiot who would eventually "feel sorry" for having a child with you.
Who hurt you when you have to be happiest.
Whoever's messing with you...
Yes, you either have to be crazy or masochistic to doom yourself to an unhappy life.
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kiera_lee_x answered · June 27, 2020
I don't think anyone can help you.
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hotboyace answered · June 27, 2020
Stay away from this guy, you can see for yourself what he is. Forget about family, with the most to be a single mother. He doesn't care about you, but when he sees you with someone else, he sticks to you right away. Don't believe a word. This about the wedding says it just so you don't let him go, not that he wants it. He'il leave you at the first moment.
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nicoleandphilip answered · June 27, 2020
I've always been adamantly opposed to a relationship between a younger man and an older woman. If it's just for sex, go-and-comedy. But i don't think it's going to work. That's basically it. Specifically, in your case, this guy behaves like infantil-sam doesn't know what he wants. I wouldn't give him more chances, he got them and didn't deserve it. Make your life better, start a family, it's time for you. It's not a little eight years apart, the allure in today's life is many, the young and the fresh are like mushrooms...
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cumtaster1601 answered · June 28, 2020
I've always been adamantly opposed to a relationship between a younger man and an older woman. If it's just for sex, go-and-comedy. But i don't think it's going to work. That's basically it. Specifically, in your case, this guy behaves like infantil-sam doesn't know what he wants. I wouldn't give him more chances, he got them and didn't deserve it. Make your life better, start a family, it's time for you. It's not a little eight years apart, the allure in today's life is many, the young and the fresh are like mushrooms...
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kicatt25 answered · June 28, 2020
I understand that he doesn't want a wife and a child, he's quite young, but if he loved you, he wouldn't want to go out and sleep with others, and you'd just wait for you to move in together, travel, go out without responsibilities, have time to enjoy each other. He's not enough that he writes with others, he cheats on you, you humiliate you, and you're thinking about family with him? Get a little tight and be with a man who loves and respects you. If you can hit on seven years younger, then you're a hot chick, what do you do with sissies?
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sexyalice1997 answered · June 28, 2020
I don't know what second chance you're talking about, since I've lost the number of chances you've given myself.
Categorically, DO NOT give a chance. Stay with the other MAN (what kind of guys are you talking about? ) and time will tell.
What's the point of the past three years? What's the point of wasting more time?
g30
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manelykfox answered · June 28, 2020
I don't believe it. It's a circus!
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holly_lucky answered · June 29, 2020
This is not a second chance, and there is no point in believing and trying. Remember, it's okay to give a second chance, but that's it, then it's meaningless. Doing the same thing repeatedly, every time with a new hope that the situation will improve, it's stupid, and I don't think you're stupid.
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divinepleasuree answered · June 29, 2020
Move on! Three years is nothing! Make sure the next 30 are happy! Not in vain have they said that love is measured by what a person is willing to give up for the one he loves. Looks like your ex is ready to give up on you. From now on, you don't know how many more times you're going to get to a breakup while you really have a real family... If you pick your ex, I think you're going to do the wrong thing and you're going to regret it. One life you live - don't waste it on people who don't deserve you. Listen to your intuition. A relationship without trust is labor of the wind! You're going to be okay! Head up and boldly forward with the other.
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french_candies_ answered · June 29, 2020
Thank you for your time to share your thoughts. You've only confirmed my inner conviction. I don't want someone who's going to feel sorry for for it. I'm going to distance myself from him and leave him in the past.
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its_sol answered · June 29, 2020
He's playing with you. He's been younger than you for eight years. When she's 35, she'il be able to reunite with someone 25 years old and you're 43 years old, that's a serious age for a woman if she doesn't have children by then. I don't think he's going to be up for the next 10 years for kids! But it's your choice. You know best.
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sweetttiinna answered · June 29, 2020
You've been too much of a chance.
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soccercollegegirl answered · June 30, 2020
Don't give him a second chance in the world!
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_hot_little_angel_ answered · June 30, 2020
Chance is given once, a maximum of twice depends on the person. You gave him countless chances that he didn't take advantage of. He already knows he can spin you, he's just a polygamous and he's not going to change!! You're a woman, and you have to respect yourself, and he's kind of making fun of you :) stay with the other one, you'il get used to it and love him, you'il have a normal relationship, I hope.
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kim_starx answered · June 30, 2020
If a man has dignity, in infidelity, he lifts his hammer, takes some time until his grief passes and moves on. I don't know a chiwek who can forgive infidelity and then things have ended well. You'il always see one traitor. Why do you need this movie?